Akukho mpendulo elula, kodwa nakhu amanyathelo okuqwalasela
Kwiminyaka emibini edluleyo ndatshata nomfazi endandicinga ukuba uphelele kum, sasithandana kakhulu, kwaye ndandiziva ndixhamle naye, ndazi ngokukhawuleza ukuba ndifuna ukumtshata naye kodwa emva nje komtshato wethu, izinto zadabukisayo.
Waqala ukuba neempembelelo zengqondo, kwaye waqala ukukhwabanisa-uphosa izinto kum kwaye uphupha ngezinto ezincinci.
Ndicinga ukuba unobungozi bomntu ongezantsi-uyavumelana nazo zonke iimpawu. Ndivile i-BPD isifo sobomi. Ingaba ndinomdla wokumtsalela? "
Ngaba Ufanele Ukwahlukanisa Umntu Wakho Umngcipheko Womntu Ojongene Naye?
Ngokudabukisayo, akukho mpendulo elula kulo. Ingaba okanye ukhetha ukuqhawula umlingane wakho isigqibo esikhulu somntu, kwaye akukho mntu unokukuxelela okulungileyo kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, nakhu ezinye izinto oza kuziqwalasela.
Okokuqala, awuzange ukhankanye ukuba ngaba umfazi wakho ufumene ukuba unesifo sengqondo somda. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo ezibangelwa iimpawu ozichazayo, kwaye kubaluleke ukuba ufumane uvavanyo oluchanekileyo ukuchonga oko kwenzekayo.
Into yesibili ukuyiqwalasela kukuba inxalenye enkulu yabantu abaneengxaki zomntu ongenamkhawulo uphendule unyango. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngokuqhawula umtshato, kunokuba kunengqiqo ukujonga ukuba umfazi wakho uzimisele kwaye unako ukubandakanya amayeza e- BPD anokunciphisa iimpawu zakhe.
Musa ukusoloko ucinga ukuba kubi
Nangona umfazi wakho echazwe ngokucacileyo ukuba unesifo somngcipheko kunye nomtshato wakho ngokucacileyo unengxaki, akufanele ucinge ukuba imeko iya kuhlala inzima.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba nangaphandle kwonyango, ukugxekwa komntu onomntu oyi-BPD kunokuba kuhle.
Abantu abaninzi abanokufumanisa ukuba baneengxaki zomntu ongekho emgangathweni abahlangabezane neempendulo ze-disorder kwiminyaka embalwa nje.
Ngoko ke, ukuba umfazi wakho unalo mqathango, oku akusona isigwebo sokuphila. Ulwaphulo lunokunceda imeko yakhe iphucule, okanye ingcono ibe yodwa.
Ekugqibeleni, abantu abanomdaka wobunzima bomda bahlala bebonakalisa iimpawu ezinzulu xa ubudlelwane babo bebuhlungu. Kungenzeka ukuba ukusebenzela ukwakha ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo kuya kunceda umfazi wakho abe nolwazi oluzinzileyo .
Kakade, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba uzimisele ukwenza oku. Nguwe kuphela onokwenza esi sigqibo, kodwa ndicinga ukukwenza ngokuncediswa ngumgqirha wakho, ukuba kunokwenzeka.
> Umthombo:
> Giffin J. Ulwalamano lweNtsapho yoLuntu oluPhezulu lwengxaki. Uhlobo lweNtsapho yeeNtsapho ze-Australia kunye neNew Zealand . 2008; 29: 133-138,