Ukulahlekelwa kwamandla kunye nokuKhutshwa Kwangathi Ingabonakalisa Ingxaki
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ucinezelekile , mhlawumbi usuvele uphanda iimpawu zokudandatheka komntwana kodwa unokudideka yinto oyifumeneyo. Unokuzibuza ukuba iimpawu zokudandatheka zingabonakala njani kumntwana ngokuchasene nomntu omdala, umzekelo. Ukwazi ukuba uza kujonga kunokukunceda ubone iimpawu zeli meko.
Buhlungu
Abantwana banokudabuka ngezinto ezininzi - ukulahlekelwa ubudlelwane, umsebenzi wesikolo, ukuphulukana, ukulahlekelwa yinto ethile, ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo, isilwanyana okanye intando okanye ukuhamba .
Zama ukubona oko umntwana wakho akhathazekile ngako kwaye unike inkxaso. Ukuba iimpawu zakhe ziphucula okanye zinyamalale kwiiveki ezimbalwa, mhlawumbi azinxulumene nokudandatheka.
Abantwana abaxinezelekileyo banokuvakalelwa ngokubanzi ngobomi babo kunye nekamva labo, okanye abanako ukufumanisa oko bakubuhlungu ngayo. Basenokukhala okanye baqhekeza rhoqo ngenxa yesizathu esicacileyo.
Ukurhoxiswa kwi-Friends and Family
Uninzi lwaba bantwana luya kutshintsha abahlobo ngandlela-thile kwaye bachithe ixesha elinganayo kunye nabazali babo. Kwakhona, abantwana abahamba ngeminyaka yokutshatyalaliswa ngokwemvelo basuka kwiintsapho zabo kwaye baqala ukuchonga ngakumbi kunye neontanga zabo. Eli linyathelo eliphambili lokuphuhlisa elingafanele lidideke ngokurhoxiswa.
Abantwana abadandathekileyo banokukrazula ngokukhawuleza kubahlobo, osapho kunye nabanye ababesondele nabo. Bavame ukuzigcina bebodwa baze baphephe ukusebenzisana bonke.
Bayayeka ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yeklasi, yentlalo kunye neyezinye iinkqubo.
Ukulahlekelwa Intshisekelo kwimisebenzi abaye bavuya ngayo
Umntwana wakho unokuthi alahlekelwe ngumdla kwizinto awayezibathandayo, njengentonethi oyintandokazi okanye umboniso weTV, okanye ngokukhawuleza uthi akafuni ukudlala kunye neLlegos. Oku kwahluke kumntwana onenkxwaleko.
Umntwana ogxininisekile unenkathazo yokufumana uvuyo okanye uvuyo kwinto. Ingaba akanamdla ngezinto ezininzi kwaye akabonakali ukuba uyakhathalele oko akwenzayo nonke. Kungathi ngathi uhamba nje ngeendlela zokuphila.
Ukuziva kungekuqondwa
Wonke umntwana uya kuziva ukuba akaqondi kakuhle ngexesha elithile. Umntwana ogxininisekile unokuziva ukuba akekho umntu onokuyiqonda iimvakalelo zakhe okanye ukuba akunakunzima ukuzama ukuthetha ngazo. Unokwesaba ukuzama izinto ezintsha, ukuthetha ingqondo yakhe okanye ukwabelana ngemibono ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba uya kukhatywa, angachazwanga okanye ahlekisiwe.
Ukuhla kwezemfundo
Kwakhona, abantwana banakho ukuphakama kwezemfundo kwaye bahlasele ixesha. Khumbula ukuba ngexesha lokutshintshela esikolweni esiphakathi okanye esikolweni esiphakeme, umsebenzi wekhosi ungaba nzima nakakhulu.
Umntwana ogxininisekile unokuba nokuhla kwehla kwamabanga, kuba engenzi umsebenzi wakhe okanye uthatha inxaxheba eklasini, esikolweni esingekhoyo okanye engayithobeli ingqalelo. Oku kungabonakala ngakumbi kumntwana owayekade ephakamileyo kwizemfundo kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Ukungabikho kwamandla
Wonke umntu ukhathala, ngakumbi emva kweentsuku ezixakekile, umsebenzi onzima, ubusuku obusondeleyo, izifo kunye nokuzivocavoca, kodwa umntwana ocinezelekileyo unokubonakala engenakho amandla kunye nokukhuthaza. Ngaphandle kwexesha elifanelekileyo lokulala, umntwana ogxininisekile angakhala isikhalazo, ahambe ngokuthe ngcembe okanye athathe ixesha elingafaniyo lokugqiba umsebenzi.
Ezinye iimpawu zokudandatheka kwabantwana ziquka iimvakalelo zecala ; ubunzima bokugxila kunye nokwenza izigqibo; neentloni ; ukunamathela kumzali; ndiziva ndingenathemba okanye ndingenanto ; izikhalazo ezingenakuchazwa ; iingxaki zokulala ; iinguqu zokutya; kunye neengcinga okanye izenzo zokuzilimaza .
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unokudandatheka, qhagamshelana nodokotela wezilwanyana, ngubani ongakwazi ukuvavanya iimpawu zakhe , ukulawula isigulo sonyango kwaye uphakamise unyango olufanelekileyo .
Kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho uxinezelekile okanye uyasabela ngokusesikweni kwisiganeko esibi , kodwa awuyedwa. Abazali abaninzi banzima ukuqonda oko umntwana wabo acinga nokuziva.
Ngethamsanqa, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufumana inkxaso nenkxaso.
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