1 - Ukufumana ibhalansi - Kubaluleke kakhulu kwabasetyhini (kunye namadoda!)
Njengoko uhlalutye indlela ochitha ngayo imali yakho, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali lubalulekile xa ukhetha indlela yokuchitha ixesha lakho. Oku kungabonakala kungekho-brainer, kodwa abaninzi bethu banenkathazo ngokuthi 'hayi' xa umntu ecela ukuba senze ixesha lethu kwisizathu esifanelekileyo. Zonke ezi zibophelelo ezifanelekileyo zidibanisa ukungabikho kokulinganisela kunye nokuxinzeleleka kwengcinezelo kwabasetyhini. Kungaba nzima ngakumbi ukuthetha ngokungahambisani nezibophelelo ezinceda abanye, abathetha kwiinjongo zethu, okanye oko kunokusifumana ngaphambili kwezinye iindawo. Enyanisweni, ezo zinto zihlala zizibophelelo esifanele sizixelele ukuba u-ewe, kodwa ezininzi kwezi zibophelelo zingabangela ukuxinzelela koxinzelelo. Ezi zilandelayo zicwangciso ezinokusetyenziswa kwabasetyhini ukufumana ibhalansi, ukudibanisa iishedyuli zabo, nokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla . (Qaphela: Eli nqaku lijoliswe ngakumbi kubafazi kuba bavame ukugqithisa indima engaphezulu, kodwa amadoda angayifumana le nqaku iyanceda.)
2 - De-Clutter Ubomi Bakho
Ngaba ubonile loo ntengiso yekhaya ibonisa apho ikhupha khona yonke i-clutter egumbini, ize iphinde ilungelelanise igumbi ngokubuyisa kuphela ezo zinto zibalulekile kwintlalo yabaninikhaya? Unokusebenzisa inkqubo efanayo ukulungisa kwakhona ubomi bakho. Ngengqondo yakho, cima i-clutter kwishedyuli yakho uze ucinge ukuba akukho nto. Emva koko buyela kuphela izinto ezibalulekileyo ekusindisweni kwakho - umsebenzi wakho nokulala, umzekelo. Emva koko balethe ezinye izinto kwakhona kwishedyuli yakho kwi-oda yazo ebaluleke kakhulu, ukongeza izinto ezintsha ezibalulekileyo ngokunjalo (njengexesha lokuzivocavoca ), nokushiya izinto ezikugxothayo okanye ukuxinezela, njengezibophelelo ongazikhetha ukuzenza . Lo msebenzi ungakunika ingcamango enkulu yezinto ezinikwayo ebomini bakho, kwaye yiziphi izinto onokufuna ukuzinqumla. (Qaphela: Ezinye iziqwenga ezithandwayo ze-'truth clutter 'ziquka imibukiso emininzi yethelevishini, ixesha elichithwe nabantu abakukhuphayo, ixesha elichithwe ukwenza imisebenzi enokuthi ihlelwe.)
3 - Khumbula ii-Off-Offs
Ngokuqhelekileyo xa sinikwe izicelo ngexesha lethu, sicinga malunga nokuba ngaba singakwazi ukwenza lo msebenzi omtsha kwishedyuli yethu esele iqulethe, nokuba ingafanelekile. Oku kuvame ukukhokelela kwishedyuli ephakamileyo. Xa unquma ukuba ungathini ewe kwaye akukho, ndiyifumana into enceda kakhulu ukuba ndikhumbule ukuba yonke into ethi 'ayi' ibe 'yee' nakwezinye izinto, nangona kunjalo. Ukuba utsho u-ewe ukuthatha isikhundla kwi-PTA, oko kuthetha ixesha elincinane lokuzilolonga , ukucamngca , ixesha kunye nabantwana bakho, okanye enye into ebaluleke kakhulu. Mhlawumbi ufanelekile, mhlawumbi akunjalo, okanye mhlawumbi unokunqumla into ethile kwishedyuli yakho. Kodwa, ukubheka ukuzinikela ngokutsha njengento enye edinga ukukhutshwa (nokuba yinto ethile) ingenza ukuba kube lula ukufumana imali.
4 - I-Delegate njengePro
Abaphathi abafanelekileyo bayazi ukubaluleka kokunikezela uxanduva ngokubambisa abantu abaneemisebenzi abanokwenza kakuhle, ukongeza isikhuthazo, nokuyeka ukuhamba. Noko ke, abaninzi abafazi banokubanjwa 'Xa ndifuna ukuba kwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo, kuya kufuneka ndiyenze ngokwayo' kwaye ndizenzele zonke izinto . Ungalibali ukuba abanye abantu eofisini banakho ukuphatha (okanye bancede) kwezinye iiprojekthi ozenzayo, kwaye ngokwenene bangathanda ukwenza njalo. Abantwana banokuba banako ukwenza imisebenzi yasemakhaya kunokuba ubanike i-credit, kwaye banokuziqhenya ngokwenza imisebenzi enjalo xa bekhuthazwa ngokufanelekileyo. Nangona amaninzi amadoda angasetyenziselwa ngokufanelekileyo ngaphezu kokuba bahlala bekhona. (Olunye uphando lufumene ukuba ulwahluko ophezulu phakathi kwabantwana ababandakanyeka ngononophelo lwabantwana kunye nabangenalo isimo sengqondo sikamama. Ukukhuthaza abantwana bafumene inxaxheba kunye nabantwana abancedisayo!) Ukuqeshisa uncedo - abanini bezindlu, abalimi, abancedisayo kunye nezinto ezinjalo-zibalwa njengezothunywa, kwaye zinokuba luncedo kakhulu kwaye zithengele imali. Ngexesha elizayo xa uvakalelwa kukuba wenza okuninzi, jonga ngapha kwaye ubone ukuba unokufumana uncedo.
