Indlela yokuLawula Ubomi bakho
Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abo abanendawo yokulawula yangaphakathi - oko kukuthi, banomuvo wokuthi bayazilawula iinjongo zabo, kunokuba bafumane iimeko zabo zangaphandle-bahlala bexhamla, bexinezelekile kwaye bancinci. Kuyinyani ukuba abaninzi abaxinzelelekileyo besibhekana nabo ebomini baninzi kakhulu, nangona singakwazi ukuhlangabezana nalezi zinto ngokulungisa indlela esicinga ngayo ngezinto, ukusebenza ngokuzinzileyo, nokugxila kwizinto esinokuzilawula.
Ngamanye amaxesha, sinokulawula oko sikujongene nayo, okanye sinokulawula okungakumbi kunokuba siyazi. Xa siqaphela into esinokuyilawula ngayo, sinokuziva sinamandla ngakumbi, ngoko ukuba nombono wokujonga ubomi kunye neendawo zangaphakathi zokulawula kunokusinceda sizive sisinde ngakumbi kwaye sinamandla ngakumbi kwiimeko ezininzi ebomini. Ngethamsanqa, ngelixa ezinye izinto zizalwe, ukuba indawo yakho yokulawula ayikho 'yangaphakathi' njengoko ungathanda ukuba yikho, kukho izinto ongayenza ukutshintsha indawo yakho yokulawula kwaye uzixhobisa. Nantsi inkqubo yokwenza:
Qaphela ukuba Unokhetho.
Xa uqaphela ukuba usoloko ukhetha ukutshintsha imeko yakho (nokuba le nguqulelo ayiyiyo yokuqala yokukhetha, okanye yinguqu nje kwindlela ujonga ngayo izinto), inokukhulula nokuxhobisa. Kuyinyani ukuba xa ufumana uxinzelelo olubi okanye ingxaki yempilo yengqondo, awukwazi ukukhetha ukwenza ukuba imingeni yakho iphumelele, kodwa unokukhetha iindlela ofumana uncedo, kwaye unokukhetha oko ukwenza ukuze uhlangabezane .
Nangona ungakuthandi ukhetho olukhoyo okwangoku, nokuba ngaba utshintsho kuphela ongakwenzayo kwisimo sakho sengqondo, uhlala unokukhetha.
Ukuphonononga zakho iinketho.
Xa uziva ulandelwe, yenza uluhlu lwezo zifundo zentsebenzo. Vele ucingisise kwaye ubhale phantsi izinto ngaphandle kokuvavanya kuqala, ngoko ukwazi ngakumbi ukuthabatha ubuchule bakho.
Olu luhlu lunokuba ngumqulu okhulayo, kungekhona into omele uyenze ngayo ngemizuzwana, kodwa inokukunceda ekukhumbuzeni ukukhetha kwakho nokukugcina ekubeni uzizwe uvalelwe. Inokukukhumbuza oko unokulawula, nangona kukho izinto ezininzi ezibekwe.
Buza Iingcamango.
Unokufuna ukuphinda ucingisise nomhlobo ukuze ufumane iingcamango ezingaphezulu kwizenzo onokuthi ungayiqwalasela ekuqaleni. Musa ukudubula ezi ngcamango ngoko nangoko; babhale nje. Ngamanye amaxesha abathandekayo bethu banemibono enzulu okanye banokubona izinto ezingenakuzibona xa sivela kwiingqondo ezigxininiswe okanye ezixinzekile.
Khetha Okulungileyo Kwakho.
Xa unoluhlu, hlalutya nganye kwaye wenze isigqibo malunga neyona ndlela efanelekileyo yezenzo kuwe, kwaye ugcine abanye engqondweni yakho njengendlela yokukhetha. Ungaphendula ngeempendulo ezifanayo owazenzayo phambi kweseshoni yokucamngca, kodwa lo msebenzi ungavulela amehlo akho kwisilinganiselo sokhetho onalo kwimeko ethile. Ukubona amathuba amasha kuya kuba ngumkhwa.
Khumbula iinqunto zakho.
Phinda usebenzise lo mkhuba xa uziva ungene kwiimeko eziphazamisayo ebomini bakho. Kwiimeko ezininzi ezingapheliyo, iintsuku zonke, unokwandisa ingqondo yakho kwizinto ezintsha ngokukwenza ngokukhawuleza nangengqondo.
Iingcebiso:
- Phawula ulwimi lwakho kunye nokuthetha kwakho. Ukuba uthetha ukuthetha ngokusemthethweni, yima. Ukuba ukuthetha kwakho ngokwakho kudla kakubi, funda eli nqaku malunga nemiphumo yokuthetha okungekho nto kunye nendlela yokwenza ukuthetha kwakho kube ngcono .
- Qalisa amagama anjengaye, 'andinakukhetha', kwaye, 'andinako ...' Ungayifaka esikhundleni, 'Ndingakhethi,' okanye, 'Andiyithandi ukukhetha kwam, kodwa ndiza ...' Ukuqaphela nokuvuma ukuba uhlala ukhetha (nangona ukhetho alufanelekanga) lunokukunceda ukuba utshintshe imeko yakho, okanye wamukele ngokulula ukuba ngaba kuyona nto ingcono kunazo zonke ezikhethiweyo.
- Isimo sengqondo sakho sichaphazela ubunzima bakho ngaphezu koyiqonda. Eli nqaku linokukunceda ufunde kabanzi malunga nemeko yengqondo kunye nobuntu obuchaphazela izinga lakho lokunyamezela , ngoko unokwenza utshintsho ukuze ugcine uxinzelelo.