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Ndingathanda ukukuzisa eNenejune. Ixesha elide lokutshaya i- closet , uNenejune ekugqibeleni waqhawula isigqabi sakhe sokugqibela waza wafuna ukuxhaswa kwe-stop stop. Ufumene iforamu yokuxhasa i-Smoking Cessation, kwaye wakhawuleza ukuzinza. Emva kweenyanga ezili-10, wakwazi ukuthetha ngokuzithemba ukuba akayi kuphinda abuyele ekubhemeni.
Siyabonga ngokuxelela ibali lakho, uNenejune. Uphefumlelwe sonke.
Ukubhema kwakuyinxalenye yenkcubeko xa ndiyinkwenkwe
Ndiyathandabuze ukuba ibali lam liya kuba lihluke ngakumbi kunabanye bayeke ukutshaya amabali. Njengoko singabalulekanga njengabantu ngabanye, ndifumene ukuba njengama- addicts i-nicotine , sifana kakhulu. Ukuba nabani na abatsha ukuyeka ukufunda oku, mhlawumbi baya kubona into yabo kwaye baqonde ukuba nabo, banokuyeka ukutshaya.
Ndaqala ukutshaya ngexesha le-15 ubudala. Loo nto yayiza kuba ngo-1968, kwaye abantu bebhema yonke indawo ngelo xesha. Kukho iintengiso ze-cigarette kwi-TV, kumaphephancwadi, nakwiibhilidi. Abatshintshi bavutha kwiTV nakumafilimu. Abantu bavutha kwiivenkile, iivenkile, iiofisi, nasemakhaya abo. Nabani na, nawuphi na ubudala, angayithenga i-cigarettes kumatshini malunga neepenti ezingama-50 ipakethi.
Uba utata, kodwa umama akazange akwenze. Akukho mntu wandixelele ukuba ndingabumi, kodwa ngandlela-thile ndazi ukuba andifanele ukuba, kubangelwa kukuba ndingaphantsi kweminyaka engama-18.
Umama kunye noyise baqhawule xa ndandineminyaka engama-12. Ngenye yeetyelelo zika-tata (xa ndandineminyaka eyi-15), ndathatha iigarethi ezimbini kwipakethi yakhe kunye nentombazana ethatha amabini emaphakeni omama wakhe. Andikwazi ukukhumbula inkqubo yokucinga emva kwalokhu - Ndicinga ukuba sinokugqiba nje ukuba kuya kuba mnandi.
Ngaloo busuku sasijikeleza ekupheleni komgama wethu wokutshaya.
Ndiyathanda ukuba bekuyintoni na ukuba ndigule, kodwa endaweni yoko, ndandiyithanda. Into elandelayo uyazi, amantombazana am kunye nathi saqala ukutshaya malunga nabafana esasixhanye nabo kwaye sonke sasicinga ukuba sihle kakhulu. Ndazifihla umama kwaye ndaye ndatsho ngathi ndivutha njengomsi kumakhwenkwe.
Umkhuba wokufihla ukutshaya kwam
Ndaya emsebenzini wesikhathi esigcwele emva kokufunda esikolweni esiphakeme kwaye ndanyuka ndedwa kwimi-18. Ndanditshisa ekhaya, emsebenzini, nakuyo yonke indawo ndihamba nabahlobo bam, kodwa andisayi kubhema umama. Umama akazange avume ukutshaya. Wawwamkela kwabanye abantu, kodwa ndazi ukuba akaze akwamkele oko kum. Ndamthanda kwaye ndamhlonela umama kakhulu kwaye akafuni ukumlimaza okanye kumcasula. Ndatsho konke ukuvumba komsiya kubahlobo bam.
Xa ndatshata nomyeni wam eneminyaka engama-23 ubudala, wavutha kwakhona, kwaye xa umama ejikelezile, kwakulula ukubeka umsi womsi womyeni wam. Ndibeka uxinzelelo ukuba ndize ndibuhlungu umama. Udadewethu omdala wabanjwa ngenxa yezinto zonke, kuquka ukutshaya, kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndizama nzima ukuba yintombi entle.
Ndandimdala ngoku kwaye ndandiziva ndiyiziphukuphuku ukufihla umama kum, kodwa ekude kwaqhubeka, ngaba ndingafuni ukuba azi ukuba nditshiza. Ukutyelela nobaba bebambalwa kwaye bephakathi, kwaye andizange ndibheke naye.
Kancinci imithetho yaqalisa ukuqinisa ababhemayo eCalifornia. Ndicinga ukuba kwakukho ngexesha lama-80 xa saqala ukukhetha indawo yokubhema kwiivenkile nakwiofisi apho ndasebenza khona.
