Indlela yokukhusela apho yonke into emnyama okanye emhlophe
Ukuqhaqhaqhayisa ligama elisetyenziselwa ukugula ngengqondo ukuchaza ukungakwazi ukubamba iingcamango, iimvakalelo okanye iinkolelo. Abanye banokuthi umntu ohlukanayo ubona ihlabathi ngokumnyama okanye kumhlophe, konke okanye akukho nto. Yindlela ephosakeleyo yokucinga apho iimpawu ezilungileyo okanye ezingalunganga zomntu okanye isiganeko azilinganisi okanye zihambelana.
UkuLawulwa kweMntu kunye nokuPhepha koMntu
Ukuphalaza kuthathwa njengendlela yokukhusela abantu abanokukhubazeka komntu ongekho emngceleni (BPD) abanokujonga abantu, iziganeko, okanye nabo ngokwaloo nto okanye akukho nto.
Ukuphalaza kubavumela ukuba balawule izinto abanike zona ngokuthi "zimbi" baze bavumelane nezinto abazicingayo "ezilungileyo," nokuba ezo zinto ziyingozi okanye ingozi. Ukuchithwa ngenye yeendlela ezi-9 ezisetyenziswe kwi-BPD.
Imizekelo yokutshatyalaliswa
Ukuphalaza kunokuphazamisa ubudlelwane kunye nokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okukhulu kunye nokuzilimaza. Umntu oqhekekileyo uya kubeka abantu okanye iziganeko ngokwemigangatho engenawo umgangatho ophakathi. Imizekelo ibandakanya:
- Izinto "zihlala zihlala" okanye "azizange"
- Abantu banokuba "bubi" kwaye "baphambuke" okanye "iingelosi" kwaye "baphelele"
- Amathuba anokuba "angabikho mngcipheko" okanye abe "umgca opheleleyo"
- Inzululwazi, imbali, okanye iindaba ziba "inyaniso epheleleyo" okanye "uxoke ngokupheleleyo"
- Xa izinto zingaphumeleli, umntu uya kuziva 'ekhohlisiwe,' "echithwe," okanye "ehlaselwe"
Okubangela ukudibanisa konke ukudideka kukuba ngezinye iinkhathi inkolelo inokuthi ibe yintsimbi okanye iguqulwe emva kwexesha ukuya kwenye.
Abantu abahlukanayo bavame ukubonakala bakhawuleza okanye benyuke ngokugqithiseleyo, ngokukodwa xa bevakalisa ukuba izinto "ziye zahlukana ngokupheleleyo" okanye "ziguqulwe ngokupheleleyo." Ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokubakhoxisa abo bajikelezayo.
Iimpawu ezihambelanayo
Ngokwalo, ukuhlukana kungabonakala ngathi kuyindawo eqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha okubangelwa lula kunani na umntu esiyaziyo kwaye mhlawumbi nathi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukwahlula kwi-BPD kuthathwa njengento eqhubekayo kwaye ephosakeleyo ihamba kunye nezinye iimpawu, ezinjenge:
- Ukukhangela (ukwenza ngaphandle kokuqwalasela imiphumo)
- Ubundlobongela obunqabileyo (ukubonakaliswa ngokungathanga ngqo kobutsha)
- Ukulahla (ukungawunaki into okanye inyaniso)
- Ukuqulunqwa (ukunikezela imvakalelo engathandekiyo komnye umntu)
- Ubunamandla (inkolelo yokuba unobuninzi obuphezulu kwintelligence okanye ngamandla)
- I hypochondriasis yomzwelo (ukuzama ukwenza abanye baqonde indlela obuhlungu ngayo intlungu yakho)
- Ukuchongwa kweprojekti (ukuphika iimvakalelo zakho, ukuzifaka kumnye umntu, uze uziphathe ngendlela loo nto ibangela ukuba baphendule kuwe ngeemvakalelo ozivelayo)
Indlela iBPD ichongwa ngayo
Ukuxilongwa kweBPD kungenziwa kuphela ngumqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo. Ukwenza ukuxilongwa, ugqirha kufuneka ukuba aqinisekise iimpawu ezintlanu ze-9 ezichazwe kwiNcwadana yokuCatshulwa kunye neSatistim of Disabilities (DSM-5) , kuquka:
- Ubudlelwane obukhulu kunye neziqhamo ezibandakanya ukwahlukana
- Ukuziva uhlala ungenanto okanye uphuke
