Yenza uninzi lwesangqa sakho sentlalo
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye noxhasayo bunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuphucula impilo yakho yonke kunye nenjongo yokuphila kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, bonke ubudlelwane abaxhasayo ngokufanayo. Ukwakha inethiwekhi yabangani abaxhasayo, okanye nokuba nolunye ulwalamano oluxhasayo lunokubaluleka kwimpilo yakho. Nazi ezinye izakhono eziphambili ezinokukunceda ukwakha ubudlelwane nabantu abaxhasa ngokwenene nokugcina.
Iintlanganiso zabantu
Xa unabantu obuninzi bakho ebomini bakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nolwalamano oluxhasayo ngokwenene kunye nomnye wabo. Kunenzuzo ukuba ukwazi ukufaka rhoqo abantu abatsha kwisangqa sakho. Nazi ezinye iindlela ezilungileyo zokudibana nabantu .
Ulawulo lwexesha
Kubalulekile ukwenza ixesha lokukhulisa ubudlelwane kunye nokuphuma kunye nokuzonwabisa nabahlobo. Unokuvakalelwa kukuba awunaso ixesha lokuchitha kule nto, kodwa ukuphathwa kwexesha kunye neendlela zokubambisana kunokukunceda ufumane ixesha elithile ebomini bakho ukuze uchithe ubuhlobo. Ezi zixhobo zingakunceda ukuba ubonise ngexesha, ukhumbule imihla yokuzalwa kunye nezinye iziganeko ezibalulekileyo, uncede abahlobo xa beswele, kwaye wenze ezinye izinto eziya kubomeleza ubuhlobo kwaye zibancedise.
Ukuqinisekiswa
Abantu bavame ukucinga ngokuzimela njengokuthi 'ukuzimela wena' kwaye 'ungavumi abantu ukuba bakuxhase' - ngokukodwa ukungahambi.
Nangona oku kuyiyo inyaniso, ukunyaniseka kukunye ukunyusa, indlela yokusingatha abantu apho ufumana iimfuno zakho zidibene neendleko zabanye. Ukuphuhlisa ubuchule bokuqinisekiswa kunokukunceda ngokwenene ukuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho, ubenze baxhase ngokufanayo, bahlala kwaye bavula imigca yonxibelelwano.
Ukuphulaphula Abahlobo Bakho
Xa sinexesha elinzima, ngamanye amaxesha sikwazi ukuthetha nomhlobo malunga neemvakalelo zethu konke okufunekayo ukuguqula izinto kunye nokunyanzelisa ingxaki yokuxhamla kunye nenhlalakahle. Ukuphulaphulwa ngokwenene kunye nokuqondakala kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kuthi. Xa usebenzisana nabahlobo, kubalulekile ukunika kunye nokufumana olu hlobo lokumamela xa kuncedwa inkxaso. Nazi ezinye izinto omele uzikhumbule xa abahlobo bethetha ngezinto ezicinezelayo okanye ezibacaphukisayo:
- Buza ngeemvakalelo zabo, uze uphulaphule.
- Cinga kwakhona into oyivayo, ngoko bayazi ukuba uyayiqonda ngokwenene.
- Endaweni yokuba uhlale uzama ukubopha incoko yakho kumava akho, imibuzo yokugxila kubo kunye neemvakalelo zabo.
- Xa bethetha, ngaba ulahlekelwa ezinye zezinto abazithethayo kuba ulindele ukuba bayeke ukuthetha ukuze nitsho into ofuna ukuyithetha ngokulandelayo? Yeka, kwaye uziphulaphule ngokwenene.
Funda kabanzi malunga nendlela yokuphulaphula kakuhle , ubuchule obubalulekileyo obufunekayo.
Ukuphulaphula i-Intuition yakho
Abanye abantu banikela amandla angenayo esenza sizive silungileyo, kwaye abanye banciphisa amandla angagunyazisiyo. Ukuba ubeka ingqalelo kwiimpawu zokuthi i-intuition yakho ikuthumelela kwaye isebenze kulawo mqondiso, uya kuba nesondlo sentlalo esempilweni.
Nazi ezinye ze mibuzo ozibuzeyo:
- Ngaba incoko ihamba ngokulula, okanye inyanzelekile?
- Ngaba uziva ukuba bayayiqonda ngokwenene, bayamkela kwaye bakuxhase?
- Ngaba uziva ukuba uyayiqonda ngokwenene, uyayamkela kwaye uyixhase?
- Ngaba uzive ungcono okanye uzibi nakakhulu xa unabo?
- Ngaba uyabashiya beziva bexinekile okanye becinezelekile?
- Ngaba uzibandakanya ebomini bakho ngeempawu ezintle abanawo, okanye nje ukuba ube nabantu abaninzi ebomini bakho?
Izimpendulo zale mibuzo, kwaye nento ongayifunda kule mibuzo iza kukunceda uqale ukuhlakulela intuition yakho, eya kukunceda uqinise ubudlelwane bakho, okanye unokukunceda ...
Ukuyeka kuhambe
Akuyena wonke umntu umdlalo ofanelekileyo. Ukuba kukho umntu ebomini bakho obangela ukuba uzive kakubi ngawe, akabi nantoni na yakho kwiminqweno okanye ixabiso, okanye umntu ongeke ulungele kakuhle, uyamkeleka ngokufanelekileyo ukubeka olo dlelwane kwi-burner yangemuva, vumela ukuba liphele, okanye lingayi kuluqala kwindawo yokuqala. Nangona ubude usondele, abantu bayatshintsha kwaye bakhule ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Oko akuthethi kukho into 'engalunganga' kunye nawe.
Kodwa xa umntu ebomini bakho engaselungele wena, kuyavunyelwene ukuvumela ukuba bahambe. (Ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba ungathanda ukuwagcina ebomini bakho ngaphandle kokunyaniseka, nangona inxaxheba yendawo yokuhamba, kulungile, kunjalo. Kuya kuba luncedo ukukhumbuza ukuba ungabalandeli kubo inkxaso, ukuba uyakwazi ukukunika.) Uyazi ukuba ubuhlobo bufanelekile ukugcina okanye cha. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ube nabantu abaningana onokubancika ekuncedeni ebomini bakho.
Kuthatha umsebenzi othile, kodwa ukuhlakulela isangqa sobudlelwane bokwenene kunokwenza ukubahluko omkhulu ngendlela ojongene ngayo uxinzelelo kunye nobomi.
Imithombo
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