Ulonwabo kunye nobudala buhlobene, kodwa kungekho ngendlela ongacinga ngayo. Ngokona nkalo, inkcubeko yethu iqhutywe kulutsha, ngoko sinokucinga ukuba intsha kunye nenhle iyenzeka nokuba yinto evuya kakhulu. Umntu omncinci onalo ixesha ecaleni lakhe unokubonakala evuya, kodwa ingcamango nje ayinyani. Ulonwaba luyanda ngokwenene.
Kungenakuqondakala ukuba abanye abantu abatsha bakholelwe ukuba ootatomkhulu bayavuya ngakumbi kunabo, kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu baseMerika bafumana uvuyo xa bebudala nangona iimeko zempilo kunye nezinye iingxaki ezivela.
Ngaphambi kokuba sibhiyozele, kunjalo, makhe sijonge ubungqina bokuguga nolonwabo.
Iintlobo zoNwabo
Masijamelane nayo: uphando oluhlobene nolonwabo luzaliswe izigwebo kunye nokuzithoba ngenxa yokuba ulonwabo luyabona. Unokuqiniseka njani ukuba uthathe inxaxheba ophando uthi, "Ndivuyisiwe," ngokwenene uyavuya? Mhlawumbi banelisekile kakhulu? Mhlawumbi ulonwabo lwabo lusekelwe kwizinto eziphathekayo? Mhlawumbi isizukulwana ngasinye sinokulindela okuhlukeneyo konwabo? Abaphandi bafuna ukufumana iindlela ezijikeleze ezi ntlobo zeengxaki.
Ngenhlanhla i-sociologists iye yaqhuba ngokuqhubekayo ukuba i-50 000 intliwano-ndlebe ukususela ngo-1972 kwi-General Social Survey, uphando lwentlalo olwenziwa yi-National Opinion Research Centre eYunivesithi yaseChicago. Uphando, oluvulelekileyo kuluntu, lunikeza ubunzulu beengqiqo kuluntu lwethu kunye nemilinganiselo yolonwabo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngokuthelekisa abantu abaneminyaka ehlukeneyo ngokwexesha elidlulileyo kunyaka omnye, abaphandi bakwazi ukuhamba ngezinye zezi mida, kwaye oko bakufumanisa kukuba ulonwabo lukhula ngokukhula.
I-Aging America: Indawo eyoyolo
"Uvuyiswa njani na?" Lo ngumbuzo omkhulu umphandi ucela unyaka emva konyaka. Abaphandi abafumananga nje ukuba abantu asebekhulile banentlonelo, kodwa olo lonwabo alukho into abathathi-nxaxheba abaye bahlala kuyo yonke impilo yabo. Ngamanye amagama, njengoko abantu bekhulile, bathi ukususela kwiminyaka engama-50, ubumnandi buza kubo.
Njengoko iindaba eziqhubekayo zisisilumkisa ngeengozi zaseMelika eziguga, gcina oku engqondweni: I-America eseguga ingaba yinto evuyayo kuMerika esiyibonile. Mhlawumbi oku kungenxa yobubulumko obuvela kwiminyaka yobudala okanye ngenxa yokuba abantu abadala bahlengahlengela izinto abazilindeleyo ebomini, kodwa nokuba yintoni isizathu sokuba kukho ubungqina obuqinileyo bokuthi abadala baseMerika baneliseko ngakumbi kunabantwana.
Indlela Yokukhulisa Ubumnandi Bakho
Ukuphucula ukonwaba kwakho ngokungawunaki umgangatho wentlalo ulutsha = ulonwabo. Vumela uzive uvuya xa uneminyaka yobudala. Musa ukubanjwa ekukhathazeni ngezinto ezincinci. Yinyamekela impilo yakho kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, vumela uhambe. Musa ukucinga ukuba kufuneka usebenze iminyaka yakho. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokugcina usebenza, ujabule kwaye ujabule njengoko uneminyaka yobudala:
- Ukuzivocavoca kwamandla amaninzi
- Yiba nentlalontle ekugugeni
- Phila ixesha elide, ujabule
- Dlala imidlalo yokuqina kwengqondo
Umthombo:
Yang, Yang. Ukungalingani kweNtlalontle kuLwase-United States, ngo-1972 ukuya ku-2004: Uhlalutyo lwamaxesha adala. I-American Sociological Review, Umqulu 73, Inombolo 2, ngo-Apreli 2008, iphe. 204-226 (23).