Uxinzelelo lweengqondo luyingozi kakhulu kunokuba ungazi
Ukuxinezeleka kwengqondo kuthintela ininzi lethu ngezikhathi kwaye kungathatha ixabiso elibi. Ingumphumo wenkcazo yokuqonda (ingcaciso yakho yengqondo) yintoni ekhoyo kunye nokuba yintoni enokuyenza malunga nayo. Ukugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo, uxinzelelo lwengqondo kwengqondo luphumo xa sibheka ingozi esicatshukiswayo ebomini bethu (ngokwenene okanye ecinga) kunye nokuqonda ukuba kunokufuna iimithombo esingenayo.
Imizekelo yoxinzelelo yengqondo ingabandakanya nantoni na eguqulela kwisimo esichengeni sethu senhlalakahle, inhlonipho yentlalo, inhlonipho, kunye / okanye ukwamukelwa ngaphakathi kweqela; sisongelo ekuziphatheni kwethu; okanye isongelo esicinga ukuba asikwazi ukulawula. Zonke ezi ntsongelo zingakhokelela ekuphenduleni uxinzelelo emzimbeni. Ezi zinokubangela ezinye iingcinezelo zokunyanzelisa ukuba zijongane nazo, njengoko zinokusenza sizive sisincedwa kwaye sihlukaniswe. Oku kunokwenza kube nzima kunzima.
Xa uxinzelelo lweengqondo lusebangela ukunyamezela, umzimba ukhulula i-hormone yoxinzelelo kuquka i- cortisol , i- epinephrine (okanye i-adrenalin) kunye ne-dopamine, ekhokelela ekugqibeleni kwamandla kunye nezinye iinguqu emzimbeni (jonga eli nqaku malunga nokulwa- impendulo ye -or-flight for more.) Utshintsho olwenziwa ngama-hormone oxinzelelo lunokuba luncedo kwixesha elifutshane, kodwa linokulimaza ngexesha elide. Ngokomzekelo, i-cortisol inokuphucula ukusebenza komzimba ngokunyusa amandla atholakalayo (ukwenzela ukuba ukulwa okanye ukubalekela kunokwenzeka) kodwa kunokukhokelela ekunciphisweni kwenkqubo yokuzivikela komzimba kwakunye neminye imiphumo.
I-Epinephrine inokuphinda ihlangane namandla, kodwa yenza iziphumo ezingqondweni ezingokwenyama nezingokwenyama kunye nokutyhila ixesha elide. Yingakho kubalulekile ukulawula uxinzelelo lweengqondo kubomi bethu ukuze impendulo yokunyamezela ivele kuphela xa kudingekile. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukufunda iindlela zokuncedisa uxinzelelo ekupheliseni kakuhle impendulo yokunyamezela ukuze singabi namaxesha amaninzi okuxinezeleka okanye uxinzelelo olungapheliyo .
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokulawula uxinzelelo lwengqondo, kuba luquka izinto ezingaphandle (oko sithetha nazo) nangaphakathi (iingcinga zethu malunga nalo), kwaye zinokuchaphazela indawo ezininzi zobomi bethu. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso ezinokukunceda.
Ukuphuhlisa izakhono zakho zokuSombulula iingxabano
Ingquzulwano yinxalenye engenakukupheka yobudlelwane. Abantu baya kuba neengxabano kwaye baya kufuna izinto ezahlukeneyo. Indlela esilawula ngayo ingxabano ingabangela uxinzelelo olungundoqo lweengqondo, kodwa ukuba unokusebenza kwizakhono zokusombulula iingxabano, ezinokukunceda ubuncinci kwisiqingatha se-equation: unokutshintsha oko uzisa kule meko, unokutshatyalaliswa kwezinto ezingenanto, kwaye unokwenza umzekelo wokuziphatha okunempilo. Oku kunokunciphisa kakhulu uxinzelelo oluvezwe ngabo bonke ababandakanyekayo.
Zama ezi ndlela zokusombulula izixazululo eziphilileyo.
Gxininisa kubahlobo abaxhasayo; Gwema umdlalo
Ukuba ucinga ngako, uyazi ukuba ngubani onokumthemba ukuba akuxhase wena kwaye awukwazi. Ukuchitha nje ixesha elininzi kunye nabenza ubomi bakho bube lula kwaye ukunciphisa ixesha elichithwe kunye nabo banokuziva bacinezelekile banokunciphisa ubuninzi beengqondo ezingqondweni. Awuyi kunqumla yonke idrama onayo, kodwa inokumisa amaninzi.
Nantsi indlela yokunciphisa ubudlelwane obuxinzeleleyo.
Zama i Shift In Perspective
Ngamanye amaxesha siyavutha ngumsindo okanye sisongelwa ngezinto ezingasithinteli kakhulu, kwaye ukuxinzezeleka esizivelayo ngenxa yoko akuyimfuneko. Ukutshintsha indlela ukhangele ngayo into ethile, okanye ukutshintshela oko ujolise kuyo kungenza umehluko kumanqanaba akho oxinzelelo - kunokukwenza into ebonakala ngathi yinto eninzi ivakalelwa kangako. Xa ubhekwa ngombono ohlukileyo, yonke into inokuziva ixineke kakhulu.
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokutshintsha ukujonga kwakho ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.
Fumana iinkqubo zokuLawula uxinzelelo ezikusebenzelayo
Ukufumana iindlela zokulawula izinga lakho loxinzelelo luyakunceda ukuba ungasebenzi phantsi kwengcinezelo yengqondo, okanye nayiphina inkxalabo.
Isibalulekileyo kukufumana into esebenza kakuhle kuwe nento ehambelana kakuhle ebomini bakho kunye nobuntu bakho.
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso ongazisebenzisa ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo.
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