Ulawulo lweengxaki

Ingqwalaselo yoLawulo lweengcinezelo

Sonke sinokuxinezeleka kwimpilo yethu. Ngenxa yokuba uninzi lweengxaki zempilo zibangelwa okanye zithonyelwe uxinzelelo, kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela uxinzelelo oluchaphazela ngayo umzimba wakho kwaye ufunde iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo lokusebenza ngokunyanzela ukuba usebenze uxinzelelo kunokuba unxamnye nawe.

Yintoni ixinezelekile?

Ukuxinezeleka yimpendulo yomzimba wakho kwiinguqu ebomini bakho. Kuba ubomi bubandakanya ukuguquka rhoqo (ukususela ekutshintsheni indawo ukusuka ekhaya ukuya emsebenzini ukuya kusasa ukuya kutshintsha utshintsho olukhulu lobomi njengomtshato, umtshato okanye ukufa komntu othandekayo), akukho ukuphepha ukuxinzezeleka.

Yingakho iinjongo zakho akufuneki ukuphelisa uxinzelelo, kodwa ukuphelisa uxinzelelo olungadingekile nokulawula ngokufanelekileyo. Kukho izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokubandezeleka ezibangelwa ngabantu abaninzi, kodwa umntu ngamnye uhlukile.

Izizathu zokuxinezeleka

Ukuxinezeleka kunokuvela kwimithombo emininzi, eyaziwa ngokuba " ngabaxinzelelo ." Ngenxa yokuba amava ethu okubhekiswa "okuxinezelekileyo" adalwa yimibono yethu ekhethekileyo yinto esijamelana nayo ebomini (esekelwe kwimilinganiselo yethu yobuntu, izixhobo ezifumanekayo, iipatheni zokucinga kunye nokunye ), imeko ingabonwa ngokuba "ingcinezelo "ngomntu omnye kwaye" nje umngeni "ngomnye umntu.

• Yintoni ukuxinezeleka kwengqondo kunye nendlela onokuyilawula ngayo

• Akukho konke ukugxininiswa Ngaba kunjalo-Indlela yokuLawula konke

Ngokucacileyo, ukunyamezela komntu omnye kungabhalisi njengobandezelo komnye umntu. Oko kwathiwa, iimeko ezithile zivame ukubangela uxinzelelo lwabantu abaninzi kwaye zinokunyusa umngcipheko wokutshiswa . Umzekelo, xa sifumana kwiimeko apho kukho iimfuno eziphezulu kuthi; apho sinolawulo oluncinane kunye nokukhetha okumbalwa; apho asiziva sizixhobile; apho singasigwetyelwa ngabanye ngabanye; kwaye apho iziphumo zokungaphumeleli zizinzi okanye zingalindelekanga, sivame ukugxininiswa.

Ngenxa yoko, abaninzi abantu bagxininiswe yimisebenzi yabo, ubudlelwane babo, imiba yezemali , iingxaki zempilo, kunye nezinto ezininzi ezifana ne- clutter okanye iishedyuli ezixakekile .

Izakhono zokufunda ukujamelana nalezi zixinzelelo zinganceda ukunciphisa amava akho oxinzelelo.

• Ngaba Udala Ukunyamezela Kwengqondo Neengqondo?

Imiphumo yoxinzelelo

Kanye njengoko uxinzelelo lubonakala ngokuhlukileyo ngabanye bethu, uxinzelelo luyasichaphazela sonke ngeendlela ezizodwa.

Umntu oyedwa unokufumana iintloko, kanti enye ingasifumana isisu esishukumisayo sisabela ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye umntu wesithathu unokufumana nayiphi na enye impawu . Nangona sonke siphenduka kwiingcinezelo ngeendlela zethu, kukho uluhlu olude lweziphumo eziqhelekileyo zengcinezelo esukela kwizinto ezinobungozi ukuya ebomini. Ukuxinezeleka kunokuchaphazela ukukhuselwa komzimba, okunokuchaphazela zonke iindawo zempilo. Ukuxinezeleka kunokuphazamisa isimo sengqondo ngeendlela ezininzi.

