Abantu abaninzi banokuziva becasulwa, bexineke, kwaye bengabi nakona nto xa beziva bexineke kwiimfuno zabo ebomini babo. Kwaye nangona ezinye zezinto ezenza ndivuyiswe kungekhona zonke izinto ezenza ube nolonwabo, kukho izinto ezithile ezivame ukudala amava amaninzi kunoyo wonke umntu. Ezi zinto zichongiwe kwaye zifundiswa kwisebe leengqondo ezithiwa yi- psychological positive , ngoko sinokukwazi ukuba utshintsho oluthile lunokwenza abantu banolonwabo.
(Ndiyincoma amaninzi kubo ngezantsi.)
Ngelixa ungeke ukwazi ukulawula zonke izinto ezibangela uxinzelelo ebomini bakho, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ongayenza ukuze uphephe umgca wakho woxinzelelo, ngoko uziva ungagxininiswa, kwaye unokukwazi ukuzula usuku olubi . Ngokufanayo, kukho iindlela ezimbalwa zokunyusa amanqanaba ovuyo, nangona xa ubomi bunzima.
Hlakulela Ukucinga
Nangona kukho izinto ezininzi ebomini ungatshintsha ukuxininisa uxinzelelo, kuya kubakho nezinto ozijongene nazo zokunyamezela umsebenzi , iishedyuli ezixakekileyo (ingakumbi ukuba unabantwana), kunye nezinye iingcinezelo ezivela. Nangona kunjalo, kuba kubonakala kukukhathazeka okubangela ukuphendula kwengcinezelo , ukuba unokutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo, ezo zinto ongenakuzilawula zingaziva ziphantsi koxinzelelo kuwe. Ngoko ujika njani umbono wakho?
Hlala uxhumeke
Njengoko ininzi yethu isazi ngokuqhelekileyo, ubudlelwane obuphilileyo ngenye yezona zinto ezilungileyo kakhulu zokuzonwabisa esinalo.
Ulwalamano oluhle, oluxhasayo kunye nolwabelana ngolunye ulwalamano lunokwenza ukuba "ukuphumelela" kwethu kube lula ukugubha kwaye kunokusenza sithintele ukuxinzezeleka xa sibhekene nemingeni engenakukuphepha. (Ubuqhetseba kukubuyisela yonke inkxaso oyifumanayo kubahlobo bakho, nokukhupha ubudlelwane obunobuthi.) Ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho buqilima, kubalulekile kungekuphela nje ukwenza ixesha labangani bakho, ugcine umva, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba nomnandi kakhulu kodwa uqinisekise ukuba unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo lwezentetho kunye nezisombululo.
Thatha iifutshane ukuze ube nolonwabo
Ngokuphila okuxakekile, kunye neengcinezelo ezinokubonakala zingaphumi ndawo, kubalulekile ukuba uhambe ngokukhawuleza ukuze ujabule , ngoko unokudala okanye ubuyisele iimvakalelo ezintle ngokukhawuleza. Ukwazi into enokukuvuyisa, kunye nokwenza izinto ezimbalwa "ezinqabileyo zonwabelelo" usuku ngalunye yindlela ekhawulezayo nelula yokuvuselela imimoya ngokubanzi, kwaye uyonwabe umkhwa.
Sika kwiMigodi yamanzi
Ezinye iindawo zakho zinokukhipha amandla akho. Abaqeqeshi boBomi babhekisela kubo njengeminyamezelo, kwaye banokuba yintoni na evela kumntu obangela amandla angenanto okanye iimfuno eziphakamileyo, ideskiti edidayo eyenza ukhathele ngakumbi xa ukhangela kuyo, kwinqanaba lomhla onqwenela ukuba unako ziphephe nje. Esi sininzi sithuba, sifuna ukusetyenziswa kule mijelo yokuba singaboni ukuba bangaphi babo ebomini bethu, kwaye asizami ukuwucima. Ngamanye amaxesha, siqala ukuziva sizixakeke-njengokuba " sinyulwa kukufa ngamadada ." Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, ngokuziqonda ngakumbi kunye nokunciphisa emanzini xa unako, unokukwazi ukukhulula ixesha elaneleyo kunye namandla okubandakanya ngaphezulu "ndivuyise imisebenzi".
Yenza Igumbi Lento Ebalulekileyo Kuwe
Enye into endiyibonayo nento oyithethayo-kwaye into eqhelekileyo-kukuba kukho izinto ezininzi kwixesha lakho ocinga ukuba ufanele wenze (kwaye oko kukubangela uxinzelelo), ukuba awuyi unokufumana ixesha elininzi lokwenza izinto ozonandiphayo, kwaye ezi zinto zinentsingiselo kuwe.
Udinga ukunqumla abanye "bangenza ndinezele" ukwenza indawo yokuba "ndivuyise"! Oku kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akunakwenzeka, kwaye kuyafaneleka ukuba umzamo owenzayo ukwenza utshintsho olufunekayo! Unokufunda indlela yokwenza ishedyuli egcwele imisebenzi enokukuvuyisa:
Fumana Uncedo Ukuba Unayo
Kukho abantu abanokukunceda-unokufuna nje ukuwucela. Ngaba unako ukunika abanye uxanduva lwakho ? Ngaba unokwamkela ukucela inkxaso eyongezelelweyo evela kubahlobo ? Ngamanye amaxesha, oku kungenza umehluko omkhulu kwindlela ozivakalelwa ngayo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo lunokuba lunzima ngendlela eya kuba nzima ukusingatha yedwa.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungadinga uncedo oluninzi kunokuba la macebiso angabonelela, ndikukhuthaza ukuba uthethe ugqirha okanye omnye uchwepheshe onokukunceda.