Kakade, uvile ngexinzelelo kwaye usenokufumana ixabiso elihle namhlanje. Kodwa ngaba uyazi ukuba umehluko phakathi koku "uxinzelelo" kunye "nabacindezeli?" Abaxinzelelekileyo ziimeko ezinamava njengengxaki esicatshulwayo yokuphila okanye isikhundla kwizinto zokuphila, xa kunzima ukujongana nayo, ngaphezu kwezinto ezikhoyo ezibonakalayo ezikhoyo.
Xa umntu ehlangene nabaxinzeleleli, iimpendulo zomzimba ziyashukunyiswa, kwaye kukho uluhlu lwezinto ezenziwa ngumzimba ukuvumela umntu ukuba alwe okanye asebenze . Ukuba oku kufana nokuva uxinzelelo, kuba ngamanye amaxesha xa abantu bethetha 'ngcinezelo' ebomini babo, bathetha ngokwenene ngabaxinzelelo; uxinzelelo lukhokelela ekuphenduleni komzimba kunye nokuvalelwa koxinzelelo . Into ebalulekileyo ukuba uyikhumbule, ngokuyisiseko, kukuba ngabaxinzelelo bangela imbandezelo.
Ziziphi Iingxaki Ziba Ngxinzelelo?
Ziziphi iimeko ezixinzezelekileyo? Oku kuyahluka kumntu kumntu. Nangona ezinye izinto zixhaphaza abantu abaninzi-iimfuno zomsebenzi, ukungquzulana, inqanaba elihle-kungekhona zonke iingcinezelo ezinokubangela uxinzelelo kubo bonke abantu. Lowo wonk 'ubani unesistim sezinto ezizodwa, ukuqonda kwehlabathi, nendlela yokuqonda izinto; oko kubonakala ngathi kuyisongelo kumntu oyedwa kunokubonwa njengengxaki kumnye.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlukahlukana kunokungabonakali - kungenzeki kuwe ukuba uhambo oluya kwivenkile lunokuba ngumxinzelelo, kodwa kumntu ozonda iindimbane kunye nokuthenga, ngemini emasitolo ingaba ngumxininiso obalulekileyo. Kuye kumntu othanda ukuthenga, kodwa unomntu onokungeniswa naye unokugxininiswa luhambo olude oluya kuba lunolonwabo okanye lube nolonwabo kumntu onamandla.
Unokuba ungomnye walabo bantu abazondayo izihlwele aze abuyele ekhaya esuka eluhambweni lokuthenga ngaphandle kokuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni uziva unxinekile.
Ngamanye amaxesha, unokwazi kwaye utshintshe nokuba kukho into ekukushaya njengomxinzelelo okanye njengamava elula ngosuku lwakho. Unokukhetha ukujonga izinto ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, inqubo eyaziwa ngabafundi bezengqondo njenge-recappraisal engqondweni, kwaye unokuzixhobisa ngokuziqonda ngakumbi oko unokulawula kulo meko, kwaye unokwakha ukuzinza kwakho ukunyamezela ukuze uncinci izinto zijamelene neengcinezelo. Okanye unokwenza usebenze ekupheliseni iingcinezelo ebomini bakho ezingagwenywa.
Ukulawula i-Stressors ebomini bakho
Nangona bekungeke kwenzeke ukuphelisa konke uxinzelelo (kwaye kuba ezinye iintlobo zengcinezelo, ezifana ne- eustress , zinenjongo kuwe, awuyi kufuna, nakanjani), kubalulekile ukukwazi ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kubomi bakho kwaye ukujongana noxinzelelo olunamava- okokuthiwa ukuphathwa koxinzelelo . Le ndawo inikezela ubuncwane bezinto zokunciphisa uxinzelelo lokunyanzelisa uxinzelelo , kwaye unokufumana okunye kum kwi-Facebook, Twitter kunye nePinterest. Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekileyo kukuqala ukucinga ngengcinezelo njengento onokuyenza kwaye kufuneka ufunde ukulawula, njengokuba ungathatha nayiphi enye ingxaki.
Okwangoku, nantsi ezinye izixhobo ezijoliswe kuzo ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kwiinkxalabo ezithile :
- Iingxaki eziphezulu zokuxinezeleka : Ngaba ugxininiswe ngezinto ezifanayo ezixinzelela abantu abaninzi? Nazi ezinye zezizathu eziphambili zokucinezeleka (kunye nendlela yokuzilawula).
- Ukugxininiswa kweJob kunye nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo : Izinto ezithile zemisebenzi zixinzeleleke kubantu abaninzi. Umsebenzi wakho ulinganisa njani, kwaye unokwenza njani ukulawula uxinzelelo?
- Ukuxinezeleka kobudlelwane: Iintlupheko zobudlelwane : Ukuxabana ubudlelwane ngenye yezixinzelelo ezixininisa abantu abajamelana nalo mbambano kuthatha umthwalo omkhulu kuthi kuthi uninzi lwezinye iingcinezelo esibhekana nazo ebomini. Fumana isizathu sokuba, kwaye unokwenza ntoni ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.
- Ukulawula Ingcinezelo Yobomi Obunzima : Nangona ubomi obuxakekayo, ubunzima bunokuba ngumxininiso xa kunokushiya ixesha elincinane lokuzinyamekela. Nesizathu sokuba ubomi obunxinzekile bunokuba ngumxinzelelo, kwaye ungayisebenzisa njani lo hlobo loxinzelelo.
Qala ukulawula iingxaki zakho namhlanje ngokuchonga izinto ezibangela uxinzelelo "ngexesha langempela," oko kukuthi, uqaphele indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo yonke imihla ngokunyamekela umzimba wakho kunye nengqondo yakho. Ukuba kukho into oyikrakrayo ebomini bakho, qalisa ukucinga ukuba kutheni, uphazamise into onokuyenza, kwaye uhlakulele imikhuba yokwakha ukuzimisela xa ungeke ukwazi ukulungisa izinto njengoko ukhetha kuzo. Ekugqibeleni, naluphi na uxinzelelo oluncitshiswayo luhle.