Kwakuyi-1990 xa sithuthela kwindlu entsha entsha kwisixeko ngokuhamba kweyure ukusuka kwikhaya lethu kunye neentsapho zethu. Umyeni wam nathi senze imithetho: Akukho zicathulo kwiphepha elitsha, kwaye akukho ukutshaya kwindlu entsha.
Ndikhumbula ukuba udadewethu wayihleka ngokungafuni ukutshaya kwindlu kwaye wayezibuza ngokukhawuleza ukuba bekude kangakanani ixesha. Ewe, yahlala iphelileyo, kwaye indlu apho siphila kuyo ihlala isingenangomsi ngaphakathi.
Kakade, oko kwakuthetha ntoni ukuba sichitha ixesha elide ngaphandle kwipatio nakwigalaji. Umyeni wam wayenomdlalo omncinane weTV kwi-workbench yakhe kwigaraji kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndiyabukela i-movie yonke apho ukuze ndibheke ngelixa ndibukele.
Kule minyaka, ukutshaya kwakungenakwamkeleka ngaphantsi nangaphezulu. Emva kokuhamba ngowe-1990, ndandifuna umsebenzi omtsha kwaye kwakukuloo ndawo apho abaninzi abaqashi baseCalifornia bengakuqeshanga ukuba babengazi ukuba utshaya.
Ngoko, kwiminyaka engama-14 ezayo, ndandifumana isidingo sokufihla umsila kumqeshi kunye nabasebenzi. Kwakukho abantu abambalwa eofisini ababeshushu, kodwa bekuncinane kakhulu kwaye bajongelwa phantsi baze bathethe. Kwakhona, ndandizama ukuba yintombazana entle kwaye andinakuze ndibe neentloni zokuvuma ukuba ndingumtshayi.
Kwakungenakwenzeka ukunandipha umsebenzi wam xa yonke into endinokuyicinga ukuba yayiphuma kuyo ukutshaya. Ngexesha lesidlo ndasuka emotweni yam ukuze ndibe ngumsi kwaye ndizange ndihambe ngesidlo sasemini nabasebenzi bam kunye nabo. Ndiyesaba iziganeko ezifana nepikiniki yeofisi kunye neqela leKrisimesi. Kwakubuhlungu ukuzama ukufihla ukutshaya, kodwa ke ndakhetha ukutshaya.
Ngowe-1993, eneminyaka engama-42, umyeni wam wavelisa iingxaki zeentliziyo zakhe zokuqala waza wangena nge-angioplasty ukuze avule imivumba. Wayengumgijimi esikolweni esiphakeme kwaye waqala ukutshaya kamva kunobomi kunoko, kodwa umonakalo wenziwe. Wabuya ekhaya evela esibhedlele njengomntu ongathethiyo.
Ndaqhubeka nditshisa (ngaphandle) kwaye andizange ndijonge ukuyeka. Kwakungenakucingeka, kwakungenakwenzeka, kwakungekho mbuzo. Ndandikhathazekile ngempilo yakhe, kodwa ngo-40, ndandingakhathazeki ngokwam. Indlela umyeni endibekezelela ngayo andiyi kukwazi, kodwa wenza.
Umthwalo onzima wokuSayeza eMfihlakeleyo
Ngoku ndafumana ingxaki entsha. Ndandinomyeni onesifo senhliziyo owayeka ukutshaya. Andizange ndiphinde nditshitshise inkohlakalo yomsi phezu kwakhe xa ndijikeleze umama.
Ngoku kwafuneka ndihambe kwimiba ephakamileyo yokuhlamba umsi womsi kwaye ndimele ndibalekele ukufihla zonke izinto zokutshaya epilini kunye negaraji ngaphambi kokuba umama afikelele ukutyelela.
Xa ndihamba kunye nomama, ndandisoloko ndikho isizathu sokuba simele sithathe imoto yakhe endaweni yam. Ukuba umama wayesazi malunga nokutshaya kwam, akazange avumele.
Amaholide kunye nezinye iintlanganiso zeentsapho zazibuhlungu ngenxa yokuba andisakwazi ukugubha umyeni wam. Ndaqala ukugqoka i- nicotin patch ukuze ndincede ndihambe ngeeholide nakwezinye iimeko apho ndingenako ukutshaya. Ndenza izizathu zokungahambi ndawo okanye ukwenza izinto nabahlobo kunye nezihlobo ezingenakudla.
