I-1 - Iingxaki zoNcedo zoNgcoliseko: Fumana iFayile eFanelekileyo yoxinzelelo olujongene nalo
"Ndizama ________ ukuphelisa uxinzelelo, kodwa aluzange lusebenze kum." Njengomnye unceda abantu ukulawula uxinzelelo, andibabuzanga abantu xa bethetha oku, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ndibuza ngeemeko xa ubuchule obubhekiselwe kuyo. Ndiye ndivame ukuva abantu bathi ezinye iinkqubo zokuncedisa uxinzelelo zingabasebenzi , kwaye abanye basebenze kakuhle, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ubuchule obungabonakali ukusebenzela umntu othile abuyizizathu zezizathu ezibini: nokuba ngaba umdlalo ohluphekileyo wobuntu bomntu, okanye imeko . Umzekelo, ukuphefumula kungaphumelela ekupheliseni uxinzelelo, kodwa kungenokuba yinkqubo enamandla ngokwaneleyo ukuba ibe yindlela esetyenziswayo yonyango lomntu onenkathalo yokukhathalela , uxinzelelo lomsebenzi ongapheliyo , okanye u-anther uhlobo lwengcinezelo engapheliyo. Ukucamngca kuthatha inzuzo emangalisayo jikelele, kodwa kunokuba kunzima abantu abathile kwezinye iimeko, njengabantu abagqibeleleyo abaziva bexakekile kwaye bafuna ukuzithoba ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kokufunda umkhondo omtsha. (Ukucamngca kungafundwa lula, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukho iindlela ezilula zokucinezela ukukhulula xa umntu sele eziva ephazamiseke.)
Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo zokunciphisa uxinzelelo lokuba ngamanye amaxesha ukufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo kubuntu bakho kunye nemeko inokubonakala ibangele. Ingaba unamaqhinga ambalwa asebenzayo kwaye ufuna ukufaka enye okanye ezimbini, okanye kufuneka ulungise indlela yakho yokujongana noxinzelelo kwaye udale inkqubo entsha, uludwe olulandelayo lunokunceda. Ezi ndlela zoxinzelelo zoxinzelelo ziqokelelwe ngokwemiqathango eyahlukeneyo enokuyijonga xa usenza isigqibo malunga nendlela yokuphatha kakuhle uxinzelelo lwakho. Ukuba unayo nayiphi intandokazi ongayiboni apha apha, sebenzisa ikhonkco ngasezantsi ukuze wabelane ngeendlela zakho zokuphucula uxinzelelo kunye nendlela ozisebenzisa ngayo.
2 - Ngokukhawuleza Hamba Kuhambo Oluxinayo
Uxinzelelo olunzulu luhlobo loxinzelelo olukugxothayo. Olu hlobo loxinzelelo olwenzeka ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokungaqhelekanga kwaye aluhlali ixesha elide, kodwa ludinga impendulo kwaye lugubungele ngokukodwa, njengengxabano nomntu ebomini bakho, okanye uvavanyo ongekho uzive ulungele ngokwaneleyo. Ukuxinezeleka okukodwa akuyona into eyonakalisa indlela yokukhathazeka okungapheliyo, kuba unako ukubuyisela kuyo ngaphandle kwefuthe elide elide elibekwe kulo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awukwazi ukuzinqanda emva kwesiganeko sokuxinzezeleka, unakho ukugxininiswa ngokungapheliyo, kwaye oku kungenza imiphumo emibi. Funda ukuphumula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uxinzelelo lwakho luya kudlula ngakumbi lula. Ukuxinwa okuxininisekile kunokukunceda ukuba uphumule kwaye ngokukhawuleza uphinde uphumelele kwixinzelelo olunzima.
