Isixhobo esibalulekileyo xa utyalwa
Iimpawu ezintle zixhobo esikhulu zokurhoxisa ingqondo yakho engazi kakuhle ukucinga okungekho nto. Ingcamango kukuthatha iingxelo ezintle zento onokuthanda ukuzibona zibonakaliswe kwaye uziphinda ngokwaneleyo ukuze ziyingxenye yendlela yakho yokucinga nokubona ihlabathi. Oku kusebenza ngendlela efanayo yokuthetha okubi, kodwa ngendlela ezuze ngayo.
Ukuza nokuqinisekisa kwakho, sebenzisa ezi zikhokelo ezilandelayo:
- Khangela Kwiinjongo Zakho: Cinga ngezinto ozama ukuzenza ebomini bakho. Oku kuthetha ukuba, jonga umkhiqizo wokugqibela kunye neziphatho, izimo zengqondo, kunye neempawu ongathanda ukuzibona uhlakulela ukuze ufike khona. Ngaba ungathanda ukuziva uxolo? Ngaba ungathanda ukwenza imikhwa yokuphila enempilo ? Ngaba ungathanda ukuba ngumhlobo oncedisayo ? Unokufuna ukubhala kwiphephancwadi uze uqikelele ukuba ubone oko kubalulekile kuwe kwaye ufike entliziyweni yento ofuna ukuyenza ebomini bakho.
- Yakha iingxelo: Emva kokuba ufumene ingcamango yento ojolise kuyo, zama ukubeka loo ngcamango kwiincwadana ezimbalwa ezilula ezibonisa ukuba yiyiphi into ofuna ukuyidala. Phrase izitatimende njengokungathi sele sele zinyani , kungekhona ukuba ufuna ukuba zibe yi nyaniso. Ngokomzekelo, ukuqinisekiswa, "Ndivakalelwa ngakumbi ngolo suku ngalunye," kuya kuba ngcono kunokuba, "Ndifuna ukuziva uxolo ngakumbi." Kungenxa yokuba unenkqubo yokwakheka kwengqondo yakho ukukholelwa iingxelo, kwaye unceda ukubonakalisa nyaniso. Awuzami ukufuna into, uzama ukwenza njalo.
- Qinisekisa ukuba zilungile: Xa wenza iziqinisekiso ezintle, qiniseka ukuba zilungile ! Oku kuthetha ukuthetha oko ufuna ukukufumana kunye namava, kungekhona oko ungafuni ukubona nokuva. Ngokomzekelo, endaweni yokuthi, "Andifuni ukuziva uxinzelelo," nokuba, "Ndiyekile ukuva uxinzelelo," sebenzisa, "Ndiziva uxolo." Ngamanye amaxesha ingqondo yakho ayibhalisi, kwaye uva nje ingcamango, "uxinzelelo," yinto ozama ukuyiphepha.
- Yenze Iqiniso: Ingqondo yakho engenangqiqo inokuzuza kwiimpawu eziqinisekileyo ezolula kwaye zandisa imbono yakho, kodwa ukuba uyasichukumisa izinto kakhulu, "ijaji langaphakathi" liye linyathelo kwaye liyalahla iziqinisekiso. Qinisekisa ukuba wenza ubungqina bakho ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa nethemba kunye nokuqinisekiswa okulungileyo kuya kusebenza kuwe. Ngokomzekelo, ukuqinisekiswa, "Nsuku zonke, ngandlela-thile, ndiba ngcono kwaye ngomelele, njl." unokuziva ngathi uninzi lwazo, kwaye ingqondo yakho engqondweni ingacela ukuba ihluke. Nangona kunjalo, "Ndifunda kwiimpazamo zam," okanye "Ndiyabulela konke endikuyo ebomini bam," unokuvakalelwa "okwenene" kwengqondo yakho engqondweni. Zama, kwaye ubone oko kuvakalelwa kuwe.
- Sebenzisa iMayini: Ukuba ungathanda ezinye iingcamango ezinqwenela ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ebomini bakho ngokunyusa iingcamango ezinokuthula, iimvakalelo zokhuseleko, nokukhuthaza ingqiqo enamandla yokuzimelela, unokwazi ukujonga ukunyaniseka kwe-Stress Management Affirmations . Ezinye ezilula ukuzikhumbula ziquka, "Ndiya kujonga namhlanje," kwaye "Ndiyakwazi ukuphatha nantoni na indlela eya kum."
Emva kokuba ufumene iziqinisekiso zakho, zikho iindlela ezonwabileyo zokuzisa iziqinisekiso ezintle ebomini bakho:
- Ukuphindaphinda: Mhlawumbi indlela eyaziwayo kakhulu yokubamba amandla okuqinisekiswa kukuphinda uziphinda uziphindiselele rhoqo. Ukuphindaphinda ngamaxesha amaninzi ekuseni okanye ngokuhlwa kungasebenza; ukuphinda ngokuvakalayo kusebenza ngakumbi kuba uziva ngokucacileyo ngale ndlela.
- Yenza-Yakho Ukurekhoda: Unokwenza ukurekhoda kwakho ngokwakho ukuphinda uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye uyidlale njengoko uqhuba, ufunde ekuseni okanye wenze enye imisebenzi. Thetha ngezwi elizolileyo, mhlawumbi udlale umculo othanda ukuwuthandayo ngasemva, kwaye unokrekhoda owenziweyo ngokukodwa kwiimfuno zakho!
- Kwi-Post-Its: Indlela eyonwabileyo yokusebenzisa iziqinisekiso kukubeka kwi-post-yayo ebeka kuyo yonke indlu yakho (efrijini, kwisibuko sokugezela, nakwezinye iindawo oza kuzibona) ukuzinika imilayezo emihle yonke imini. Le nkqubo inokusebenza ngokwayo okanye ingasetyenziselwa nezinye iindlela zokuqinisekisa njengokuqiniswa.
- I-Self-Hypnosis: Ukwandisa ngokwenene ukuphumelela kweziqinisekiso, unokuzisebenzisa ngokuzibamba . Le yindlela yokubambeka ngokucacileyo ekucingeni kwakho okungakumbi ngokukhawuleza kunokuziphinda kwiimeko zakho eziqhelekileyo.
Ngelixa zonke iingqinisiso ezintle zingenakunceda - ukuba unengqiqo malunga nabo, ingqondo yethu inokulwa nabo - ininzi yabo ingakufumana kwisimo sengqondo esilungileyo kwaye ikuncede ukuba uqiniseke kwaye ujabule ebomini bakho. Leyo inzuzo eninzi ngexesha lokutshala imali. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, iyonwabile!
Umthombo:
Lighthall, N., Gorlick, M., Schoeke, A. Ukugxininisa kuQinisekisa ukuQiniswa kokuFundela kwabaselula nabakudala. Psychology and Aging, 35-46, 2013.