Ukuqinisekiswa: I-Stress Management Technique
Ukuqinisekiswa akuqhelekanga kuthathwa njengendlela yokunciphisa uxinzelelo, kodwa unokumangaliswa yindlela ukusebenzisa le mpawu kumntu onokuphucula ngayo imizwa yakho.
Kuyintoni ukuqinisekiswa?
Ukuqinisekiswa kukukwazi ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo kunye nokuqinisekisa amalungelo akho ngelixa uhlonipha iimvakalelo kunye namalungelo abanye. Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo luchanekileyo ngokuthe ngqo, oluvulekileyo noluthembekileyo, kwaye lucacisa iimfuno zomntu komnye umntu.
Ukuqinisekiswa kuza ngokuqhelekileyo kwabanye, kodwa kuyisakhono esinokuyifunda. Abantu abaye bazi kakuhle ubuchule bokubambelela banokunciphisa kakhulu intsebenziswano yobomi babo, ngaloo ndlela banciphise umthombo omkhulu wokuxinzezeleka.
Ukuqinisekiswa ngokuthelekiswa nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha?
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu badibanisa ubundlobongela ngokuqinisekisana, bebona ukuba zombini iintlobo zokuziphatha zibandakanya ukuma amalungelo abo kunye nokuvakalisa iimfuno zabo. Ukholo oluphambili phakathi kwezindlela ezimbini kukuba abantu abaziphatha ngokuzimisela baya kuzivakalisa ngeendlela ezihlonela omnye umntu. Bacinga izinto ezilungileyo ngabantu, bazihlonele, kwaye bacinge "ukuphumelela" kwaye bazame ukuphazamisa.
Ngokwahlukileyo, abantu abaziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo baya kusebenzisa amaqhinga anganamhloneliyo, abakhohlisayo, abahlambalazayo, okanye abahlukumezayo. Benza iingcamango ezingalunganga malunga neenjongo zabanye kwaye bacinge ngemibandela yokubuyiselwa, okanye abakucingi ngombono womnye umntu.
Bawubambelele kwiindleko zabanye kwaye bavelise ukungqubuzana okungadingekile.
Abantu abangaziwayo abazi indlela yokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo iimvakalelo zabo kunye neemfuno zabanye. Bavame ukwesaba ukungquzulana kakhulu kangangokuthi bayeke ukuba iimfuno zabo zingagqibekanga kwaye zigcine iimvakalelo zabo zibe yimfihlo ukuze 'bagcine uxolo'. Bavumela abanye baphumelele xa belahlekelwa; ingxaki ngolu (apho ndiza kungena khona ngokukodwa ngokukhawuleza) kukuba wonke umntu ochaphazelekayo ulahlekelwa, ubuncinane kwinqanaba.
Kubukeka Kanjani Ukuqinisekiswa ?
Nazi ezinye iimeko eziqhelekileyo, kunye nemizekelo yesimo ngasinye sokuziphatha:
Isimo A: Omnye usika phambi kwakho kwivenkile.
Impendulo enobugwenxa yayiza kuba bacinga ukuba bayenze ngenjongo baze bathethe ngomsindo bathi, "Hayi, jackass, akukho cutshu!"
Impendulo engaphenduliyo yayiza kukuvumela umntu ukuba ahlale phambi kwakho.
Impendulo eqinisekisayo yayiza kubakho ukuba babengazange bakubone ngokusemgangathweni baze bathi, "Ndixolele, kodwa ndandisemgceni."
Isimo B: Umhlobo wakho, onokuthi ube ngumlomo, ubiza ukuba uvumelekile ngemini yakhe embi. Ngelishwa, unomsebenzi omninzi wokwenza kwaye ungenayo ithuba lokuthetha.
Impendulo enobugwenxa yayiza kuba nomsindo kukuba ngokucacileyo akayikuhlonela ixesha lakho, umnqume, kwaye uthi, "Hayi, yifani! Ndineengxaki zam! "
Impendulo engaphenduliyo kukumvumela ukuba akhulume ixesha elide njengoko efuna, kwaye uqaphele ukuba umhla wokugqibela ungabandezeleka; ufuna uncedo lwakho.
Impendulo ethembisayo yayiza kuba ukuphulaphula umzuzu okanye ezimbini, uze uthethe ngesisa, "Wow, kubonakala ngathi unosuku olunzima! Ndingathanda ukuthetha nawe malunga nalo, kodwa andinayo ixesha ngoku. Ngaba sinokuthetha kamva ebusuku? "
Fumana ingcamango?
Izinzuzo zokuQinisekisa
Abantu abancedisayo bavame ukuba neengxabano ezimbalwa ekusebenzelaneni kwabo nabanye, okuguqulela ekuxinineni okuncinci kwimpilo yabo.
Zifumana iimfuno zabo ezidibeneyo - oku kuthetha ukuxinezeleka ngakumbi kwiimfuno ezingagqibekanga, kwaye bancede abanye bafumane iimfuno zabo badibana nazo. Ukuba nolwalamano oluqinileyo, oluxhasayo ngakumbi luqinisekisa ukuba, ngokubambisana, banabantu abanokubancika kuwo, oku kunceda ekulawuleni uxinzelelo, kwaye kudibanisa nomzimba ophilileyo .
Ngokwahlukileyo, ubugwenxa buvame ukuhlukanisa abanye nokudala uxinzelelo olungadingekile. Abo basesigxina sokufumana ubugwenxa bavame ukuziva behlaselwa kwaye kaninzi baphephe umntu onobudlova, ngokuqondakalayo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abantu abaziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo banomdla wokungaxhatshali ubudlelwane kunye nenkxaso encinci yezenhlalakahle, kwaye abahlali baqonda ukuba oku kuhambelana nokuziphatha kwabo.
Okumangalisa kukuba, bahlala bevakalelwa njengexhoba.
Abantu abangenasiphelo bajolise ekuthintela ingxabano ngokugwema ukunxibelelana malunga neemfuno zabo neemvakalelo zabo, kodwa lo mkhuba uwonakalisa ubudlelwane ngexesha elide. Bangavakalelwa njengexhoba, kodwa baqhubeke bephephe ukulwa, bebandezeleke kude, xa ekugqibeleni bethetha into ethile, iphuma ngokukhawuleza. Elinye iqela alikwazi nokuba kukho ingxaki de ukuba umntu owayengumntu ongeyena uqhubekile! Oku kukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezinzima, ubudlelwane obuthathaka, kunye nokunyaniseka.
Yiba Ngakumbi
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokubambelela ngakumbi kukuzijonga ngenyameko wena kunye neempendulo zakho, ukubona apho ukhona khona ngoku. Iimpendulo zale mibuzo zilandelayo ziyakunceda ukuba:
- Ingaba unzima ukufumana ukugxeka okwakhiweyo?
- Ngaba uzifumana uthi 'yebo' ukucela ukuba ufanele uthi 'cha', ukuze uphephe abantu abadakisayo?
- Ngaba unenkathazo yokuvakalisa ukuhlukana kweminye imibono kwabanye?
- Ngaba abantu banomdla wokuba bahlukane nesitayela sakho sokunxibelelana xa ungavumelani nabo?
- Ngaba uziziva uhlaselwa xa umntu enombono ohlukile kwedwa?
Ukuba uphendule ngowebo kwiiqela ezininzi, unokufumana inzuzo ekufundeni izakhono zokuqinisekisa .