Ngaba uphelelwe ixesha elide kwaye ugxininise ngakumbi? Ngeshedyuli yanamhlanje exakekile, awuyedwa. Enye indlela ebalulekileyo yokunciphisa ishedyuli yakho kukuba kulungile ukuthi akukho ukuzinikela ezitsha. Ngoko kutheni isenzo esilula sokuthi singathathi ngaphezu kokusinceda sibe nzima kangaka?
Mhlawumbi ubenokuba abantu becasulwa nawe xa uthe u-cha. Mhlawumbi uziva unetyala kuba ufuna ngokwenene ukunceda abanye.
Mhlawumbi uziva unetyala ngenxa yokuba unqwenela ukunceda abanye, kodwa utsho ewe kakhulu kubo ukuba ungeyonto yokutshiswa - kwaye oku kuya kukunciphisa impilo kwaye kuncinci.
Ingaba uthi "yebo" endaweni yokungabi netyala, ukungquzulwano kwangaphakathi, okanye ingcamango engafanelekanga yokuba "unokukwenza konke," ukufunda ukuthi hayi kwezicelo ezingakumbi kungenye yezona zinto ezinokuzikhethela zona kunye nabo uthando. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngokuthi hayi xa ufuna (kwaye nje ungenawo amandla okwenza konke oceliwe, okanye ufuna ukubeka phambili ukhathalelo lokuzibonela njengomzekelo xa kufuneka ufune cha), kunceda ukunciphisa amanqanaba okuxinwa kwaye ikunike ixesha lokubaluleke kakhulu. Nantsi indlela yokuthi hayi ngokuxinezeleka kunye necala-into enokuba yile nto elula.
Yithi nje, "Ndiyaxolisa. Andikwazi ukwenza oku ngoku. "
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kukunceda ukugquma uze ube nethuba lokujonga ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ukuthi "ewe" kulo myalelo omtsha kunokuchaphazela njani ubomi bakho kunye nobomi balabo abasele bathembele kuwe.
Sebenzisa ithoni ebonisa uvelwano, kodwa eqinile. Ukuba ugxininiswe ukuba kutheni, phendula ukuba ayihambisani neshedyuli yakho, kwaye utshintshe isihloko. Abantu abaninzi abanengqiqo baya kwamkela njengempendulo, ngoko ke xa umntu eqhubeka exinzezela, bahlambalaza, kwaye kulungile ukuphinda uphinda uthi, "Ndiyaxolisa, kodwa oku kulungelelwanga kwishedyuli yam," kwaye utshintshe umxholo, okanye mhlawumbi uhambe xa kufuneka.
Zinike ixesha.
Ukuba awuhlali ukhululekile okanye unxibelelana nabantu abathandayo, kulungile ukuba uthi, "Makhe ndicinge ngako kwaye ndibuyele kuwe." Oku kukunika ithuba lokuphonononga ishedyuli yakho, kunye nemizwa yakho ngokuthetha "ewe" kwesinye isibophelelo, yenza uhlalutyo lweendleko-nzuzo, uze ubuyele kubo ngo-ewe okanye cha. Okubaluleke kakhulu, eli qhinga likunceda ukuba ugweme ukuvumela ukuba utyeshe ubomi bakho kwaye uthathe uxinzelelo oluninzi .
Yithi ewe kwenye into.
Ukuba unomnqweno wokwenza oko akucelayo, kodwa ungenalo ixesha (okanye unenkathazo yokwamkela ukuba awukho), kuhle ukuba uthi, "Andikwazi ukwenza oku, kodwa ndinako ... "Kwaye khankanya ukuzibophelela okuncinci ongayenza. Ngale ndlela uza kusabandakanyeka, kodwa kuya kuba ngokwakho.
Iingcebiso:
- Qiniseka - ungakhuseli okanye uxolise ngokugqithiseleyo - kwaye uhloniphe. Oku kunika uphawu lokuba uvelwano, kodwa aluyi kutshintsha lula ingqondo yakho ukuba ucinezelwe.
- Cacile. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuxelela umntu oza kubuya kubo, makube yinto enobungqina kwaye ungathembisi. Ukuba ukhokelela abantu ukuba bakholelwe mhlawumbi uya kuthi "ewe" kamva, baya kudana kakhulu "no" kamva.
- Akukho zizathu ezifanelekileyo. Ukuba ucelwa ukuba ufumane inkcazelo, khumbula ukuba awukweleta mntu. "Akuhambelani neshedyuli yam," iyamkeleka ngokupheleleyo.
- Phambili. Khumbula ukuba kukho iiyure ezininzi nje ngosuku. Oku kuthetha ukuba nayiphi na into oyikhethayo ukuthatha imida yakho yokwenza ezinye izinto. Ngoko nangona ngandlela-thile unokukwazi ukuzibophezela ngokutsha kwishedyuli yakho, ukuba akubalulekanga ngakumbi kunokuba uza kuphelelwa ukwenzela ntoni (kuquka ixesha lokuphumla kunye nokuzinyamekela ), ngokwenene unalo ixesha sakho ishedyuli.
- Funda nzulu. Fumana kwaye uphando lweendlela zokufumana ixesha xa uxakekile . Kwakhona kubalulekile ukufunda ukubeka imida ngokubanzi.