5 - Yenza iJob efanelekileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha izinto kufuneka zenziwe ngokuchanekileyo nangokugqibeleleyo, kodwa ngokuthe rhoqo, azinjalo. Nangona iintlobo zikaMarta Stewart zingakhawuleza ukubonisa ukuba izinto ezizodwa ziphi xa uhamba ngeyona miyure eyongezelelweyo, kwaye ingqalelo njani inkcazelo eyenza yonke imohluko, olu hlobo lokucinga lungakhokelela ekupheleleni, ukuxinezeleka kunye nokungabikho kokulinganisela. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba sele uxakeke kakhulu, unokuzuza ngokwenene ekunikezeni ikhefu. Thatha amancinci, ukuba umphumo wokugqibela usanelisekile. (Ngaba iindwendwe zakho ziya kukhathalela ukuba usebenzisa i-mop yendabuko phantsi, okanye uhamba ngokukhawuleza nge-Swiffer? Awuyi kugcina i-cupcake ithengiwe njengento enkulu kwiqela leofisi okanye ipikiniki yeklasi?) Phila ngo-80- Ulawulo lwama-20, apho ufumanisa i-20% yomsebenzi ovelisa i-80% yeziphumo, kwaye ugxininise oko kubalulekile, uvumele ukuphumla xa kudingekile. Khumbula, ngamanye amaxesha ugxile ekufezekeni akubalulekanga njengoko ugxininise kwijubane, ngokukodwa xa ukhangela ibhalansi kwishedyuli yakho.
6 - Hlalani Kulo Ngoku, Kodwa Gcina Ikusasa Ngengqondo
Ngaba unesicwangciso sekamva? Uninzi lwamashishini anenjongo yonyaka owodwa, icebo leminyaka emi-5, kunye nesicwangciso seminyaka eli-10, kwaye zicwangcise imisebenzi yazo yemihla ngemihla kwezinye iinjongo. Oku kunokunceda nabasetyhini. Anditsho ukuba yonke into oyenzayo ifuna ukuba yinxalenye yesicwangciso esiphezulu sokuphila, kodwa olu hlobo lokucinga ngokubanzi lunokukunceda ukugcina ukulinganisela kunye nembono. Ngokomzekelo, xa ukhetha ukuba usebenzise okanye ubukele umabonwakude, ukucinga malunga neenzuzo zangexesha elide eziza kubakho kwenza kube lula ukunqumla umboniso wokuzonwabisa ngokufanelekileyo. Yomibini imisebenzi inokunciphisa uxinzelelo, kodwa enye inika isandla kwisicwangciso esiphezulu sempilo engcono, ngelixa elinye lingenzi. Jonga apho ungasisebenzisa khona ukufana kwezigqibo zakho kwaye ufumane ukulinganisela ebomini bakho.
7 - Hlala uhleli
Ukuzicwangcisa kubalulekile ekufumaneni umlinganiselo wobomi. Ukuba uneshedyuli apho yonke into ifanelekileyo, uya kusebenza ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha lakho. Kwaye uya kuba nako ukuphumla ngaphandle kolwazi lokuba uza kufeza izinto kodwa nakwinto osebenza kuyo ngexesha elinikwe yinto omele usebenze kuyo. Ungalibali ixabiso lezixhobo zokulawula ixesha, i-PDA, kunye nezinye izixhobo zokulawula ixesha. Kodwa khumbula kwakhona ukuba isicwangciso esihle kunye nesabelomali esicacileyo ngexesha lakho kubaluleke kakhulu ekulondolozeni umlinganiselo wobomi bakho.
8 - Qhagamshelana nomntwana wakho wangaphakathi
Khumbula xa usengumntwana, kwaye wacinga ukuba ubomi bakho buya kuthini xa usakhulile? Mhlawumbi ucinga nje ukuba wenza izinto ezonwabisayo, kungekhona ezinye ze-minutia mhlawumbi uhlaselwa ngoku kwangoku. Nangona kungenangqiqo ukwenza nje izinto ezithandekayo (ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka siphume ikhefu ukusuka esibhakabhakeni size siye emacimbini ukwenza izinto ezimbalwa zokutya kunye neentsuku zokupakisha ngosuku olulandelayo), kunokukunceda ukukhumbula Zama ukugcina izinto ezonwabisayo ebomini bakho nezinto ezixinzelelekileyo kuzo.
> Umthombo:
Schoppe-Sullivan, et al. Isango-Ukugcinwa kweSango, ukuQinisekiswa koBantwana kunye noBawo bokuziphatha kwiintsapho ezinentsana. I-Journal ye-Psychology , yoJuni 2008.