Indlela Ongayinceda Ngayo Xa Umntwana Wakho Ubandezeleka Ngexinzelelo
Ukuba umntwana wakho akaxhatshali unyango okanye wenqaba ukusebenzisana nenkqubo yokwelapha yakhe yokhathazeka, unokuzibuza ukuba uza kuphucula njani. Nangona kunjalo, akuqhelekanga ukuba umntwana ahlale ethule ngexesha lonyango okanye afune ukuya kwiiseshoni. Enyanisweni, yinyani eyaziwayo phakathi kwabaphengululi kunye nabaphandi ukuba abanye abantwana baya kunqandwa kunyango.
Ngethamsanqa, kukho imilinganiselo abazali abangayithatha ukuze baqinisekise ukuba abantwana babo balandela kwaye bazuza kwiinkqubo zonyango lwabo.
Izinto ezenza ukuba umntwana wakho angakwazi ukunyanga
Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho abe noxhala malunga nokuthetha nomfokazi ngeengcamango zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe. Unokukhathazeka ngokuchaswa, isigwebo okanye isijeziso esivela kumgqirha okanye ukuba iiseshoni zabo zingabi yimfihlo. Ezi zizathu nje zokuthi kutheni umntwana wakho enokumelana nokunyanga.
Kodwa awunabo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba iziganeko zobomi zifumana indlela yomntwana oya kwiyeza.
Abazali banokuchaphazela abantwana abaya kwiNyango
UDkt. Pamela Wilansky-Traynor kunye nabalingane bakhe banyathelisa ukufunyanwa kwimeko efanayo kwi- Journal ye-Academy yaseKhanada yaseKhanada kunye ne-Adolescent Psychiatry ngo-Meyi 2010. Ekufundeni kwabo, bafumanisa ukuba iziganeko zengcinezelo zobomi, ezifana nokulwa kwentsapho okanye uxinzelelo lwezezimali, kwaye intloko, i-stomachache okanye ezinye izikhalazo eziphathekayo ezinxulumene nokudakumba , zinokukwazi ukugqithisa ukubaluleka kokuya kweyeza, nangona xa unyango luye lwabonisa impumelelo.
Kwezinye iimeko, le nto inokuthi ibe nje emehlweni omntwana. Kodwa nabazali abanenjongo enokuthi bangawa nexhoba lokubeka iiseshoni zonyango lwabantwana eceleni ukuze bajongane nento ebonakala ngathi iyinkxalabo ekhuselekileyo ngelo xesha.
Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abazali banako ukuphazamisa abantwana abancinci ukuba bafumane unyango olungaphezu kwabantwana abadala, oku nokuba yinto enokuzihlangabeza yona, ingakumbi xa unxulumana nomntwana okanye usondela kwiminyaka yakhe yobutsha.
Xa Umntwana Wakho Uphucula Imfazwe
I-Psychotherapy ijolise ukutshintsha okanye ukulungisa iimpawu zokuziphatha, ezifuna umnqweno wokutshintsha. Umntwana ogxininisekile , othe wayesaziva ephiwe okanye engacatshulwa, unokushukunyiswa ukuxelelwa ukuba utshintshe.
Drs. UAheresa Moyers noStephen Rollnick, abapapashile ukuhlaziywa kwesihloko kwi- Journal of Clinical Psychology ngo-2002, bachaza ukuba uphando olusebenzayo nale nyaniso luyimfuneko. Izigulane eziye zanyanzeliswa ukuba zifune unyango, njengokuba kunjalo njalo kubantwana, ziyakuthi zibacaphuke kwaye zithintele uncedo. Udokotela obonisa uvelwano nenkxaso kunokwenzeka ukuba akhuthaze utshintsho kunomntu ozama ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba alandele iingcebiso zakhe.
Into Ongayenza Ukuze Uncede
Ngamanye amaxesha, usenokuxhalabisa. Kuyaqondakala. Kodwa kukho izinto ongayenza ukuze uncede imeko:
- Cinga ngeNyango yokuNyango. Ngokutsho kweZiko leSizwe leMpilo yengqondo (NIMH), unyango lwe-cognitive-behavioral (CBT) oludibeneyo kunye neyeza ezixhatshazelisayo yinkqubo efanelekileyo kakhulu yokonyango kwabantwana abadandathekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, unokuba usenokubonisa indlela yokudibanisa nengane yomntwana wakho ukuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho yonyango kuphela.
Zama u-Different Therapist. Kulula kakhulu, umntwana wakho angamthandi umgubi wakhe wangoku. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho azive ekhululekile kwaye ekhuselekileyo ngexesha lokunyanga. Ukudibanisana nomgulana phambi kokuba umntwana akwenze uya kukuvumela ukuba wenze iskrini sokuqala. Ukongezelela, kunokubaluleka kumntwana wakho ukuba abe neengcali ezifanayo zesini, ingakumbi ukuba zixoxa ngezihloko ezibuhlungu ezihlobene nophuhliso okanye isondo. Ukuqinisekiswa koko umntwana wakho acinga okanye anokukhetha? Ngamanye amaxesha konke okufuneka uyenze kukucela.
Khokela ngu Mzekelo. Cinga ngonyango lwentsapho okanye unyango lomntu ngamnye . Ukuxinezeleka kuchaphazela intsapho yonke. Ukubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba yonke intsapho izinikezele kwimpilo yengqondo imvumela ukuba azive exhaswe kodwa engazange ahluke kuyo yonke intsapho. Nangona kunjalo, unyango lwentsapho alufanele luthathe indawo yenkqubo yokhathazeka kwengxaki yomntwana.
Fumana ixesha elimnandi. Hlola iinkcukacha ezincinci zempilo yengane yakho, njengexesha lemini okanye imini yeveki yeeseshoni. Izinto ezinjengokukhathala, ukulamba, ukukhathazeka, nokuxininisa kunokuchaphazela iseshoni yeseshya. Ukuba umntwanakho uhlala evivinywa kakuhle phambi kokunyanga, unokufumana ixesha elinzima ukugxila. Fumana ixesha elihle lomntwana wakho ukuba abe khona kwaye, xa kunokwenzeka, faka into enandiphayo kwindlela yokunyanga njengokwenza uphathe unyango emva koko.
Ukufumana unyango olufanelekileyo kumntwana wakho
Kubalulekile ukunceda umntwana wakho ekufumaneni unyango lokudandatheka. Ukuba umntwana wakho akazukuxhamla kunyango, nangona unzima lwakho, kungathi kubekho ixesha lokuzama ukhetho oluthile lwenyango. Ukuxinezeleka kunokufumana imiphumo emfutshane kunye nexesha elide njengentsebenzo embi nakwezemfundo, ukuzithemba, ukuziphatha kakubi, ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi, nokuzibulala nokuziphatha . Ukusebenza nomntwana wezingane zakho, umcebisi wesikolo okanye isazi seengqondo kunokunceda ekunikezeni izikhokelo zonyango olutsha.
Imithombo:
"Abantwana Neengxaki Abantwana Abangaphantsi Kwangaphambili Ukuxinezeleka?" Isizwe seSizwe kwiMpilo yengqondo.
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