Singazilungiselela ukuxinezeleka ngeendlela zokwenza izinto, singakwazi ukuphelisa iingcinezelo ebomini bethu xa kunokwenzeka, kwaye siyakwazi ukuzondla ngenkxaso yentlalo - simele senze ezi zinto, ngokwenene, njengoko zinokusinceda sikwazi ukuzinza ukunyamezela kwaye siphucule impilo yethu yomzimba kunye nemvakalelo ngexesha elide. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha siziva sisicinezelekile nangona senze imizamo engcono kakhulu, kwaye ngamaxesha amaninzi, ukugcina ukuhlaziywa ngokuxinzeleleka kunokuba ngumzila okhuseleyo wokuzikhusela.
Ukuhlakulela ukuhlaziywa ngemingeni yobomi yindlela efanelekileyo yokubhekana nokukwazi ukukhokelela kwimpilo engcono kunye nokulawulwa kwengcinezelo elula. Kungenxa yokuba, ngaphandle kweenzuzo zezempilo zokuhleka (ezona zininzi kwaye zibalulekileyo), ukuba neengcamango ezinobomi ngobunzima kunokubonelela indlela yokubambisana nabanye, jonga izinto ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ulungelelanise amava akho kwaye ugcine izinto ukuvela kubonakale kunzima kakhulu okanye kuyingozi. Ukuphuhliswa kakuhle, ukuhleka kwezinto ezihlekisayo kunokugcina abantu kunye nolwalamano oluqinileyo. Nantsi indlela yokuhlakulela eyakho:
Ubunzima: Kulula
Ixesha elifunekayo: Ukuqhubeka
Nantsi indlela:
- Qalisa NgeSmile.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ukumomotheka ebusweni bakho kunokukhulula i-endorphins, eyenza uzive ungcono, kwaye inokukukhokelela ekubeni uzive unonwabo ngakumbi (kunokuba ukhangele ulonwabo). Nokuba ukuba ukumamotheka kuyinyumba , izibonelelo ozifumanayo ziyinyani! Kwakhona, ukunyakaza okukhohlisayo kukhokelela ngokukhawuleza kunokwenene. Ukuba unako ukubeka ukumncinca ebusweni bakho, ukuhleka kuza kuza lula, kwaye uxinzelelo luya kuncibilika ngokulula.
- Thatha Isinyathelo Emuva.
Xa uphakathi kwimeko enzima, kunokubonakala kunzima. Ukuba uzama ukujonga imeko yakho njengomlindi, kuya kuba lula ukuqonda into ehlekisayo. Ngokomzekelo, uLucy Ricardo (we-TV classic, Ndiyamthanda uLucy) akanakufumananga nto ehlekisayo ekungeneni kwifriji, elwa nomnye umvini-i-squasher kwisidiliya, okanye utywala ngelixa edlala i-tv yamashishini eVitamedaveggemin , kodwa ukubukela ezi ziganeko kunokuba yiziqholo. Ukuzama ukubona imeko yakho yangoku ngokusebenzisa i-lens entsha iyaziwa njenge- reframing , kwaye isebenza ! (Funda ngokubanzi malunga nendlela yokwenza umsebenzi wokuhlaziya .) Ngamanye amaxesha ukucinga ukuba uza kujonga kwi-sitcom kunokuba yintoni imfihlelo eyimfihlelo yokufumana ukuhleka kwimeko.
- Ixabiso elongezelelweyo.
Ukuba imeko yakho ibonakala iphazamisekile, qaphela ukuhleka kwezinto ezingahle kwenzeke ngokukrakra kwaye kukucaphukisa. Kwiingcamango zakho, thabatha loo mzekelo kwixesha eligqithiseleyo elona lide lide lide ufumane ukuxhamla. Umzekelo, xa ulinde kumgama omude kwivenkile, unokucinga ukuba iiyure zidlule, emva kweentsuku, ukujonga ngokwakho ukuvuma ukutyelelwa kwabathandekayo ukusuka kwikhaya lakho elitsha kule ndlela emide kakhulu, ubambe amaqela omntwana wakho wokuzalwa iindawo ezisixhenxe ukuze ube khona ukuze ujabulele ... ufumana umfanekiso. - Yiba ne-Funny Buddy.
Fumana umhlobo onokuhleka naye, kwaye uvumele ulwalamano lusebenze kuwe! Unokwabelana ngokubandezeleka kwakho kwaye uhlekise ngabo kwinkqubo. Nangona xa umhlobo wakho engekho, unokwenza umonakalo wakho kwiimeko ezimnyama ngokucinga malunga nokubuyisela okuza kuza emva koko. - Yenza Umdlalo.
Unokuba nomncintiswano omkhulu kumphathi wakho kunye nabahlobo bakho, okanye uzame ukubala ukuba ziphi izihlandlo ezifanayo ezinokuthi zenzeke ngenye imini. ("Ndagqitywa kwimizila engama-7 namhlanje-ndiphantse kufikelela kwi-10!") Oku kusebenza kakuhle kwiimeko ezixeliweyo okanye eziphindaphindiweyo ezingakwazi ukulawula; unokuqala ukubaluleka ngendlela yabo ekhethekileyo endaweni yokubathukuthelisa.
- Ukubukela Imiboniso Yobuncwane namaFilimu.
Enye yezinto ezibangela ukuba ukuthandwa kwimizekelo efana neNtsapho Yomhla okanye amafilimu afana noSuku lweFerris Bueller lwe-Off Off kukuba bathatha iimeko apho abantu abaninzi bafumana ukuphazamiseka kwaye baphoxise ngakumbi, bebonisa ukuba konke okusemandleni. Xa uqaphela ukuba ezinye iimeko ezixhalabisayo eziqhelekileyo zihlekisayo, zinokukunceda uzinyamezele-nangona ukuba uyamomotheka okanye uyamangalisa. - Funda iincwadi eziMnandi.
Funda iincwadana ezihlekisayo ezifana neDave Barry okanye uDavid Sedaris , bobabini abakwazi ukuthatha iimeko, ezixhalabisayo ukuba zithukuthele baze bafumane ihlazi-nganye ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Kwakhona kunconywa ukuba iindaba ezihlekisayo kwi-Reader's Digest, kunye neencwadi zakudala zentlabathi njengeJerry Seinfeld yeSeinLanguage . Ukufunda abanye ukuhlaziya ngokubomi ngokubomi kunokukunceda ufumane indlela yakho yokubona ihlabathi ngokukhanya okuhlukile.
- Joyina amaKlabhu aMnandi.
Kwiminyaka edlulileyo, xa i-Oprah yayinomboniso kunethungelwano, wenza iqela kwi-Yoga ehlekisayo eyandibuza, kwaye ndandiphanda iklabhu yedwa, ndiyifumana indawo eyingozi ukuba nandipheke kakuhle. Ingaba uthabatha uhleko okanye uhleka ngokukhawuleza konke, ukuthatha inxaxheba ekusebenziseni i-yoga yokuhleka kunye namanye amahlaya-abathathi-nxaxheba bangaba yindlela ephumelelayo yokubuyela emzimbeni wokufumana ezinye izigulane ngosuku lwakho . - Ukufumana abahlobo bakho ngokuhleka ngeyona ndlela yindlela enhle kakhulu yokwenza ukuhleka kufike lula. Bangakunceda ufumane uhleko ebomini, kwaye unokubanceda. Yabelana ngeengcamango zakho, wabelane ngamahlaya akho, kwaye wabelane ngale nqaku - uya kuba uhleka ngexesha!