Imfihlelo yokonwaba ngonaphakade? Uqhagamshelwano nabanye.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungumntu onobuhle bentlalo, mhlawumbi akumangaliswa ukuba ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho kuboniswe kukukwenza ube nolonwabo. Kodwa nangona unxamnye nentlalo-ntlalo, musa ukweqa le nto --- kuvela ukuba uya kuvuya xa uhlala kunye nabanye, naye. Ewe!
Uphando kwiimpembelelo zokuziphatha kwezentlalo kwimpilo kunye nokuphila ixesha elide kuye kwaqhubeka iminyaka, emva kokufunda emva kokufunda ukuba abantu, bafaka nje, izidalwa zentlalo ezifuna ukudibanisa nabanye abantu ukuze zikhule.
Enyanisweni, ukungabikho kokuxhumano loluntu kubizwa ngokuba ngumngcipheko omkhulu wempilo kunokubhema! Ukuba neempembelelo zakho zomsululwazi kunye nokwenza kwakho ukuxhalabisa, ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuziphatha okungafaniyo. (Kulula ukubona indlela oku kudala ngayo umjikelo ongeyingozi; ukungaxhatshazi kwezentlalo kubangele ukwanda kweendlela eziziphetheyo eziphazamisa abo baxhamlayo, oko kuthetha ukuba ngaphezulu kwezo ziphatha, njl.) Nakhu okufuneka ukwazi malunga nentlalo yoluntu kunye nolonwabo .
Uxhumano luyaxhatshazwa
Njengeentsholongwane, "iingenelelo zakho" zihlala zithintela-uthando, ukunyaniseka, kunye nowe, ulonwabo, konke kubonakale kusasazeka ngokuxhamla kwabantu. Ziindaba ezilungileyo! Kuthetha ukuba unako ukuvuna iinzuzo zenethiwekhi yakho (oko kukuthi, abantu osebenzisana nabo, nokuba ngumntu okanye ngefowuni okanye kwi-intanethi) ngeendlela ezingalindelekanga. Nangona ukudibanisa okunzulu kubonakala kukuncedisa, ukuxhamla okungaqhelekanga kunokuthi kube nemiphumo emihle xa abo badibaniselwano be-social-social.
Abanye abaphandi baHarvard baqwalasela ukuxhamla ngokuxhamla kwintlalo phakathi koonxibelelwano lwabahlobo kunye nokufumana impembelelo enokutheleleka ngeendlela nangona abo bafumana imiphumo abavumiyo.
Uxhumano lu malunga nokuqonda
Kanye njengoko unokuziva unesihlwele kwisihlwele okanye bonke bodwa naphezu kwengqungquthela enkulu yentsapho kunye nabahlobo, ukuxhamla kwakho kwabanye kuncinci malunga nento oyenzayo kunye nangakumbi malunga nendlela ojonga ngayo ezo nxulumano.
Ukuthatha ixesha lokubonga abantu ebomini bakho kunyanzelisa ezo zibophelelo, nokuba ziguqula naziphi na iziganeko zangaphandle ezenzeka phakathi kwakho okanye cha. Oku kuhle kakhulu.
Uxhumano lusenza sibe nobubele
Ukuziva kuxhunyiwe kulabo abasondezayo kubangela ukunyuka kwamanqanaba okwandisa. Ngomnye uvavanyo oludumile ngoku, uJonathan Stark wenza ulwazi lwekhadi lakhe le-Starbucks yoluntu kwaye wakhuthaza abanye ukuba basebenzise okanye "bahlawule phambili" njengoko babona kufanelekile. Ikhadi ibone ukusetyenziswa ngokubanzi (kokubini ukongeza kunye nokudweba kwiimali) phezu kwekhosi, kwaye ezinye izazinzulu zenzululwazi zithi ingcamango yokuxhunywa nge-intanethi yintengiso yendima ebangela ukuba abanye bazimisele ukufaka isandla. Kwakuthatyathwa njengengxaki yentlalo, kwaye yavelisa ubuninzi bezinto zokunika abantu. Oku kunengqiqo enikwe into esiyayaziyo malunga nenkonzo yoluntu kunye nezinye iindidi ze-altruism, nabo-abantu abanomdla kwabanye abayikukhuthaza kuphela impilo kunye nenjabulo yabo, kodwa baxela ukuba baninzi banxibelelene nabanye, kwaye abo bakhonzayo banokunyuswa kakuhle.
Uxhumano luya kulwa
Ewe, kwanezethulo zingayifumana indlela yokwakha nokwandisa uxhulumaniso kwabanye. Kwihlabathi lobuchwepheshe lanamhlanje, kulula kunanini ngaphambili "ukufumana isizwe sakho," nokuba sisesikhundleni somntu okanye nge-digital medium.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba zonke iinkonzo ezinobungozi zinempilo kunye nenzuzo yolonwabo, ngoko akudingeki ukuba ukhangele nje uhlobo olunzulu lwezinto ezinzulu, abahlobo abahle-ngonaphakade "njengokubala." Ukuthatha inxaxheba kuyo nayiphi na indlela yentsebenziswano enxulumene nentlalo ukwakhiwa kwebhanki yakho yokuxhamla, kwaye xa unxibelelana ngakumbi, uyavuya ngakumbi kwaye uya kwenzeka ukuba ube nolwazi olungakumbi.
Uxhumano luyimpendulo
Ukuba ufunde kwi-Grant Grant edumile-iphrojekthi engama-75 engama-longitudinal yokuzama ukubonisa ukuba yintoni eyenza sivuya kakhulu --- umlawuli wexesha eli-3-elide, uGeorge Vaillant, uthe uhambo lokuhamba lucacile: "Uvuyo luyothando.
Ukuma ngokupheleleyo. "Kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo, xa abantu bebonile kwaye baxilongwa kwaye bebhenkcezwa kwizinto ezenza bazive bebathandana, ngaba ... abanye abantu.Akunto izinto, okanye nangamava, kodwa ukudibana kwethu nabanye abantu . nwabile ngakumbi .