1 - Isingeniso: Ukuxinwa kwengqondo kunye neengxaki zobuntu
Kucaciswe kakuhle ukuba inxalenye enkulu yokuxinzezeleka ingabonakaliswa kwimibono yethu yeziganeko, kunye nendlela esicwangcisa ngayo into esijamelana nayo. Oko kukuthi, abantu ababini banokukwazi ukufumana iimeko ezifanayo kunye kunye nomntu omnye uya kugxininiswa kwaye ujabule ngelixa omnye eziva exinekile kwaye ephazamisekile. Umntu wesithathu kwimeko efanayo unokuziva uxinzelelo oluthile, kodwa kungekhona kwimeko yokuziva ephazamiseke. Ukungafani kwezi mpendulo kunokuguqulela kwintliziyo enkulu yolonwabo kunye nolwaneliseko lobomi, kwaye kwanokuphucula impilo kwabo baziva bengagxininiswa kwiimeko eziphila kuzo. Yintoni eyenza umntu omnye abe nokuziva uxinzelelo kunye nokukhungatheka xa omnye umntu eziva ehlalile okanye enamandla?
Izinto zobuntu kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo
Abanye bethu bazalwa ngokuthe xaxa ukunyanzelisa. Abahlengikazi kwizibhedlele baye bakwazi ukuchonga iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ezintsontsheni zamantombazana asemini kuphela! Ezinye iintsana zithatha kakubi kakhulu ukunyusa okanye ukuguquka kunokuba abanye bahlala bengenakulungiswa. Ezi zinguqu zengqondo ziyazalwa kwaye zihlala zihlala zingancinci kodwa zinganciphisa ubuncinane kunye namava abantwana kunye nemigudu eyenziwa ngabantu abadala. Ezi zibonelelo kwi- self-intetho , kunye nazo zonke ezinye iingcebiso kule nqaku, zinokukunceda ukunyamezeleka kwinqanaba lakho nokuba ungeyena ukhululekile ukunyamezela.
2 - Ucinga ngeePatttern: Ulungelo, ukulungelelanisa, kunye nohlobo lwe-A Ubuntu
Iingcamango zifunyenwe ziphilile kwaye zinonwabo kunye nokuphumelela ngakumbi ebomini. Iingcamango zivame ukunciphisa nokucwangcisa iziganeko ezimbi ezenzeka ebomini babo ngelixa zijolise ngokukodwa kwaye zithathe iikhredithi ngokwabo ngeziganeko ezilungileyo. Ezi zindawo zokunyuka ukunyamezela kunye nokuzithemba okukhulu, ubudlelwane obuqinileyo bomntu kunye nezinye iziganeko zokuphila ezilungileyo. Ngelixa abanye abantu baqhelekile ukuba banelungelo lokuba nethemba kunabanye, ukuxhelela kuyindlela efanayo yokucinga engakwazi ukufunda nokuhlakulela. Ezinye iindlela zokucinga ezichaphazela amanqanaba abantu abaxinezelekileyo (kunye namazinga oxinzelelo abasijikelezile) ziquka iimpawu zeBakala A kunye nokuthambekela okugqibeleleyo.
- Iimbuzo: Ziyiphi i-Optimist?
I-3 - Impilo Yempilo Yokwenyama Yokuxinwa Kweengxaki
Sonke sisebenza kangcono xa imizimba yethu inemeko ebalulekileyo. Ngako oko, abo banokuzinyamekela ngokwabo ngokuqhelekileyo banamathuba okubamba iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo kunokuba abo bangayizinyamekanga ngokwabo, kwaye bangcono kunokuba bona ngokwabo babeya kuba bengenakuzinyamekela ngokwabo . Sivame ukunyaniseka ukubaluleka kwezinto ezifana nokulala ubusuku obuhle, ukutya ukutya okunempilo, nokuzivocavoca rhoqo . Nangona kunjalo, imikhuba enempilo ingakubeka kwindawo engcono yokusingatha uxinzelelo oluza kubomi bakho. Ezi zixhobo zilandelayo ziyakunceda ukuba unakekele ngakumbi umzimba wakho ukuze ukwazi ukujongana kakuhle noxinzelelo oluzayo.
4 - Iikhono zoKuququzelela ngokukhawuleza ukuNika iNgxaki yokuXininisa
Abo bafumana izakhono zokuphikisana kakuhle xa bejamelene neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo bangaphinda bahlawule ngokukhawuleza kwiinkxalabo ezinkulu kunye ezincinci eziza imihla ngemihla. Nangona kukho iindlela ezininzi zokunciphisa uxinzelelo, ngamnye kunye neenzuzo zakhe, kubalulekile ukuba ube neengxaki zokuxininisa ezandleni ongasisebenzisa ngethuba elithile lokukhungatheka okanye xa uzive ukhululekile oya kuphelisa ukuphendula komzimba wakho ukubuyisela iinkqubo zomzimba wakho kwimeko yokulingana (njengoko impendulo yokulwa-okanye-yindiza idala utshintsho oluthile lwezinto eziphilayo olwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuphendula ngokuzinzileyo), ukuze ukwazi ukuphendula kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ngendlela engqiqweni kunokuphendula indlela enempilo. Ezi zilandelayo zokuxinwa kwengcinezelo zingasetyenziselwa kukunceda ufike ngokukhawuleza xa uzive ukhululekile .
5 - Indlela i-Locus yokuLawula yangaphakathi inokukhokelela njani ukuxinezeleka koxinzelelo
Igama elithi "locus of control" lithetha ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ubomi bakho bulawulwa nguwe okanye ngemikhosi engaphandle kwakho. Labo abanendawo yokulawula yangaphakathi bavakalelwa kukuba bakhetha ebomini babo kunye nokulawula kwiimeko zabo; Ngokuchasene, abo abaneendawo zokulawula zangaphandle bazivakalelwa ngakumbi kwintsalelo yeziganeko zangaphandle. Njengoko ucinga ukuba, abo baneendawo zangaphakathi zokulawula bavakala ukuba banwabile, baninzi bekhululekile, kwaye bancinci. Bayavuya kakhulu ngempilo engcono (mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba bafumana ubuncinci obunzima obungapheliyo obubangelwa kukuba bangenamandla), kwaye banelisekile ngobomi ngokubanzi. Mhlawumbi akumangalisi ukuba abo abaneendawo zangaphandle zokulawula banokubandezeleka ngakumbi kunye nezinye iingxaki zempilo, kwaye bahlala behlala kwiimeko apho baya kufumana uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo, bazive bengenamandla okutshintsha iimeko zabo, ezongeza nje uxinzelelo lomthwalo. Ingingqi yakho yokulawula ingabunjwa ziziganeko zobuntwaneni bakho okanye umntu omdala (nokuba unako ukufumana impembelelo enamandla kwimeko enokuthi unokukhokelela ekubeni uxhotyiswe okanye ufunde ukungazincedi) kwaye uqhutywe yimizekelo yokucinga. Ukuba uziva ukuba indawo yakho yokulawula ingasebenzisa ukutshintsha, ezi zinto zinganceda .
> Umthombo:
> Myers, David G., Ph.D. Ukuphandeleka Inwabe. Avon Books, eNew York.