Ukuba ufumana ufumana iimpawu zomzimba ocinga ukuba unxulumene noxinzelelo, kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ekulawuleni olo xinzelelo kwaye uthethe ugqirha wakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba wenza okusemandleni akho ukugcina impilo yakho. Iimpawu ezingase ziqhutywe ukunyanzeliswa akuzona "zonke entloko yakho" kwaye kufuneka zithathwe ngokungathí sina.

Ukudala isicwangciso sokulawula uxinzelelo ngokuqhelekileyo sinye inxalenye yesicwangciso sobulungisa bonke.

• Indlela Yokunyamezela Ngayo Wena Nento Ongayenza

UkuPhathwa kweNgcinezelo

Ukuxinezeleka kunokulawulwa ngempumelelo kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo. Izicwangciso zokulawula uxinzelelo oluqhelekileyo ziquka ukuxuba ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo ekujonganeni nokuxinwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, kwaye kunceda ekuphuculeni ukuzinza nokukwazi ukujamelana nezakhono.

• Sebenzisa ngokukhawuleza ukuxinwa kwengcinezelo . Ezinye iindlela zoxinzelelo zoxinzelelo zingasebenza ngemizuzu embalwa ukuzinzisa ukuphazamiseka komzimba. Ezi zixhobo zinikeza "ukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza" okukunceda uzive uxolo ngeli xesha, kwaye oku kunokunceda ngeendlela ezininzi. Xa impendulo yakho yokunyamezela ingabangela, ungasondela kwiingxaki ngokucingisisa nangokucwangcisekileyo. Unokuba ungeke ulahlekelwe ngabanye ngenxa yokukhungatheka, okuya kugcina ubudlelwane bakho buphilile. Ukubeka impendulo yakho yempembelelo kwi-bud iyakwenza ukuba ungabi noxinzelelo olungapheliyo.
  
  Uxinzelelo olukhawulezayo lweengcinezelo ezinjengomzimba wokuphefumula , umzekelo, unokuthi ungakheli uxinzelelo kwixesha elizayo uxinzelelo okanye unciphise abaxinzelelo abajongene nawo, kodwa banokukunceda ukuhlaziya umzimba we-physiology emva kokuba kuphazamiseka ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo .
  

• Ukuhlakulela imikhwa yokuxininisa . Ezinye iindlela zincinci ukusetyenziswa xa uphakathi kwimeko exinzelelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba uyaziqhelanisa rhoqo, anokukunceda ukulawula uxinzelelo ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba ungasebenzi kangako kwaye unako ukwazi ukuphendula ukuphendula kwakho ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula.
  
  Imikhwa enempilo emide, njengokuzilolonga okanye ukucamngca rhoqo, kunokunceda ekukhuthazeni ukunyamezela kubaxinzeleleli xa ubenza ube yingxenye ebomini yobomi bakho. Izakhono zonxibelelwano kunye nezinye izakhono zokuphila ezinokukunceda ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kunye nokutshintsha indlela esivakalelwa ngayo "ukuphazamiseka" ukuba "sinomngeni" okanye "ukuvuselela."
  
• Ukuphelisa izixinzelelo xa unako . Akunakukwazi ukuphelisa ngokupheleleyo ingcinezelo ebomini bakho, okanye nokuba ngabaxinzelelo obukhulu kakhulu, kodwa kukho indawo apho ungayinciphisa khona kwaye uyifumane kwizinga elilawulwayo. Nayiphi na ingcinezelo enokuyinqumla inganciphisa umthwalo wakho wokunyamezela. Ngokomzekelo, ukuphelisa olunye ulwalamano olunobungozi lunokukunceda ngokukhawuleza ukujongana noxinzelelo oluneziganeko ngenxa yokuba ungazivakalelwa kakhulu.

• Iimpazamo ezi-3 eziphambili ngeengcinezelo ezinokukukhathaza

• Iindlela zokuLawula uxinzelelo zibalulekile xa unengcinezelo engapheliyo

Ukufumanisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokulawula uxinzelelo, kwaye ukhetha umxube ohambelana neemfuno zakho, unokuba isicwangciso esibalulekileyo sokukhululeka kwengcinezelo.