Ndonwabile ngokwenene ukuba ndishiywe yedwa ukuze ndibhebhe yonke into endifuna ukuyifumana emzimbeni wam. Andizange ndifune ukujikeleza abantu abaninzi abazange bavume ukutshaya. Ndingathanda ukutshaya kwaye ndihlaselwe ngabantu.
Ndicinga ukuba baninzi abantu bazama ukuyeka amaninzi kwixesha lokuqhuma kwabo. Ayindim. Andizange ndifune ukuyeka kwaye andizange ndizame. Andizange ndibe nabantwana, ngoko ndandithanda kakhulu ukuzingca nokwenza njengoko ndithanda.
Ngo-2004, ndathatha umhlala-phantsi xa inkampani endiyisebenzele yona yayithengiswa kwaye yaphuma ngaphandle kwimeko. Ngoku ndandisekhaya kwaye ndikhululekile ukutshaya ngaphezu kwanini ngaphambili. Okwangoku ndandinomkhuhlane wokutshaya oqhelekileyo ekuseni kwaye xa ndihleka okanye ndithetha kakhulu. Umyeni wam ukhathazekile ngam ukutshaya nokukhwehlela kakhulu. Wazama ukungangidli, kodwa rhoqo ngexesha elithile wayedla into kwaye ndiza kuthi andifuni ukuthetha ngako.
Ndandingaqala ukukhathazeka malunga nokuba ndaphila, kwaye andizange ndibe ncinane. Ndandisoyika ngempilo yam, kodwa kungekhona okoyika, kwaye ndandisifuna ukutshaya. Emva koko, ndandingakaze ndibe ne-bronchitis okanye i-pneumonia, kwaye ndandibanda nje ngubanda malunga neminyaka emihlanu, ngoko ndagqiba ekubeni ndisempilo enhle.
Ngendlela, uTatomkhulu wamtshaya waza wafa ngumhlaza wemiphunga phakathi kweminyaka engama-60. Uninawa akazange atshise kwaye wahlala iminyaka engama-91. Umalume wamtshaya waza wafa ngumhlaza wamaphaphu xa wayeneminyaka engama-60. Uomane wamtshaya waza wafa ngesifo senhliziyo ekupheleni kweminyaka engama-60. Uba utata kwaye wayenentlungu emininzi kwaye wayedla ngokuhlinzwa ngaphambi kokuba afe ngenxa yokuhluleka kwesibindi kwiminyaka engama-60. Ngaba ndatsho umama angazange atshe? Uneminyaka engama-80, ukhangele malunga nama-60, unempilo, usebenza, ulungele, kwaye unesikhumba esincinci kunendodakazi yakhe eneminyaka engama-56 ubudala! Yintoni eza kuthatha ihlabathi ukuze ndifumane umlutha onjengaye?
Uloyiko lweSitulo zokuSuba
Ndiphakathi koodade abathathu kwaye sonke saqala ukutshaya njengabantu abaselula. Sasibahlobo abahle kakhulu kwaye sasoloko sihamba kwaye sasizihlaziya kunye, kwaye sasihlala sitshitshana.
Udadewethu omdala wabulawa ngumdlavuza wekolon ngo-2005 xa wayeneminyaka engama-53 kwaye ndandineminyaka engama-52. Ukufa kwakhe kwakubuhlungu kum kunye nentsapho yethu yonke, kodwa ngakumbi umama. Olu qalisa ukwethuyika kokufa kunye nokwesaba kwam ukukhathaza umama ukuba wayenokulahlekelwa yintombi. Uloyiko lokufa lukhokelela ekubeni ndoyike ngokwenene ukutshaya.
Kwiminyaka emithathu uloyiko lwalukhula, njengoko inzondo yam yokutshaya nokuzonda . Ndisayi kutshaya kwaye ndingazi ukuba ndiza kushiya njani. Ndakhala ebusuku, ndibuza ukuba kutheni ndizange ndizame ukuyeka iminyaka edlulileyo. Ndamcela kuThixo ukuba axolele kwaye ngenjongo yokuzama ukuyeka ukutshaya . Njalo ekuseni ndasuka ndaza ndagqiba ekubeni ndimele ndibe ngileyo, kwaye ndiza kuhamba ngqo kwipharayi ndize ndikhanyise enye icuba. Lobu bubomi bomlutha we-nicotine .
Ngo-Agasti 23, 2008, ndavuswa ngubanda obubi. Ngoku, intloko encinci ebandayo yayinganelanga ukuba ndihlale ndibhema kwixesha elidlulileyo, kodwa ngeli xesha lihlukile. Umqala wam wenzakele kakubi kwaye andinakuyifaka umsi wesigare ngaphandle kobuhlungu kunye nokukhwehlela okubi. Kwiintsuku eziliqela ndisazama ukutshaya, ndithatha amathunjana amancinci kwaye ndingaboni. Ngobusuku obuthathu ndakhula ukukhwehlela kangangokuba ndandigubha phezu kwequla. Kwaphinda ndacela ukuba uThixo axolele, yaye ndathembisa ukuba ndizayeka ukutshaya . Andikwazi ukuhlala ndikhanyela ukutshaya kwam.
