Uninzi lwethu lubona izibonelelo zokuzivocavoca rhoqo: Ingcinezelo encinane. Amandla amaninzi. Ukulala okungcono. Ubomi obude. No lonwabo. Ukuzivocavoca rhoqo ngumnye wezinto ezilula kunye nezona zinto ezintle ongayenza ukuze ukhulise ulonwabo.
Kwaye abaninzi bethu bayazi ukuba simele senze ntoni. Ukuhamba ngaphezulu. Yoga. Ukubetha igumbi lesisindo. Ukutyikitya kwintambo yebhayisikili yezobuhlobo wakho umlingani uququzelele.
Ukwazi isizathu sokuba nendlela yokufumana nokuhlala ngokusemgangathweni kulula ukuba kuthelekiswa nokuqala nokunamathela kuyo. Ndiyicinga ukuba ubeke umgomo othile wokuzilophelela wena kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ongayifumani. Ndiyazi ukuba ndinayo. Sonke senza.
Ngoko nantsi into oyilahlekileyo. Iingcebiso ezintathu ezivela kwinzululwazi yolonwabo kunye nokuphumelela kwephambili ekunokukunceda ukuba uhambelane neenjongo zakho zokuzilolonga kunye kanye.
Gxila kwi-It Tip # 1: Jabulela
Isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu onokuyithatha ekusebenzeni ngokuqhelekileyo kumkhwa ukukwenza kube mnandi. Ngubani ofuna ukuvuswa ngo-5 ngomzuzu weklasi ye-boot echaphazelekayo kunye nomfundisi onokukukhala? Ukuba wenza, mkhulu. Ukuba awunjalo, ke ungayiqwalasela. Kukho amakhulu emininzi yokwenza umzimba kwaye ezinye ziyolonwabo ngakumbi ngamnye kunabanye.
Ukufumana umsebenzi olungileyo, nokuba i-ice skating, i-Frisbee yokugqibela, okanye ukudansa nje, kukuqala nje.
Yenza umendo wakho wokuzivocavoca ujabulise ngokuwenza uluntu. Ukuthabatha umhlobo ngokuhamba kunokunyusa ukonwaba kwakho xa usebenzisa nokuqina kunye nobude bemizamo yakho.
Kwakhona qiniseka ukuba uchithe ixesha elithile ukugcoba i-benefits benefits. Ukuba unako ukuphuma ngaphandle kwaye wenze umsebenzi kwimvelo, thatha umzuzwana ukucwina ubuhle bemvelo obukufutshane nawe.
Nika ingqalelo ekuphuculeni umzimba wakho ohambayo kunye nokuvalelwa kwakho xa uqala ukuhamba. Kwaye nangona usuqedile ii-hours zokufunda ezidlulileyo, phawula utshintsho kumandla akho kulo lonke usuku lwakho. Ukuzikhethela nokuxabisa ezi nkcukacha ezincinci kunokukunceda uhlale ukhuthazwa ukugcina umkhuba.
Ukubambelela kwiTayiti # 2: Shintsha iNjongo
Kwisifundo ngabafundi be-psychologists e-UCLA, abafundi beekholeji baziswa kwilebhu yophando ngeveki phambi kovavanyo. Elinye iqela labafundi lacelwa ukuba libonise umphumo wokuphumeza ibakala elifanelekileyo kulo mvavanyo. Elinye iqela libonise inkqubo efunekayo ukuphumeza iziphumo ezilungileyo. Ngamanye amazwi, bacinga ukuba bafunde. Abafundi ababonise inkqubo yokufunda baphela ekufundeni ngakumbi kwaye benza ngcono ekuhlolweni.
Iinjongo zokufaneleka ziquka iziphumo. Lahla iipounds ezingama-20. Run 5K. Khuphula izitebhisi ngaphandle kokuphefumula. Kodwa ngaphandle kokubeka ithagethi yokwazi ukuba ngaba asiphumelelanga, loo njongo ayisincede siphendule iiminqweno zethu kwizenzo.
