Into Ongayaziyo Ngokuxinezeleka Kungakulimaza!
Ukuxinezeleka kukuba ngamava onke - inxalenye engenakukhunjulwa yokuba ngumntu - kodwa uxinzelelo olungapheliyo lunokuthatha umthwalo onzima kwimpilo nokuphila. Izinga lokunyamezela likhulayo kwiminyaka yamuva, kwaye indlela efanelekileyo yokulawula uxinzelelo iya kuba yinto eninzi kubantu. Ukuqhayisa, abantu abanomdla, abaninzi bethu bafunda ngakumbi ngokunyamezela kunye nendlela yokuyilawula kakuhle.
Nangona kunjalo, iingcamango ezithile eziphosakeleyo malunga nokunyanzeliswa nokulawulwa kwengcinezelo ziyaqhubeka, kwaye ezi ngcamango ziba nefuthe elibi kumandla abantu abaninzi ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo ebomini babo. Ezi zilandelayo zizinye zezona ziqhelekileyo-kunye neyona nto inobungozi-engxaki echaphazelekayo ndiyayiva.
Uxinzelelo lwe-Stress All About About Elimination of Stress From Your Life
Uninzi, ukuba akuninzi, abantu endithetha nabo malunga noxinzelelo, bathambekele ekucingeni ukuba ukuphathwa kwengcinezelo kufana nokwehlisa yonke into ebangela ubomi. Ewe, oku kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yokulawula uxinzelelo, kodwa hayi, oku akusiyo yonke injongo. Inyaniso kukuba ayinakwenzeka okanye ayinqwenelekayo ekupheliseni konke uxinzelelo ebomini bomntu. Enye into, sidinga ubuncinci ubuncinci kwimpilo yethu ukuze sikwazi ukusebenza kakuhle; sidinga umngeni ukuze sikhule. Kwakhona, kukho i-subtype yesondlo (eyaziwa ngokuba yi- eustress ) enenzuzo ngokwenene kwimpilo yakho kunye nobukhulu, ngaphandle kokuba unganamathuba amaninzi.
(Funda ngaphezulu malunga nohlobo loxinzelelo olulungileyo apha.) Ekugqibeleni, bekungeke kwenzeke ukunqumla konke uxinzelelo, kwaye unokwenza uxinzelelo olungakumbi xa uzama!
Kutheni le ngcamango iphosakeleyo: Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ukuphelisa ingcinezelo yonke yinjongo, uya kulahleka kwiintlobo zezinye iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo.
Unokudala amanqanaba aphezulu okuxinezeleka kuwe ekusebenziseni umgomo ongeke ukwazi ukufikelela.
Indlela engcono: Kuphilile ukuvuma ukuba uxinzelelo luyingxenye yobomi, kwaye ke usebenze ekupheliseni oko unokukwazi nokuphuhlisa izicwangciso zokulawula uxinzelelo olungenakukuphelisa ebomini bakho.
Unesimo esifanelekileyo, Awunakuze Ufune Ukuziva Uxinezelekile
Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sisona sodwa ummeli phakathi komntu ogxininisekile kunye nesinye. Kukho inani elifanelekileyo leencwadi kunye neengcali ezixhasa le ngcamango. Musa ukungahambi kakuhle-ukuguquka kwisimo sengqondo kunokukwenza umehluko omkhulu kumanqanaba oxinzelelo. (Jonga olu luhlu lwezengqondo zokunceda uxinzelelo lwengqondo kwaye uya kubona oko ndiyithethayo.) Noko ke, uxinzelelo oluninzi luba nempembelelo, nangona ukuba lunzima "kunzima" kunokuba "luyisongelo," nangona usondela entloko -kuze unqobe, nangona unesimo sengqondo esiphezulu kwihlabathi kwaye ujongane nemeko njengento efanelekileyo. Ukuba imeko yakho idinga impendulo kwaye kuthatha nawuphi umzamo wokugcina umlinganiso wemoya (ukuba uyazi ukuba ujongene umngeni), uxinzelelo luyaqhubeka luthatha inzuzo, nangona kungenjalo kuthethwe kwinqanaba elifanayo.