Ngo-Agasti 27, 2008, eneminyaka engama-55, emva kweminyaka engama-40 yokutshaya, okokuqala ngqa ebomini bam ndathi,
"NDIYAPHUMA!"
Ndinebhokisi yee-patches kwiikhabhinethi kwaye ndibeka enye. Ukususela ekusebenziseni isiqendu kwixesha elidlulileyo nje ukufikelela kwimicimbi yezenhlalakahle apho ndingenako ukutshaya, ndayazi ukuba kuya kunceda ukuphelisa ukuxhalaba kwam.
Ugqirha wam wayesoloko ndixelele ukuba ndiza kumbona xa ndikulungele ukuyeka ukutshaya. Ndabiza iofisi yakhe kwaye ndafumana ukuqesha ngosuku olulandelayo. Ugqirha wam ufumanisa ukuba kubanda kwintsholongwane, kungekhona intsholongwane yebhaktheriya, kwaye wathi imiphunga yam isicacile. Wandixelela ukuba ndihlale kwisiqendu kwinkqubo yonke yesithathu, kwaye wachaza uWelbutrin .
Kwaye Kwaqala
Lezo zinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala ziyingcambu nje ngoku. Kwaye kunye nekiti kunye nomyalelo wam omtsha, ukukhutshwa kwe-nicotine kwakunzima. Ndandiba nekhanda, ndaziva ndiphazamiseke, ndilahlekile, ndadideka. Ndandibuhlungu kwaye ndatshwenyeka, kodwa ndazinikela kwaye ndazimisela.
Ngomhla wesibhozo sam yokuyeka ndaye ndikhala, ndikhumbula ukutshaya, kwaye andingazi njani ukuphatha iimvakalelo ezazihamba kunye nokuyeka ukutshaya. Ndazixelela ukuba andizange ndiziva ndingcono ngosuku olulandelayo, ndiza kuthetha ukuba ngento enje kwaye ndiza kuthenga i-cigarettes.
Ukuqhagamshelana nabantu abanjengabantu abanjengabantu abanjengoMntu oPhezulu
Kwakuphakathi kwemini emva kokuba ndacinga ukuba ndikhangele i-intanethi yeqela elixhasa inkxaso, kwaye ndafumana ukuCima ukuShiya. Ndafunda iiyure. Ndandisiwe ngamanqaku amabali, kunye nezikhundla kwiforum yokuxhasa, kunye nokuthululwa kwefesane, ithemba kunye nenkxaso.
Ndandiziva ngathi ndingumlutha obi kakhulu kwimbali, kwaye apha ndifumene abantu nje njengaye kwaye bayeka ukutshaya ngempumelelo! Ndaqala ukukholelwa ukuba ndiyakwenza oku. Ngeli xesha ndenze iposi yokuqala emva kwaloo mini, ngokwenene ndandilila kakuhle kwaye ndiqinisekile.
Uninzi lweeNgqungquthela zeeNgqungquthela zazikho kunye namazwi okukhuthaza. I-Ash Ash Kickers yangena kum kanye kwaye ndazi ukuba ndiphakathi kwabahlobo. Ndandiyeka ukutshaya ngaphandle kokwenza uphando ngaphandle kwesicwangciso. Kwaye, imfundo yam malunga nokutshabalala kwe-nicotine yaqala kunye nokuphilisa kwam.
Ndafunda ukuba ukuhlaselwa kwindywala yam iya kuba yinkqubo eya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomonde . Ndafunda ngokutshintsha ulwalamano lwam kunye nokutshaya kunye nokubuyisela ingqondo yam ukuba ndicinge njengomntu ongathethiyo.
Ngokukhawuleza njengoko kwakunjalo ekuqaleni, ndikholelwa abo bangaphambi kwam xa bathi konke kuhamba ngcono ngexesha. Ndakholelwa ukuba i-NOPE (ayikho enye ingqungquthela ekhoyo) yindlela ephela, kuba enye yayiza kubakhokelela kwelinye ize iphinde ndibuyisele apho ndahlala khona. Ndikholelwa ukuba ukutshaya kwakungeyona nto inokukhetha phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko.
