Ezinye iimpawu zengxaki yomntu ongekho emngceleni zingatshintsha indlela yakho
Ukuba uye wafumanisa ukuba unengxaki yomntu ongenamkhawulo (BPD), kudla ukuba ukwesaba kwaye ukhathazeke malunga nokuba le ngxaki iyakuchukumisa njani ubomi bakho, ngokukodwa ngokwemisebenzi yakho. Nangona iimpawu zeBPD zenza izinto zibe nzima, abantu abaninzi abane-BPD baya kuba nemisebenzi enempumelelo kakhulu.
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Kunokwenzeka ukuba ube ne-BPD kunye nempumelelo yomsebenzi.
Enyanisweni, abanye banomsebenzi oqinileyo nangona bekunzima kwezinye iindawo zabo zobomi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abanye abantu abane-BPD banenkathazo eninzi kwimisebenzi yabo kwaye bengabasebenzi, bangaphangeli okanye bangonwabi kwimisebenzi yabo. Ayikho indlela yomntu onomntu oyi-BPD kwaye uxhomeke kakhulu kwiimeko ezithile.
I-BPD inokuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho ngeendlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo. Okokuqala, unokuba neengxaki zesazisi, ezinokukwenza kube nzima ukulungisa indlela eminye yokusebenza. Unokuziva ungacacanga malunga nokuba ungubani kunye nantoni na. Oku kunokukwenza ukuba ugxume emsebenzini ukuya emsebenzini ngaphandle kokuba wenze enye imisebenzi kunye nokwakha uphumelelo kuloo ndawo. Oku kungakubeka emva kokukhula komsebenzi ekubeni ungaphuthelwa kukukhushulwa okanye amathuba anxulumene nobudala.
Ukongeza, unokwenza izinto ezininzi zokucinga , okanye "konke okanye akukho" ukucinga . Oku kuthetha ukuba uqale oko ucinga ukuba ngumsebenzi wephupha kwaye ucinge ukuba uphelele.
Unokuzicingela kude kubekho into eyenzekayo, njengento yokuhlaziywa komsebenzi okanye ukuphosakela. Emva koko unokuziva uziyeke ngokupheleleyo kwaye uchithe amandla, ufune ukuba uyeke ngenxa yokuba akusabonakali njengomsebenzi wephupha. Oku kunokubangela abantu abane-BPD ukuba bahlanganyele nangaphezulu "umsebenzi wokumisa."
Iimpawu zeBPD ziyakwazi ukuphazamisa ukugxininisa, oku kungakhokelela ekusebenzeni kakubi komsebenzi.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba udibanisa uninzi, unokuba neengxaki ekubhekiselele kwimisebenzi enokulimaza umkhiqizo wakho.
Ekugqibeleni, ininzi imisebenzi iquka into ethile yokusebenzisana phakathi kwabantu. Unokuba neengxaki emsebenzini xa unobungozi bokugcina ubuhlobo obuzinzile. Umzekelo, abantu abane-BPD ngamanye amaxesha baphunyelelwa kwimisebenzi yabo ngenxa yokuba abahambelani kakuhle kunye noogxa babo, banenkathazo yokugcina imida efanelekileyo okanye ukudala ingxabano enkulu kwindawo yokusebenzela.
Ukwakha Umsebenzi Oqinileyo
Zizo zonke izinto ukugcina engqondweni njengoko ukhetha umsebenzi. Kungenzeka ukuba ufumana iingxaki kuzo zonke ezi ndawo, okanye enye okanye ezimbini. Cinga ngendlela ezi zimpawu ezinokuchaphazela ngayo amandla akho okusebenza imihla ngemihla kwimisebenzi oyikhethayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unenkxalabo yokuxinezeleka okukhulu, ukhetho lomsebenzi kwi-shishini elinokukhawuleza kakhulu okanye elixinzelelekileyo lingahle lucetyiswe. Isimo esinokuthula, sokuzola okanye esithuthuzelayo sinokuba ngcono kuwe.
Ngexesha elifanayo, ungavumeli ukuxilongwa kwakho kweBPD kugqibe okanye kuphephe ukukhetha umsebenzi. Kukho abantu abane-BPD abaye baphumelela kuwo wonke umsebenzi. Gcina iimpawu zakho engqondweni njengoko uvavanya amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka, kodwa kwakhona, qhubeka ukhumbula ukuba ungumntu ohlukileyo kwi-diagnostic yakho.
Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuba iimpawu zakho ziyakuchaphazela njani umsebenzi wakho, thetha nomgqirha wakho. Unako ukunika izicwangciso ezinokusetyenziswa ukulawula iimpawu zakho kunye neziphakamiso zendlela enokuzenza emisebenzi efana neetalente zakho.
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