Ezinye iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo zingasishiya sizive sizixinzelelekile kwaye singagxininiswa. Singafumana uxinzelelo olungapheliyo lwezinga eliphantsi ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba luvela phi, okanye sinokuziva sisenokuxinzeleleka kabuhlungu ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba kunokunciphisa okanye kugwenywe. Ezi zilandelayo zizinto eziqhelekileyo zengcinezelo, ngolwazi malunga nendlela yokuphatha ngayo.
1 - Ubudlelwane obunobuthi
Uhlobo loxinzelelo esinalo kwiintsebenziswano ezingqubuzanayo luyingozi nakakhulu. Enyanisweni, uxinzelelo lolwalamano olusoloko luguqukayo phakathi kwezinto ezintle kunye nezimbi (njengokuba ubuhlobo obunokuba nalo "frenemy") bunokunyusa ngaphezu kokuxinezeleka kubudlelwane obuhlala bubi kwaye buphikisana. Ulwalamano olushukunyiswayo ngokwasemzimbeni lunokubangela ukuxhamla, ukuxhalaba, umsindo kunye nokuxinezeleka okungapheliyo, zonke izinto ezinokuchaphazela unonophelo kunye nempilo yakho.
Ukuba unobungozi obunobuthi obukugxininisa, kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ekuphuculeni ulwalamano okanye ukuwususa ebomini bakho. Iinkqubo zoqhagamshelwano , ezifana nokuqinisekiswa nokuphulaphula kakuhle , kunokukunceda ukuxazulula iingxabano ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, sinokusebenza kuphela kuthi kwaye sinokuphucula ubuhlobo kuphela kwindawo apho omnye umntu kufuneka ajoyine emsebenzini. Ukudala imida enempilo kunganciphisa uxinzelelo kubo bonke abandakanyekayo. Khumbula: ukudibanisa ethile abantu abanokuthi bangabonisi imifuno emihle. Ukuba unobungane obungathandabuzekiyo, umgama unokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokusingatha umngeni - mhlawumbi ngokusekwa kwemida ecacileyo, eyomeleleyo okanye ngokuvumela ukuhamba ngokupheleleyo.
Ngokuchonga ubudlelwane bakho obunobuthi, kwaye usebenze ekuphuculeni okanye ekupheliseni, unokunciphisa okanye uphelise iimeko ezinokujamelana nazo ezinzima.
2 - I- Clutter Kwimo Yakho
Abaninzi bethu abanakukuqonda oko ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ukugcina indawo enokubangela inokubangela ukuba uxinzeleleke kakhulu. Kukho iindlela eziliqela apho oku kwenzeka khona. Ngokomzekelo, unokufumana uchitha ixesha elide ukukhangela izinto kwindawo yakho engalungelekanga, ukuchitha ixesha lakho. Unokuvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukumema nabani na, okanye usebenzise ngokupheleleyo indawo, enokukwenza uzive uxinezelekile okanye ukhululekile. Ukuhlala nje kwisiza esinezinto ezinokuthi kungabonakalisa amandla akho engqondweni njengoko ingqondo yakho isebenza ixesha elide ukuqhuba yonke into ecaleni kwakho. Ubomi bakho bunokuziva bubucayi kwaye buxakeke, kwaye umcamango wendlela omele uyenze ngayo ukwenza ukuhlela i-clutter inokuvelisa iimvakalelo zokungancedi.
Wonke umntu unendawo yakhe yokuthuthuzela i-clutter, kodwa ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba indawo yakho iqulethe i-clutter engaphezulu kunokuba ungayima, kufuneka ujongise imeko ngaphambi kokuba kuveliswe uxinzelelo. Ingaba uthatha imizuzu elineshumi imihla ngemihla ukucima imilingo ejikelezile, okanye ukuthatha iveki ukucima kunye nokulungiswa kwakhona, mhlawumbi uya kufumana ukuba iziphumo zifanele umzamo, njengoko ufumanisa kwimeko eninzi, ukuphumla kwimihla ngemihla kunye nemini.
Ngokukhupha i-clutter yakho , ukulungelelanisa , nokwenza indawo yokuthula , unokuguqula imeko yokuphila engxaki (okanye indawo yokusebenza) kwindawo esebenzela yona.
