Indlela yokuHlaziya kwakhona izimo ukuze zidale ukucindezeleka okungaphantsi
Xa sibhekene neengcinezelo ezinokubakho, indlela esibheka ngayo into esijamelana nayo ingenza ukwandisa uxinzelelo lwethu - okanye ukunciphise! Inkqubo yokunciphisa ingqondo yindlela ekhuthazwayo yexesha, ekhuthazwa ngengqondo yokujonga izinto ngeendlela ezidala uxinzelelo oluncinci kunye nokukhuthaza uxolo olukhulu nokulawula. Ukuba awusebenzisi kakade isicwangciso sohlengahlengiso rhoqo, unokufuna ukuyiqwalasela.
Yintoni echanekileyo yokuCatshulwa kwengqondo?
Ukurhoxisa yindlela yokutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo into kwaye, ngoko, utshintshe amava akho. Ingakwazi ukuguqula isiganeko esixinzelelekileyo ukuba sibe yintlungu engundoqo okanye umngeni wokuba utshintshe ngesibindi. Okanye, inokubonisa usuku olubi kakhulu njengendawo ephantsi kakhulu ebomini obuhle. Okanye, unokubona umcimbi ombi njengamava okufunda.
Ukurhoxisa yindlela esinokuyitshintsha ngayo imbono yethu yoxinzelelo kwaye, ngoko ke, kunciphisa ubuninzi bexinzelelo kunye nokudala ubomi obuhle phambi kokuba senze utshintsho kwiimeko zethu.
Ukutshatyalaliswa kwamanani kuthintela njani uxinzelelo
Ukusebenzisa ama-reframing techniques kunokuba utshintshe izimpendulo zakho zomzimba ukuxinezeleka ngenxa yokuphendula komzimba wakho ngenxa yokuxinezeleka, kungeyona imicimbi. Ukuba uyazi ukuba unesongelo - ngokwenyama okanye ngokwengqondo - ngeemeko, impendulo yakho yokulwa okanye ye-flight iya kukhaba.
Ukuphendula kwakho uxinzelelo kunokubangelwa ziziganeko ezixhalabisayo ukwesaba kwaye zihlala ziqhubekile emva kokuba isiganeko esichukumisayo siphelile, ingakumbi ukuba awuqhelanga iindlela zokuphumula. Iindlela zokurhoxisa yindlela yokunciphisa iingcinezelo ozibonayo ebomini bakho, ngaloo ndlela unciphisa inkqubo yokuphumla .
Ukurhweba njani umsebenzi?
Ukusebenzisa ama-reframing techniques kunokulula kwaye kulula, ngakumbi ngokusebenza.
- Funda malunga Neengcinga Zemizekelo. Isinyathelo sokuqala sokurhoxisa kukuzifundisa ngezinye zeepatheni zokucinga ezingalunganga ezingakwandisa amanqanaba akho oxinzelelo . Jonga ezi ziphazamiso eziqhelekileyo zokuqonda ukuba ziphi na, ukuba zikhona, ziza kudlala empilweni yakho. Kwakhona, funda ngeendlela ezichanekileyo zokuchaza indlela ekhethekileyo yokujonga amava abo obomi; kuba iingxaki zithatha ukuxinezeleka kwaye zingaphumelelanga ngaphantsi kwezinto ezingathembekiyo, kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela abacinga ngayo, kwaye basebenze ukufumana isicatshulwa esichazayo . Ukuzifundisa malunga neepateni zokucinga kunye nendlela ezichaphazela ngayo abantu kubalulekile ukubeka umgangatho wokuqonda nokutshintsha.
- Phawula Iingcamango Zakho. Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukuzibamba xa usulela kwiimeko ezingapheliyo kunye neendlela zokuchukumisa uxinzelelo. Ukuzibona kubaluleke kakhulu kwimiba engumngeni kwaye ekugqibeleni uyitshintshe. Into enye ongayenza yinto engqondweni yakho ingcinga, njengokungathi ungumlindi. Xa ubamba iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga, qaphela nje ekuqaleni. Ukuba ufuna, unokwazi ukugcina iphepha lokubhala kwaye uqale ukurekhoda okwenzekayo ebomini bakho kunye neengcamango zakho ezijikeleze ezi ziganeko, kwaye uhlolisise le ngcamango ngokusebenzisa 'lens' yakho entsha ukuze ufumane oku ngakumbi ekubambeni ezi ngcamango. Enye into ebalulekileyo ukucamngca , apho ufunda ukuhlalisa ingqondo yakho kwaye uhlole iingcamango zakho. Emva kokuba ube ngumgcini-mboni, kulula ukuba uqaphele iingcamango zakho kunokuba uhlale ungene kuwo.
- Umngeni Weengcamango Zakho. Njengoko uqaphela iingcamango zakho ezingalunganga, inxalenye efanelekileyo yokuhlaziya iquka ukuhlolisisa inyaniso kunye nokuchaneka (okanye ukungabi naso) kwezi ngcamango. Ngaba izinto ozixelelayo nokuba ziyinyaniso? Kwakhona, zeziphi ezinye iindlela zokutshintsha isethi enye yeemeko? Ziziphi iindlela zokubona izinto kukukhonza kangcono? Esikhundleni sokubona izinto ngendlela ohlala uhlala nayo, unomngeni yonke ingcamango engafanelekanga, ubone ukuba unokukwazi ukufumana iingcamango ezihambelana nemeko yakho kodwa ubonise isimo sengqondo esihle.
- Yenza Ingcamango Yakho Ngemivo Engcono Yokuba sele uye esibhedlele waza waqaphela ukuba abahlengikazi bavame ukubuza abantu 'ngeentlungu' zabo kunokuba 'buhlungu'? Oku kutshintshwa kwisenzo. Ukuba isigulane sibhekene nentlungu, igama elithi 'ukuphazamiseka' liyakucasula kwaye libonakala libonisa ukuxhuma ekuqondeni, kodwa ukuba intlungu ithambileyo, ukuyihlaziya 'njengentlungu' kunokunciphisa ubunzima bezigulane ezininzi. Oku kuyilumko lokunciphisa inzuzo esinokuyenza yonke into. Xa ukhangele into engalunganga, jonga ukuba unokutshintsha ukuthetha kwakho ngokwakho usebenzisa iimandla ezincinci, ezingaphantsi kwemizwa . Xa ukhangele imeko enokubandezeleka, khangela ukuba unokuyijonga njengengxaki kumngcipheko. Khangela 'isipho' kwimiba nganye, kwaye ubone ukuba unokubona abaxinzeleleki bakho kwiindawo ezibonakalayo ezintle: zibone ngendlela ehambelana neenkalo zeemeko zakho, kodwa oko kungonakali kwaye kunomsebenzi ontle .
Leyo yintloko ye-reframing, kwaye unako ukwenza njalo ngokuthanda kwakho. Uninzi lwabantu luyamangalisa ukuba yintoni impembelelo enkulu enokuba nayo kwiimeko zabo zokuguquka kwengcinezelo ngendlela obujonga ngayo ebomini bakho unokutshintsha ubomi bakho!