Iingcamango Neengcamango Zakho Zingakuchaphazela Ukukhathazeka Kwakho kunye nokuxhalabisa
Ngokutsho kweengcamango zonyango lokuqonda, iingcamango zakho kunye nemilinganiselo yakho ibonisa indlela ozibona ngayo kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo. Iingcinga kunye neenkolelo ezisekelwe kukungathembeki kunokuchaphazela kakubi iimvakalelo zakho, iimvakalelo kunye nempilo yengqondo. Le ngcamango eyingozi yimiba eqhelekileyo enokuba negalelo kwiimpawu zesimo sengqondo kunye neengxaki zokuxhalabisa .
Ukuqonda iinkolelo zokuzikhusela kunye namaPhepha okuCinga okuNgcono
Ukuze unqobe iipateni zokucinga ezingafanelekanga kunye neenkolelo zokuzikhusela, kubalulekile ukuqonda iingcaciso kunye nokungafani phakathi kwezi zimbini.
Iinkolelo zokuzikhusela: Inkqubo yakho yenkolelo yenziwe yimibono yakho, iimvakalelo kunye nexabiso. Iinkolelo zakho zihlala zikunye, zilolonga indlela ozibona ngayo kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo. Izinkolelo zokuzikhusela ziyakunceda ukuba ungaphumeleli kwaye unelisekile. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba kukho inkolelo yokuba ukuzinyameka kwakho kugxininiswe kuphela yimpumelelo yakho, uya kuziva uzalisekile xa uqaqambile kumsebenzi wakho, ufezekise iinjongo zakho, okanye ufikelele kwindawo efunwayo yimo.
Izinkolelo zokuzikhupha ziwela kwiindidi ezimbini: iinkolelo ezingenakuzibandakanya kunye nawe kunye neenkolelo ozibandakanyeyo malunga nobuhlobo bakho. Iinkolelo zokuzikhusela ezizimeleyo zixhomekeke kwimibandela enjengokuqhuba ukulungelelanisa , ukuvunywa, nokuphumelela, ngelixa iinkolelo ezithinteleyo ezibandakanyekayo zingabandakanya iimvakalelo, ukuthobela, kunye nokwesaba ukuxabana.
Iipateni zokucinga ezingalunganga: Ngokungafani neenkolelo zokuzikhusela, iipatheni zokucinga ezimbi azihlali kunye nawe. Kunoko, ziphela xa ujamelene nombandela. Eyaziwa nangokuthi ukuphazamiseka kwengcamango , ezi ngcamango ezimbi ziza kucinga ngethuba loxinzelelo kwaye zomeleze iinkolelo zakho zokuzikhusela.
Ngokomzekelo, mhlawumbi ubambe inkolelo yokuzixabisa ukuba ukuxabisa kwakho kuchazwe kuphela yimpumelelo yakho. Unokuziva ulungile ngokukhawuleza ukuba unako ukufikelela ngokuvumelana neenjongo zakho. Nangona kunjalo, xa ujongene neziphazamiso ezingalindelekanga okanye izithintelo, iipateni zokucinga ezingalunganga zingakhokelela ukuba uphinde uhlalutye okanye uphawule ngokugqithiseleyo imeko, ekugqibeleni kudala ukuxhalabisa okungenakunqununu.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, unokuqala ukuba neengcamango ezimbi, ezifana nokuzibiza ngokuthi "ukungaphumeleli" okanye ukuzigxeka ukuba awufikeli umgomo wakho. Unokuzicingela wena, "Andiyi kuze kube yimpumelelo" okanye "akumele kube yinto ekufuneka iyenze." Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ezi ngcamango zinganciphisa ukuzithemba kwaye zingenokuba negalelo kwiimpawu zokudandatheka kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki .
Ukulwa neenkolelo zokuzikhusela kunye neengcinga ezimbi
Iinkolelo zethu zifundiswa kwaye zenziwa ngexesha, zibenza kube nzima kakhulu ukutshintsha. Ngokufanayo, iipatheni zokucinga ziba yindlela yokucinga eyenzileyo, sihlale singazi. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela zokuphelisa umjikelo weenkolelo zokuzikhusela kunye neepatheni zokucinga ezingafanelekanga.
Ukuphakama ngaphezu kweenkolelo zakho zokuzikhusela kunye neengcamango ezimbi , qalisa ngokuqaphela xa ezi zinto zivela ebomini bakho.
Ngokomzekelo, phawula indlela ojonga ngayo ubomi kunye nendlela osingatha ngayo kwiingxaki ezahlukeneyo. Ingaba ujamelana neengxaki zakho kwi-head-on okanye ngaba unengcamango engafanelekanga? Ingaba ubomi buzele ngamathuba okanye ubona ingilazi njengento ehlala ingenanto?
Emva kokuba uqale ukuvuma iinkolelo zokuzikhusela kunye neendlela zokucinga ezingafanelekiyo, buyisa umlawuli ngokubacebisa. Umzekelo, ukuba uziva ungenelanga, umbuzo ukuba uyinyaniso ukuba abanye bayakuvuma kuphela ukukhululeka kweziphoso nokungapheleli. Ngaba ngokwenene ungumntu "olahlekileyo" ukuba awuzukufumana impumelelo ethile? Ngaba uhlala uhluleka kwizinto ozibekayo ukuphumeza?
Qhubeka uphikisana neenkolelo kunye neengcamango zakho, ubeke endaweni yazo enezinto ezichanekileyo kunye neengqiqo. Xa uqala ukujongana nemibono yakho engafanelekanga, unokuqala ukuphawula ukuba mangaphi awakwenyaniso ebomini bakho. Esikhundleni sokucinga okugqithisileyo, unokuzicingela ukuba uzive udidekile ukuba awufikeleli injongo ethile, kodwa samkele ukuba ufunda kwaye ukhula kwiimpazamo zakho kunye nokusilela.
Ukuphuhlisa iinkolelo ezintsha kunye neendlela zokucinga kuya kufuna enye inzame eyongezelelweyo kunye nokuzimelela kwinqanaba lakho. Ngendlela yokubeka iliso, ukujongana, nokucinga kwakhona iingcamango zakho ezikhohlakeleyo, unako "ukungafundi" okanye ukuguqula ekukhuliseni, ekukhuthazeni nasekukhuthazeni iindlela zokubukela ubomi bakho. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, unako ukutshintsha iingcamango zakho kunye neenkolelo kwizinto ezithembekileyo kunye neengqiqo.
Umthombo:
Burns, DD (2006). Xa uhlaselwa yintlanzi: Ulwaphulo olutsha olungenazo iziyobisi olungatshintsha ubomi bakho. NY: Broadway Books.