1 - Ubudlelwane: I-Circle Social
Uphando lubonisa ukuba nobudlelwane obungenakulinganiswa ebomini bakho-ulwalamano apho ukusebenzisana maxa wambi kuxhasayo kwaye kulungile kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unobungqingili okanye kungabikho nto-kunokubangela ukuba uxinzelelo olungaphezu kobudlelwane obuhlala bubi. Oku kukuthi, inxalenye, kuba awuyi kuphumla xa ujikeleze aba bantu, kodwa awugcini ukuba uqaphele, nokuba unobungozi kakhulu xa kukho ukungqubana. Kufana nokuxinezeleka okungapheliyo, apho umzimba wakho ungaze uphinde uhlawule ngokupheleleyo kwixinzelelo owaziyo phambi kokuba uqaliswe ngumxhasi olandelayo ojongene nawo ebomini. Ekugqibeleni, kuthatha umthwalo omkhulu.
Ukongezelela, ulwalamano lwentsebenziswano kunye noxinzelelo luye lwaboniswa ukuba lunempembelelo ecacileyo kwimpilo , ekuchaphazela uxinzelelo lwegazi, ukufaka isandla kwisifo senhliziyo, kunye nokuhambelana nezinye iimeko. Ulwalamano lwenu lusempilweni ngokwenene lithatha umthwalo kwimpilo yakho yempilo kwaye luchaphazele uluntu lwakho lwentliziyo. Oku kunokuba nzima kwizengqondo zakho, kwaye kunokukushiya uzive udibeneyo kwaye ukhululekile, kwaye ungenakuthemba ngakumbi ekujonganeni nezinye iingxaki ozijongene nazo ebomini. Yingakho kukubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlaziya kwakhona ubudlelwane bakho, ukuchonga abantu abarhoxisayo, nokunciphisa okanye ukuphelisa ubuhlobo obubi ebomini bakho. Isicwangciso esilandelayo sinokukunceda ukuba unciphise uxinzelelo lwentsebenziswano engapheliyo xa ufuna.
Inyathelo lokuqala
Yenza uluhlu lwabahlobo ebomini bakho. Faka wonke umntu ocinga ngawo xa ucinga 'ngabahlobo bakho', kubandakanye nalabo ubona kuphela kumajelo asekuhlaleni , abo ubona rhoqo, nabo bonke abaphakathi. Kwakhona zibandakanya amaqabane abathandana nabo, ukuba ngaba bakho ubomi ngoku okanye bangabuyela ebomini bakho ngexesha elithile.
2 - Ukuhlola Ubudlelwane: Imibuzo Yokubuza
Isinyathelo Sibini
Gqungqa amagama abantu obaziyo bayakhawuleza: abo bakuxhasa xa uhla kwaye ngokwenene wabelana nawe uvuyo xa izinto ezintle zenzeka kuwe. Ngokumalunga nabanye, hlalutya ubuhlobo ngokunyanisekileyo ukubona ukuba inzuzo okanye inokulimaza kuwe. Le mibuzo ilandelayo inokukunceda:
- Ngaba olu budlelwane luxabisa umlinganiselo womsebenzi ofunekayo ukuwugcina?
- Ngaba lo ngumntu endingamkhetha ukuba abe nobomi bam ukuba sihlangane nje namhlanje? Okanye ngaba ndibambelele kulobu budlelwane ngaphandle komkhwa?
- Ngaba lo mntu undiva ndiziva ndilungile? Ngaba ndingonwabanga ngabo?
- Ngaba lo mhlobo unomncintiswano kunye nam ngendlela engafanelekanga?
- Ngaba ndiyathanda ukuba ndingubani xa ndibano nabo? Okanye ngaba sibonakala sikhupha into embi kakhulu?
- Ndingamthemba njani lo mntu? Ngaba ndingayibala ukuba ngaba ndifuna? Ngaba ndingazixelela ngokukhululekile iimvakalelo zam?
- Ngaba sineminqweno kunye neempawu eziqhelekileyo? Ukuba akunjalo, ngaba ndizuza kwiintlukwano?
- Ngaba ndifumana ubuninzi njengoko ndinika?
- Ukuba ndinike lobu budlelwane umzamo onokufanelwe, ngaba kuya kunceda kwaye ndicebise ubomi bam?
Emva kokuphendula enye yale mibuzo, kufuneka ube nomfanekiso ocacileyo nokuba ngaba olu lamano luhle okanye lubi kuwe. Gqithisa igama lomntu ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ubuhlobo buhle kwaye buxhasa, okanye ukuba kunokwenzeka, kunikezelwa ixesha elifanelekileyo lexesha kunye namandla. Ngaphandle koko, unqamle igama.
3 - Ukuhamba phambili
Isinyathelo Sithathu
Ngoku gxininisa ngakumbi ulwalamano olunalo nabantu abachongwe amagama abo. Khumbula ukuba ubudlelwane, xa bephilile kwaye bencedisa, bafanele ixesha kunye namandla owenza kubo kwaye ubanike ixesha elifanelekileyo. Ngokuphathelele amagama anqambileyo, unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuqhubeka uthumela amakhadi eholide kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane obusondeleyo xa ubona ngethuba, okanye ukuba ufuna ukuhlaziya. Kodwa ungabavumeli ukuba baqhubeke nokunyusa uxinzelelo kunye nokungabi nantoni ebomini bakho. Ukugcina amandla akho kubahlobo bakho bokwenene.
Ukuba ezinye zamagama odibana nazo zingabamalungu entsapho, abasebenzi abasebenzisana nabo okanye abantu abanesizathu esithile kunzima ukuphelisa okanye ukuphepha, eli nqaku malunga nokujongana nabantu abanzima kunokukunceda ukuba ubhekane nabo ngendlela oya kunciphisa uxinzelelo abangayifaka ebomini bakho.