Kutheni le ngcamango iphosakeleyo : Abantu bangakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ukuba banesimo sengqondo esilungileyo, akukho nanye amava abajongene naloo mingeni onokujamelana nawo angenza impembelelo, ngenxa yoko, asebenzi nzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba bahlale behle; le nkolelo ingakhokelela ekuzihloleni okubi. Basenokuthi bahluleke ukuqonda nokulawula imiphumo yoxinzelelo abaphantsi kwayo (de kube umonakalo sele usuyenziwe) ukuba abazifumani "njengagxininiswe.
Indlela engcono: Sekunjalo umsebenzi wokugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo nokucinga ngobomi bakho ngendlela enamandla. Kodwa khumbula ukuba nangona ubuninzi bezinto ezinokubangela uxinzelelo kunokuthatha umthwalo wenyama, kwaye unokunyamekela umzimba wakho xa ujongene nemingeni ebomini-nangona "ungaziva" ucinezelekile.
Mane Ufunde Iindlela Ezifanelekileyo Neengxaki Zakho Ziya Kuphela
Izindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo ezifana nokuzilolonga , ukucamngca kunye nokucinga okulungileyo kunokunciphisa amava oomxinzelelo kunye nokwenza uxinzelelo kwixinzelelo. Nangona kunjalo, akukho buchule lunokuphelisa ngokupheleleyo uxinzelelo onokulufumana ebomini.
Kutheni le ngcamango iphosakeleyo: Ukuba abantu balindele ukusetyenziswa koxinzelelo lokuxinzelela uxinzelelo, okanye basebenze kakuhle kuzo zonke iimeko, banokugqiba ekubeni le nto ayisebenzelanga kwaye ilahle. Basenokucinga ukuba kukho into "engalunganga" nabo ukuba baziva becinezelekile, baze badikibala-kwaye banokugxininiswa ngakumbi
Indlela engcono: Khumbula ukuba konke ukunyamezela akukwazi ukupheliswa, kunye neendlela ezifanelekileyo - kwaye oku kulungile. (Khumbula into esiyithetha ngayo ngaphambili, malunga nokuba ufuna njani uxinzelelo ebomini bakho ukuze uhlale uphilile kwaye ujabule?) Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukulawula uxinzelelo kukugcina ukulingana - ukuphatha okokuza kunye nokuya kwindawo oyenzayo kufuneka kwenziwe kwaye uxolo nalo. Abacindezeli banokukugxotha okwethutyana ukukhawuleza, kodwa ukuxinwa kwezixhobo zokuphucula zikhona ukunceda ubuyele kwindawo yokuziva uxolo kwaye ulinganise; Into ebalulekileyo yokukhumbula kukuba ngamanye amaxesha kufuna ukuba umsebenzi omncinci uphinde uhlawule emva kokuphazamiseka kwengcinezelo, ingakumbi ukuba kukho into enkulu njengokuphela kobudlelwane, ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, ukugula okukhulu, okanye ukufa intsapho. Ezinye izixinzelelo zingenakugwema, kwaye iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo azikwazi ukunqanda oku, kodwa zinokusinceda sikwazi ukujamelana kangcono. Ingqalelo ebalulekileyo yokugqibela kukuba iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo zingasebenza ngokumangalisayo, kodwa kufuneka ziqhutyelwe ukwenzela ukuba luncedo - awukwazi ukuthatha iklasi ekucamngeni, umzekelo, kwaye uvune imivuzo ebomini bakho ngaphandle koko ukucamngca rhoqo. Ngokufanayo kunjalo ngoqeqesho , iziboniso , ukuphefumula , kunye nezinye iindlela zokusebenza. Ziyakwazi ukuzithembela ekuxinezelekeni, kodwa aziyikuphelisa ngokupheleleyo imiphumo emibi yoxinzelelo. (Nangona kunjalo, ezi zindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo zizisa iingenelo ezaneleyo ekufuneka zizenze njalo rhoqo njengoko unako ukuzenza.) Amasu afanelekileyo anokunceda, kodwa awamiseli uxinzelelo, kwaye kufuneka asebenze rhoqo.