Ndafunda kwaye ndathunyelwa kwiforum nsuku zonke, ndisela amanzi, ndenza ukuphefumula okuninzi, ndanyelwa kwi-lollipops, kwaye ndahamba. Ndazi ukuba xa ndiyeka, ndingenakuze ndibe nesibindi sokuyeka kwakhona. Kancinci, njengoko ndathembisiwe, ndandiziva ndingcono xa ixesha lihamba kwaye ndaye ndaziqhelanisa nomsebenzi omtsha ongazange ufake ukutshaya.
Ukubonga kwafika kwinyanga yam emithathu. IKrisimesi yayingumhla ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba ndigubha iminyaka emine. Ukuba ngumntu ongathembekanga kwakungumtsha kwaye kunzima kum, kodwa ndakwazi ukuhlala kwindlu yeeholide zombini kwaye andizange ndihlupheke xa ndihlala ndifuna ukuhamba ndize ndibheke.
Ndinexinzelelo lokuphumla kweeholide kwaye ngoNyaka omtsha ndandiziva ndiphantsi. Ndandifumene ndifuna ukuba ndibe ngumsiya njengokuba bekuyiveki enye. Ngandlela-thile ndakwazi ukuhlukanisa iimvakalelo zam malunga noko kwakungikhathaza ngokwenene, kwaye ndaqonda ukuba ayinanto yokwenza ukutshaya okanye ukubhema. Oku kwakuyimpumelelo yam kwaye ndakwazi ukuyeka ukugxeka yonke into endivakalelwa ngayo xa ndiyeka ukutshaya.
Ngeenyanga ezine neyesigamu, iingcamango zokutshaya ziyizicamango nje, azinqweneli, kwaye andisayi kuba nzima. Ndaqala ukuziva ukuwamkela kunye noxolo njengengabonakali. Kukho ukunyuka nokuhla kweendlela, kodwa akukho nto inokundenza ndibuyele ekubhemeni.
Kungekudala ngaphambi kwenyanga yesithandathu, indoda yam isinda ekuhlaselweni kwentliziyo kunye nokuhlinzwa okuphindiweyo kabini. Ukuxinezeleka kokugula kwakhe akuzange kwenze ukuba ndifune ukutshaya. Ukwazi ukuba isifo senhliziyo sisona sizathu esibangela ukufa kokubhema , ndandibulela kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili ukuba ndiyekile. Ndileenyanga ezilishumi nditshitshisi ngumoya kwaye ndikhangele phambili kwimbali yam iminyaka elilodwa nangaphezulu!
Ubomi bam buLungile yonke indawo ngoku
Iinzuzo zokungabikho ukutshaya ziyaqhubeka zikhula njengoko kudlula ixesha elide. Ingqungqelo endandinokuyifumana yayiphelile ngeveki enye yokuyeka ukutshaya. Ndandidla ukuhamba malunga neekhilomitha enye kunye nenja yam kwaye ngoku sihamba malunga neekhilomitha ezine okanye ezintlanu ngosuku.
I-cafeine ne-cigarettes zibonakala zihamba kunye. Ndandisebenzisa ukusela itiye elininzi kunye neDeet Coke, kwaye ngoku ndiyisela amanzi ngokukhetha. Ndandisoloko ndihlala ngokukhawuleza, ndinxila i-caffeine kunye nokutshaya, kwaye ngoku ndilala. Inkululeko endiyifanele ukuhamba nayo kunye nabahlobo bam omama nabangaboniyo!
Ukufunda ukujongana neemvakalelo zam ngaphandle kokuphuma ngaphandle kwerigareth kungenzeka ukuba yiyona nto inzima kakhulu kwinkqubo yokuyeka. Kuthatha ixesha, kodwa ukutshaya yinto evamile. Ndiza kubakho ngonaphakade ngemfundo kunye nenkxaso endifumene kwiforum yethu. Ndixhalabele ngemiphumo emide kwimiba yam kwiminyaka emininzi yokutshaya, kodwa ngoku ndilungile kwaye ndiyabulela ukuba ndingabikho msi. Udadewethu osemncinci utshaya, kwaye ndiyamthandaza uya kuthatha isigqibo sokujoyina nathi kungekudala.
Ukuyeka ukutshaya kuza kuthatha ukuzinikela okukhulu kunazo zonke owake wadingeka ukwenze, kodwa kuya kuba yinto evuyisayo kakhulu kwaye kulungele umzamo. Uvile ezi zihlandlo ezininzi ngaphambili, kwaye uya kuwuva kwakhona kum:
Ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuyeka ukutshaya, kunjalo nawe.
Okunye ukusuka kuNenejune: Izinto ezi-22 endazifundile malunga nokuyeka ukutshaya .