3 - I- Clutter Ngendlela Ophila ngayo
Ukuba unjengabantu abaninzi, ezinye zezinto ezinobomi ebomini bakho zithatha iifom zangamaxesha ahlukeneyo kunye nabaphathi bezinto ezibizwa ngokuthi " ukunyamezela ." Ezi zizinto ezibangela uxinzelelo oluncinci oluthwalazelayo, ungaqapheli ukuba uxinzelelo olunokubangela ukongeza. Ukunyamezela okuqhelekileyo kuyimbopheleleko esiyavumelana nayo (ngenxa yokuba siyithiya hatshi ), imikhwa engafanelekanga (ngenxa yokuba asifuni ukwenza umsebenzi wokuyeka), okanye nayiphi na enye yezinto ezenza sizive sisicinezelekileyo nangona akufuneki. Ukuba nobomi obuzaliswe ukunyamezela kunokubangela ukuba ' uzixakeke ngokufa ngamadada .' Nangona uxinzelelo olwenziwa yiyiphi na yalezi ziimeko alunakukubonakala ngokukhawuleza, ukufakwa ngokuthe ngcembe kwezi ngcinezelo ezincinci kunokukufumana.
Ukuze ugweme loo makhelo, qalisa ngokuchonga ukunyamezela kwakho , ngoko unokubaluleka ukuba yiyiphi inokuphelisa kuqala, kwaye unqande ukunyamezela ebomini bakho ngomnye. Oku kungabonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi omningi, kodwa ukunyamezela okuya kukuphelisa, ukukhuthazwa ngakumbi kunye namandla okufuneka usebenze ekunqumeni ukuphumla. Uya kugcina ixesha elininzi, amandla angaphezulu, kunye neemeko ezincinci ebomini bakho.
4 - Ukutshisa-Ukukhupha iziganeko zoMsebenzi wakho
Ukutshisa kubonakaliswa yimvakalelo yokuphelelwa amandla, ukungabi nalutho, ukunyaniseka, kunye nezinye iimpawu ezimbi. Ingakhokelela ekukhuselweni kwe-immunity, ukunciphisa umkhiqizo kunye nokubi. Eminye imisebenzi kunye neendlela zokuphila zingaba negalelo ekutshiseni, kubandakanywa neemeko apho uziva ungenakho ukulawula. Ukuqaphela okungekhoyo okanye imbuyekezo, iimfuno ezicacileyo, izigwebo eziphezulu iimpazamo kunye nezinye izinto ezinokunyanzelisa uxinzelelo. Ukuphepha okanye ukuhlawulela ezi zinto kunokunyusa ulonwabo jikelele.
Ngelixa ungeke ukwazi ukulawula rhoqo izinto ozijongene nazo emsebenzini, unokuthatha ngokunyathelo amanyathelo okunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye ufumane iindlela zokufumana nayiphi na into onayo. Ngokomzekelo, ungathatha ixesha ukuvuselela iinjongo zakho. Unokwenza umkhwa wokuba udlulisele ukuphumelela kunye nabo osebenza nabo, kwaye ubacele ukuba benze okufanayo, njengendlela yokunikezana ngolwazi olungayifumani kwindawo yokusebenzela. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukugcina ubomi bakho kude nomsebenzi njengengcinezelo engaphantsi .
5 - Iingcamango zokuzikhusela
Ukujamelana neengcinezelo ngesimo sengqondo esingalunganga kunokukwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu. Iipateni zokucinga ezingalunganga zingenza imeko exinzelelekileyo iveze ngakumbi ingxaki, okanye ingenza ezinye iimeko ezingathintekiyo ziziva zixinzelelekile. Kungenxa yokuba ukuphendula kwethu uxinzelelo kubangelwa xa sibhekana nembono yokusongela impilo yethu yomzimba, okanye xa siqonda ukuba asinayo imithombo eyimfuneko yokusingatha imeko kakuhle. Xa sibheka imeko engcono kakhulu (umzekelo, njengengxaki "kunokuba" ingozi, " okanye xa sizikhumbuza ngamandla ethu kunye nezibonelelo kunokuba siphumelele kwizinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle), le nto ibonwa njengento engaphantsi uxinzelelo okanye usongela.
Kukho iindlela ezintle zokwenza ukulwa neengcamango zokuzibulala. Qala ngokuziqonda ngakumbi ezo ngcamango ezingcolileyo kunye neendlela zokucinga, ngoko unokuzicoca kwakhona kwaye ukhethe iingcamango ezahlukeneyo, ezixhobisa ngakumbi . Esinye icebo kukusebenzisa i- journaling kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba umkhwa wokucinga okungcono. Ukuba ufumene ubanjwe kwimizekelo yokucinga engacingiyo , ukuphucula ukucamngca kunokukunceda ukuba ugcine umgama wengqondo kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo. Ekugqibeleni, ukufunda ukuphucula izakhono kunokukunceda ukuba ugweme indlela yokucinga egxininisekile, ngoko unokusondela kwiimeko ezivela kwindawo efanelekileyo.