Kunoko, abe njengomnye wabafundi abaye bacinga indlela yokufunda kakuhle. Phuma kucacile kwinkqubo enokukwenza ukuba uphumelele kwisiphumo sakho. Ufuna ukuqhuba i-5K?
Zingaphi iintsuku ngeveki uya kuqeqesha? Uza kuqhuba ngaphi okanye ude kangakanani ukuqhuba ukunyamezela? Yimiphi imisebenzi engeyiyo yokusebenza yinxalenye yesicwangciso sakho? Uza kuphi na nini na? Yenza uphando xa ufuna ukuba wenze isicwangciso. Phakamisa impumelelo yakho kungekhona ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufinyelele umgomo wakho, kodwa ngokuthe ngempumelelo uzinamathela kwinkqubo yakho. Inkqubo ihlala iphelele ngokupheleleyo ekulawuleni kwakho.
Gxila kwi-It Tip # 3: Yenze kube lula
Ungabi naïve. Lindela ukuba kuya kuba nezibambiso ekudaleni nasekukholweni kwindlela yokuzilolonga. Kwiintsuku ezithile uya kuziva udelile, uvila, ucinezelekile, okanye udidekile malunga nomngcipheko wakho oshiye ekhishini ebusuku.
Unokucinga ukuba abantu abaphumelelayo nangona le mithintelo yenzelwa ngamandla. Uphosakele.
Kwi-Walter Mischel eyaziwa kakhulu ngama-marshmallow ovavanyo lwama-1960 kunye nama-70, abantwana banikezelwa ukukhetha. Kukho nantoni na, banokukhetha ukutya enye ye-marshmallow ehlekayo phambi kwabo. Okanye ulinde kwaye baya kuvuzwa ngamabini. Abaphandi bayeka abantwana ukuba balwe nesigqibo ngokwabo. Abanye abantwana- abo baphantsi kakhulu ekuziphatheni-baqala ukumbamba i-marshmallow yokuqala baze baya edolophini. Abanye babelindile, bejonge i-marshmallow phantsi kweminye imizuzu embalwa kodwa ekugqibeleni bangenayo. I-self-regulated of the group ayizange ixhomekeke ekufuneni kwabo. Bashintsha umdlalo. Abanye baphendulela izitulo zabo ngeenxa zonke ukuze bangalingeki. Abanye bavala amehlo baze bakhwaza phantsi ukuze baziphazamise.
Cinga ngomfanekiso omdala. Uyazi ukuba unenkinga yokusela ngaphezulu kwesoda ngaphezu kwakho. Yintoni isicwangciso esingcono? Ukusebenzisa amandla okuyeka ukuzibamba i-coke rhoqo xa uvula ifriji? Okanye ungathengi nayiphi na isoda kwisitolo kwindawo yokuqala? Owona mkhulu olawulayo phakathi kwethu ukwenza okwenjenje, okwenza ukhetho olwenza iindawo ezikuyo ngendlela eyenza ukhetho abafuna ukuwenza lula.
Ngoko kunokuba uthembele kumandla okuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwidolophu ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca njalo ekuseni, fumana enye esele isendleleni eya emsebenzini. Xa ucwangcisa iseshoni yokuqalisa kwentsasa, yenza zonke iimpahla zakho zokugqoka, isikhwama sakho sokuzivocavoca, ibhotile yamanzi, i-snack, kunye nezitshixo zakho ebusuku. Ukucwangcisa ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza xa ufika ekhaya usuka emsebenzini? Tshintsha iimpahla ngaphambi kokuba ushiye iofisi ukuze ulungele ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza xa ufika khona. Ngokukulindela ukungaqiniseki okanye ukungazeleli unokufuneka ulandele kwisicwangciso sakho sokuzonwabisa ngexesha elizayo, ungazikhenketha kwaye ujikeleze ngokufutshane.