Imibuzo Ebuzwa Ngokuphindaphindiweyo Ngeengcinezelo

Ngaba Ukuxinezeleka Kunokungonakalisa Impilo?
Enyanisweni, akukho. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuxinezeleka ezivela e- eustress , eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo kunye neyokuzonwabisa, ukuxinezeleka okungapheliyo, okuye kwadibaniswa nemicimbi emininzi yempilo kwaye luhlobo lwengcinezelo engathandekiyo ekhankanywe kwiindaba. Nangona sifuna ukulawula okanye ukuphelisa iintlobo ezintle zokuxinezeleka, sifuna ukugcina iindlela ezintle zokuxinzezeleka ebomini bethu ukuze zisincede sihlale sisisiseko kwaye siphila. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba sinokuxinezeleka kolu buninzi ebomini bethu, ukunyamezeleka kwengxaki "kunokuncedisa ukuxinzelela ngokweengxaki, oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni uzive ukhululekile okanye uxinzelelo lwakho lube lude kakhulu. Kungako kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuphucula umzimba wakho nengqondo ngezikhathi ezithile kwaye unqande uxinzelelo olungadingekile xa kunokwenzeka. Funda kabanzi malunga noxinzelelo kunye nempilo .

Ndingathini Ukuba Ndixinezelekile?
Ukuxinezeleka kukuchaphazela zonke iindlela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kungekhona zonke izinto ezimbi. (Enyanisweni, uxinzelelo lobomi obonwabisayo lunokuthi lube ngumgqugquzeli olulungileyo kwaye kugcine izinto ezinomdla.) Nangona amaqondo oxinzelelo ekhuselekileyo, kunjalo, kukho iimpawu zokuxinezeleka ezibangelwa ngabantu abaninzi. Ngokomzekelo, iintloko, ukukhubeka, kunye 'nokucinga okungenangqondo' zonke ziyimpawu zokuba uxinzeleleke kakhulu. Nangona kungekhona wonke umntu ophantsi kwengcinezelo uya kuba neengxaki ezithile, abaninzi baya kwenza. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awuqapheli ukuba uxinzelele kangakanani uze udityaniswe, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuqaphela iingcinga zomzimba wakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho, phantse nje ngomntu ongaphandle. Ukuphawula indlela umzimba wakho usabela ngayo xa uxinezelekile, unokuzama ukucamngca ngomzimba (kukunceda ukhululeke ngexesha elifanayo).

Yintoni Ndingayenza Xa Ndiziva Ndixhalabile Ngxinzelelo?
Sonke siziva sizixakeke ngexesha elide; eziqhelekileyo. Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuphelisa amaxesha xa iziganeko zengxoxo kunye nokunyamezela komzimba kuphazamiseka, kukho iindlela ongakwazi ukuzenza ngokukhawuleza ukuphendulwa komzimba wakho, ukuphazamisa umonakalo kwimpilo yakho nokugcina ingcamango yakho icace, ukuze ukwazi ukujongana kunye nento eyenzekayo ngexesha.

• Izindlela Zokuqhawuleza Ngokukhawuleza Xa Uziva Uxhatshazwa

Ngaba Kukho Indlela Yokunciphisa Ngaphantsi Ukuxinezeleka?
Enyanisweni, ngokwenza umkhondo oqhelekileyo wokulawula uxinzelelo okanye ezimbini, unokuphelisa ezinye zexinzelelo oziziva ngayo ngoku kwaye uzenze ube namandla xa ujamelene noxinzelelo kwixesha elizayo. Kukho izinto ezahlukeneyo ongazama ngazo, ukususela ekuhambeni kokusa ukuya kwi-dayday practice practice ukuze wenze ixesha elingakumbi labahlobo. Iqhinga kukufumana into ehambelana nendlela yokuphila nobuntu bakho, ngoko kulula ukunamathela.

• Iingcebiso zokunciphisa uxinzelelo

> Umthombo:

> Lehrer, Paul; Woolfolk, uRobert; USime, uWesley. Iimigaqo kunye nokuSebenza koLawulo lwexinzelelo, ukuHlaziya kweThathu. ENew York, eNew York: I-Guilford Press.