Funda ukuwaqinisekisa kwaye uva ukukhala
Ubuhlobo nomntu onobungozi bomngcipheko (BPD) akusoloko kulula. Kukho amaxesha apho umhlobo wakho evakalelwa kukuba akanakho ithemba okanye engekho ekulawuleni, okwenza ukuba uzive ungenakukunceda. Nazi ezinye iinkqubo eziqhelekileyo ongayilandela ukuba ube ngumhlobo omhle kumntu ophethe i- BPD .
Qinisekisa amava oMngcipheko weMida
Into ebalulekileyo ongayenza ukunceda umhlobo kunye ne-BPD kukuthatha ixesha ukuphulaphula kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo zakhe .
Akunakuvumi ukuba uvumelane nokuvavanya kwakhe imeko okanye uvakalelwa kukuba ukunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zakhe kubangelwa yimeko ( iimvakalelo ezinamandla ziyingxenye yesifo). Nangona kunjalo, unokwazi ukumxelela ukuba uyayiqonda indlela aziva ngayo kunye nokuba kunzima kangakanani loo nto.
Ukufumana ukuqinisekiswa komnye umntu kunokubonelela ngokukhululeka kumntu ophethe i-BPD. Abantu abaninzi abane-BPD bakhulela kwimimandla engabonakaliyo ngokomoya kwaye balindele ukuba akukho mntu ukhathalela indlela abazizwa ngayo. Abanye abantu abane-BPD abazange bakhule kwindawo ephosakeleyo yemoya. Ngenxa yobume bentsholongwane, nangona kunjalo, baye bajwayela abantu ababaxelela ukuba bayaphatha kakubi. Ngoko, ukuba nomntu ngokwenene ukhathalele indlela abazivakalelwa ngayo unokuba namandla.
Zifundise Ngokuphathelele Umngcipheko Wobuntu Bomda
Ukuba unomhlobo ono-BPD , kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzifundisa malunga neengxaki.
Ubuhlobo nabantu abaneBPD bangaba ngumbane, kwaye kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni.
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abane-BPD bazibandakanya kwiimpawu ezinokubonakala zixhaphaza, zitsho-moya, okanye zonakalise. Kubalulekile ukuqonda le ngxaki ukuze ukwazi ukuziqonda ezi zinto ziyiyo: iimpawu zentlungu yakho yangaphakathi.
Ukuqonda ukuba ezi ziphatho azenzelwe ukulimaza ungakunceda ukuba ube novelwano olungakumbi kumhlobo wakho.
Inkxaso Yabo Imizamo Yokufumana Uncedo Lwezakhono
Ngokuqhelekileyo akuvelanga ukuzama ukunyanzelisa umhlobo wakho ukuba ancede uncedo , kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyayidinga kangakanani (umzekelo omnye ukuba imeko yongxamiseko; funda malunga nento oyenzayo kwintlekele ).
Nangona kunjalo, unokumxhasa xa ekhetha ukufumana uncedo. Oku kunokuthetha ukuxelela umngane wakho ukuba uyaziqhayisa ngaye ngokucela uncedo okanye ukuba ucinga ukuba le nkqubela. Unokufuna ezinye iindidi zenkxaso (njengokukhwela ukutyunjwa, ukutyelelwa esibhedlele). Nantoni na oyenzayo, kuya kuthatha into eninzi kumhlobo wakho ukuba uyazi emva kwakhe.
Musa ukugxeka iisongelo eziMngcipheko
Iisongelo zokuzibulala nezenzo ziqhelekile kubantu abaneBPD. Abanye abantu abane-BPD baya kwenza izisongelo ezininzi zokuzibulala, ezikhokelela iintsapho zabo kunye nabahlobo ukuba bahlaziyeke kule ndlela yokuziphatha.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona umhlobo wakho enze izisongelo zokuzibulala esikhathini esidlulileyo ngaphandle kokuzama ukuzibulala , abantu abane-BPD basengozini enkulu yokuzama nokugqiba ukuzibulala. Enyanisweni, malunga neepesenti ezili-10 zabantu abane-BPD bayazibulala .
Ngenxa yesi sizathu, nangona ungacingi ukuba uya kukwenza oko, ungalokothi uzibekele ingozi yokuzibulala . Kunoko, fowuna abasebenzi abaphuthumayo (njenge-"911" e-United States naseKhanada) naliphi na ixesha ukholelwa ukuba umngcipheko wakho unokuzilimaza yena. Yiyeke kwiingcali ukuba zenze isigqibo sokuba ngaba kukho ingozi enkulu yengozi.
Zikhathalele
Ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane nabantu abano-BPD banokungalingani, kwaye ufumana uzinikela ngaphezu kokufumana. Ukuba oku kwenzeka ngezinye iinkhathi, ngokuqhelekileyo kulungile. Yile ndlela ulwalamano olusebenza ngayo; abakwazi ukuhlala bekwahlukana ngama-50-50. Kodwa ukuba oku kwenzekayo ngexesha lonke, kuya kudala ulwalamano kulwalamano.
Uphando lubonise ukuba abahlobo kunye nosapho abanakekela abantu abane-BPD banamazinga aphezulu enzondo, ukuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka nokungathembeki. Ukuba unika kakhulu, ungase uqale ukuziva unomsindo okanye utshiswe. Emva kwithuba elithile, unokufikelela kwindawo ofuna ukuba ugqibe ngayo ubudlelwane bakho kwimpilo yakho.
Kwixesha elide, mhlawumbi luncedo kumntu onomntu ophethe i-BPD ukuba abe nomhlobo othembekileyo, onokwethenjelwa kunokuba ube nomhlobo onama-100 ekhulwini apho kuye kwiinyanga ezimbalwa aze aphele ngonaphakade. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba uzinakekele, uthathe ikhefu kumhlobo wakho xa kuyimfuneko, kwaye wenze imida efanelekileyo ukuze ufumane izidingo zakho zizalisekile.
Konke oku kulula kunokuba kwenziwe. Ifuna izakhono zokunxibelelana kunye nokuziqonda ngokwaneleyo ukuqonda xa kufike ixesha lokutsala. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nobuhlobo obude kunye nomntu onomntu ongenayo i-BPD xa usebenza kuyo.
Imithombo:
Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMerika. "Yenza Isikhokelo Sonyango Lwezonyango Zengxaki Yomntu Wemida." I-American Journal ye-Psychiatry , 158: 1-52, 2001.
UKreger R. Ukhokelo lweNtsapho oluPhambili kwiNgcaciso yoMntu weMida . Isixeko saseMeko, eMnnesota: eHazelden, ngo-2008.
I-JGM, i-Bok S. "Inkxalabo yeengqondo kwi-Careers okanye izihlobo zabagulane abane-Borderline Personality Disorder." I-Journal International ye-Social Psychiatry , 53 (3): 195-203, 2007.