Ndingayifumana Kangakanani Ukuba Ndixhalabele Abantu?

Abantu ngabanye abaneengxaki zokuxhalabisa abantu (SAD) bahlala bejamelana nokubambisana. Ukujonga phambili ngokuvakalelwa kwakho kunye nokwabelana nabanye kubonakala kunzima, ukuza kuba uhlala uzigcinele. Ingxaki kukuba, abantu abakwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakho, ngoko uya kufuthi ufumane iimfuno zakho zihambelana.

Yintoni yoNxibelelwano lweNgcaciso?

Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo ...

• ukubonakaliswa ngokucacileyo nokuvulekileyo kwezidingo zakho, iiminqweno, iingcamango neemvakalelo.
• kuquka ukukhuthaza iimfuno zakho ngelixa ucinga kwaye uhlonipha iimfuno zabanye.
• iquka ukusetyenziswa kweengxelo "I" , njengokuthi "Ndifuna uncedo olulungiselelweyo lokulungiselela ukutya kwiindwendwe zethu namhlanje."
• yindlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba iimfuno zakho zidibeneyo ngelixa ziqwalasela iimfuno zabanye .

Ukubambisana xa usuke u-SAD

Ukuba uhlala neengxaki zentlalo, ukuthetha ngokuthe ngxakini kunokuziva ungonwabi ekuqaleni. Amathuba kukuba uye wathabatha isicatshulwa sokunxibelelana esenza ukuba ugweme ukungquzulana kodwa ushiya uziva uxhalabile, ucinezelekile kwaye ungenakunceda, kwaye ubangele uxinzelelo kwaye ungakhathazeki kwabo bajikelezayo. Ukufunda ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza akukratshi, kodwa kunendlela efanelekileyo yokuxoxisana neentlalo zoluntu.

Unokuba neengcinga ezingalunganga malunga noko kuthetha ukuthini.

Abantu abadibanisa ngokuthe ngqo

• awanamdla okanye aphephe
• musa ukunyamekela iimvakalelo zabanye ukuze bafumane oko bafuna, njengokuba kunjalo nangomnxibelelwano onobudlova

Endaweni yoko, ukuthetha ngokuxhomekeke kukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho, iimfuno kunye neminqweno ngendlela engafanelekanga kunye nokungabonakali.

Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo lunokuthathwa njengoluncedo kwabanye, kuba unikeza ulwazi olucacileyo malunga noko ufuna ukuzaneliseka.

Ngokwenjenjalo ngendlela engafanelekanga, unika abanye ithuba lokunqaba izicelo zakho ukuba iimfuno zakho ziphikisana neemfuno zabo.

Ukubaluleka kokubambisana

Akaziqinisekanga ukuba ukuthetha ngokubambisana yindlela yokuhamba?

Cinga ukuba uninzi lweentlanganiso zakho zemihla ngemihla luya kuba nabantu abaqhagamshelanayo kwaye baziphathe ngokuzimisela .

Bakuxelela oko bakudinga kuwe kwaye balindele ukuba unqabe ukuba iimfuno zabo ziphikisana neyakho. Ukuba isicelo sikhulu kakhulu okanye sinzima kakhulu, kukufikelela kuwe ukuba uthethe ukuba kutheni ungazithobeli.

Ngomfanekiso ofanayo, abanye balindele ukuba ubaxelele oko okufunayo. Esikhundleni sokulindela abanye ukuba bafunde ingqondo yakho, okanye benethemba lokuba baya kuqiqa oko ufunayo, kufuneka ucacise, uthembeke kwaye uvule ngeemfuno zakho.

Indlela Yokuba Uncedo Olukhulu

Iingxelo ezixhasayo ziqala ngegama elithi "I" kwaye zicacise ngokucacileyo oko ucinga okanye ukuziva.

Qaphela ukuba ukuqinisekiswa akuthethi ukunyuka kwizwane zomnweba okanye ukuzithiba. Injongo yokubambelela kukuxoxisana neemeko zentlalo ngendlela eyazuza wonke umntu.

Eminye imizekelo yeengxelo ezixhasayo:

• "Ndikunandipha ukuthetha nawe."
  
• "Ndiyathanda ukubukela ii-movie eziphazamisayo."
  
• "Ndivakalelwa kukuba uthetha ngam emva komva wam."
  

• "Ndiyazi ukuba abantwana baya kuqala, kodwa ndivakalelwa kukuba asiyikuchitha ixesha."

Ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, faka iziqendu zesivakalisi ndawonye:

1. Qala ngegama elithi "I."
2. Yongeza isenzi esichaza oko uvakalelwa (njengokungafani, ukuthanda, ukufuna, ukuziva, ukuthandana, ukuzonda, ukuthanda, ...)
3. Uze ugqibe isigwebo ukuchaza oko kukuthi uvakalelwa ("Ndiyathanda ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nam, ndiziva ndonwabile").

Iphulo: Gcina "wena" ngaphandle kwesi sigwebo, gcina imizwa yakho phantsi kolawulo, kwaye wabelane nje ngezinto ozivelayo.

Zama kwakhona:

Ndi ..

ayikwazi ...

kukunceda ngaloo msebenzi kuba ikhalenda yam igcwele.

Yabona, akufuneki kucatshangelwe ngokugqithiseleyo okanye kunzima. Ngokuphathelele ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokubonisa iimfuno zakho. Emva kokuba uqale ukwenza njalo, kuya kuvakalelwa ngokwendalo.

ILizwi

Ngexesha elizayo ukuba uvakalelwa ngumsindo okanye ucaphukile, cinga indlela othetha ngayo. Ukuba ufumana ubunzima bokukhathazeka kwentlalo , mhlawumbi uye waba nesitayela sokunxibelelana . Ngokufunda ukunyaniseka, uya kunciphisa uxhalaba kwaye uphucule ubuhlobo bakho nabanye.

_Imithombo:

> Ukukhathazeka BC. UluNxibelelwano oluphumelelayo: Ukuphucula iZakhono Zakho zoLuntu.

_{UMarkway BG, uCarmin CN, uPollard CA, uFlynn T. Ukulahlwa kweenkohliso: Uncedo lokukhathazeka kweNtlalo kunye nePhobia. Oakland, CA: Harbinger; 1992.}

_{KwiNkcazo yeNtlalo. Ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo.}