3 - Inkxalabo engapheliyo: Yazi indlela yokujongana nayo
Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo luhlobo loxinzelelo olwenzeka rhoqo rhoqo. Olu hlobo loxinzelelo lunokushiya uziva unxweme, kwaye lunokubangela ukutshatyalaliswa ukuba alulawulwa kakuhle. Oku kungenxa yokuba, xa impendulo yokuxinezeleka iqhubekile kwaye umzimba ungabuyiselwa kwimeko ekhululekile ngaphambi kokuba uhlalutyo olulandelayo luhlasele, umzimba unokuhlala uphazamiseka ngonaphakade. Oku kunokukhokelela kwimicimbi yempilo ejongene nokuxinzezeleka, kuquka izifo zesifo senhliziyo, imiba yesisu, ukuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka kunye nezinye iimeko. (Nolu uluhlu lweengxaki zempilo ezinxulumene noxinzelelo.) Kungenxa yoko kubalulekile ukubamba uxinzelelo olungapheliyo. Ukulawula olu hlobo loxinzelelo lufuna indlela yokudibanisa, kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwexesha elifutshane (njengalezo zokunyamezela ngokukhawuleza), kunye neminye imikhuba yoxinzelelo yoxinzelelo lwexesha elide elinciphisa uxinzelelo olubanzi . ( Iindlela zobuchule ezahlukeneyo zokuxhatshazwa kwemizwelo kunye neendlela zokuxilongwa ngokubhekiselele kwisisombululo zibaluleke kakhulu.) Ezi zinto zilandelayo ziyakwenza uncedo lokulawula uxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo olungathi uzivelele kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ebomini bakho.
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4 - Ukunyaniseka Kwengqondo: UkuLawula Ngaphambi kokuba Kulawulwe
Intlungu yokuxinezeleka kwengqondo inokuba nzima ngakumbi kunezinye iintlobo zengcinezelo. Ngokomzekelo, uxinzelelo olusuka kubuhlobo obunxamnye nalo lubangela ukuphendula okungaphezulu komzimba kunye nokuqina komelele kunokuba uxinzelelo olubangelwa ukuxakeka emsebenzini. Ukuxhalabisa, ukuvuthwa, umsindo, kunye nezinye iimpendulo ezinamandla zengcinezelo, zonke zinokuthatha umonakalo, kwaye zinegalelo kumanqanaba angaphezu koxinzelelo xa ungaqapheli indlela yokunciphisa ukuhla kwamanzi kwaye uzinyame ngamandla. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukukwazi ukulawula uxinzelelo lwengqondo kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo. Izicwangciso ezikunceda ukuba usebenze, udibanise, kwaye ukomeleze ukunyamezela kwengcinezelo yengqondo kunokusebenza kakuhle, kwaye iindlela ezahlukeneyo zingasebenza kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo lwengqondo .
5 - Ukutshisa: Phindela Kwi-Self Self
Ukutshiswa ngumphumo wolu xinzelelo olungapheliyo lweemeko eziyeke abantu bazive bengenamandla ebomini babo. Ezinye izimo zomsebenzi zingenza umngcipheko omkhulu wokutshatyalaliswa, kungabandakanyi izinga eliphakamileyo lemfuno, kodwa kunye nokulindela okungaqondakali, ukungabikho kwemvume yokuphumelela, kunye nenqanaba eliphezulu lomngcipheko wemiphumo emibi xa kwenziwa iimpazamo. (Ngaba umsebenzi wakho unokubeka engozini yokutshatyalaliswa komsebenzi ? Thatha umbuzo wokutshatyalaliswa komsebenzi ukufumanisa!) Xa ufikelela kwindawo yokutshiswa , kunzima ukugcina isisiseko sokusebenza nokufezekisa oko kufuneka ukufezekisa, kwaye unokuziva engapheliyo. Ukongezelela kwizicwangciso ezisebenza kakuhle ngenxa yengcinezelo engapheliyo nokuxinezeleka kwengqondo, ezi zicwangciso zilandelayo zinokukunceda ukuba ubuye kwiimeko zokutshisa-okanye ukukhusela ngokupheleleyo.