- Iimbono eziphambene nawe ezichaphazela iimvakalelo, iimpawu, iimvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane
- Ukuziphatha kakubi, njengokusebenzisa kakubi izinto okanye ukuqhuba ngokungahambi kakuhle
- Imiba yokuthukuthela, njengengqumbo enobudlova elandelwa yicala elide kunye nokuzisola
- Imizamo ekhuselekileyo yokuphepha ukushiywa okanye iimvakalelo ezigqithiseleyo zokushiya
- Iingcamango zokuzibulala kunye / okanye ukuziphatha okulimazayo
- Ukudakumba okukhulu, ukuxhalaba okanye ukucaphuka okungaqhubekayo iiyure kunye neentsuku
- Uziva udidekile kuwe, kuquka i-paranoia kunye ne-amnesia
Ukunyamekela Othandekayo Nge-BPD
Akukho mpendulo elula malunga nendlela yokujongana nomntu othandekayo ophethe i-BPD, ngakumbi xa iimpawu zigqithiseleyo. Indlela ojongene nayo ixhomekeka kakhulu kwiimeko zobuhlobo bakho kunye nempembelelo yakho impawu zakho ezifunayo zihlala kwintsapho yakho.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho imigaqo ekhokelela enokukunceda, kuquka:
- Hlakulela uvelwano. Qala ngokuzikhumbuza ukuba ukuhlukana kuyingxenye yesifo. Nangona ezinye iinkqubo zingabonakala zifuna kwaye zixhaphaze, umthandayo wakho akwenzi nantoni na ukuze akwanelise. Ezi zimelela nje iindlela zokukhusela xa ephendulela nanini na xa eziva engakhuselekanga.
- Zama ukulawula impendulo yakho. Ukuba umthandayo unayo i-BPD, gcinani engqondweni ukuba unendawo engcono yokulawula umsindo wakho. Ukumema okanye ukubandakanya inzondo kuyakwenza ukuba imeko ibe yimbi ngakumbi.
- Mkhumbuze umthandayo owamkhathalelayo. Abantu abane-BPD badla ngokukrakra xa benqatshelwe okanye balahliwe. Ukwazi ukuba umntu uyakhathalela ngokuqhelekileyo kunceda ukunciphisa ukuziphatha okuqhekekileyo.
- Gcina imizila yokunxibelelana. Ukuxubusha imeko xa kwenzeka kwenzeka kukuvumela ukuba uhlukanise eso siganeko kunokuba ubeke enye imeko ngaphezulu kwelandelayo. Ukungaphumeleli ukuthetha kuphela kubangela ukukhathazeka komntu omthandayo.
- Beka imida. Ukujongana nemingeni ye-BPD yinto enye; ukuba yinto yokusetyenziswa kakubi ngenye. Njalo usethe imida kunye nomntu othandekayo ophethe i-BPD. Ukuba loo mgca uke wawela, cacisa ukuba kutheni uncedisa kwaye uzama ukwenza njalo. Ukumisela imida kunceda ukulondoloza ubudlelwane kunokuba kunzima.
- Ukukhuthaza nokuxhasa unyango. Umthandana wakho unokuphila ubomi obubhetele ngonyango, olunokubandakanya amayeza kunye / okanye ukuthetha unyango, olunokwenzeka ukuba unyango lwendlela yokuziphatha (DBT). Mkhuthaze ukuba aqale okanye aqhube unyango kwaye afunde konke onokukwazi malunga noko ahambayo. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, uthathe inxaxheba kwiyeza kunye nomthandayo.
- Zikhathalele. Oku kungabandakanya ukufumana i-yourrapist yakho ukukunceda ukulinganisela iimfuno zakho kunye nezo mthandayo.
Xa i-BPD ihlakulela impilo yakho
Kukho amaxesha apho kuya kufuneka ukuba uthathe amanyathelo amaninzi. Kwimeko apho ubudlelwane buyingozi kwintsapho yakho, umsebenzi wakho, kunye nengqondo yakho yentlalo-ntle, unokujamelana nokunyaniseka ukuba ubudlelwane abukwazi ukuqhubeka.
Nangona oku kukhetho olubuhlungu kakhulu kumntu wonke ochaphazelekayo, lungaba luncedo kwiimeko ezithile. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, esi sigqibo kufuneka senziwe ngoncedo lomqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo.
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