Ukwahlula ukudabuka kokudakumba kwezi ngcebiso
Unokukhathazeka ngokusabela kwabantwana bakho ekufeni komzali kunye nokuba kungenzeka ukuba intlungu yabo iya kubangela uxinzelelo. Nangona kungekho ndlela yokuchaza kwangaphambili indlela umntwana wakho oya kuthatha ngayo, okanye indlela ukulahleka ngayo oku kuya kumchaphazela ngayo, ezinye iimeko zingakwandisa amathuba okuba umntwana abe nexinzelelo emva kokufa komzali.
Abazali kunye nosapho basindayo bangathatha amanyathelo okuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana inkxaso okanye unyango afuna ukuphilisa.
Ukunceda Uncede Umntwana Wakho
Indlela wena kunye nabanye abanonophelo abasabela ngayo ekufeni kuya kuthintela indlela umntwana wakho ayenzayo ngayo. Njengomzali okanye umnakekeli, kuya kufuneka udibanise intlungu yakho ngaphandle kwenkxaso yangaphandle okanye ukucebisa ngenjongo yentsapho yonke. Ukufumana inkxaso oyifunayo kuya kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba ukuphilisa kubalulekile.
Abazali kunye nabanonophala abavakalisa baze baxoxe ngeemvakalelo zabo banokuba nabantwana benza okufanayo, kanti iintsapho ezifihla imizwa yazo zifundisa umntwana ukuba abe neentloni ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Ukugcina iimvakalelo ngaphakathi kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kufumaneka kubantu abadandathekileyo.
Xelela Abantu Abalulekileyo Kubomi Bomntwana Wakho
Imizamo yokuphulukisa iya kubonelela umntwana wakho ngenkxaso eyongezelelweyo kunye nothando akufunayo ngeli xesha elinzima. Ingcali yomntwana wakho, ootitshala, nabazali bomhlobo kufuneka baqonde ngokufa komzali. Ukufikelela kubantu abaqhagamshelana nomntwana wakho nsuku zonke kuya kwandisa inkxaso ekhoyo.
Yenza ukuqeshana nomntwana wengane yakho ukuba axoxe ngendlela ahlangabezana ngayo.
Ukuxhasa Umntwana Wakho
Intlungu yinkqubo eqhelekileyo kwaye ayifuni imithi okanye unyango. Nangona kunjalo, ungadinga ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi kunye nomntwana wakho kwaye umqinisekise ukuba awuyi kushiya.
Ukuthetha nomntwana wakho kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo kunye nokukhuthaza imibuzo inikeza indawo yokuxhasa.
Ukuchaza into enokuyilindela emngcwabeni kwaye uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba anqume ukuba ufuna ukuya kwiinkqubo ezinokukhathazeka.
Izinto ezinokubangela ukuxinezeleka
Nangona ukulahlekelwa ngumzali okanye umnakekeli kungumngcipheko kunoma yimuphi umntwana, amathuba oku kuguquka ukuxinezeleka kuxhomekeke kwimimiselo emine, ngokweengxelo kwiNcwadi ye-American Psychiatry .
Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abantwana abazali babo abafa ngokuzibulala okanye ingozi babesengozini enkulu yokudandatheka kunabantwana abazali babo abafa emva kokuhlaselwa ngokukhawuleza nokugula. Ukongezelela, bafumanisa ukuba abantwana kula maxesha alandelayo bekunokwenzeka ukuba babe nokudakumba phakathi kweminyaka emibini yokulahleka xa kuthelekiswa noontanga babo:
- Ukugula kwengqondo kwangaphambili, njengokudandatheka
- Uziva uxanduva lokufa komzali
- Ulahlekelwe ngumama
Nangona ezi ziphumo zibonisa ukuba ezinye iimeko ezibangele ukufa komzali zingandisa ukwanda kwengcinezelo kubantwana abathile, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akubona bonke abantwana kulezi zimo baya kudandatheka ngenxa yoko.
Xa Kuninzi Usizi
Kungokwemvelo ukuba umntwana abe nosizi okanye abe nesaba xa umzali efa. Kodwa ukuba ukudabuka okanye ukwesaba kwakhe kuqhubeka ixesha elide, kunzima okanye kukuphazamise kakhulu ukusebenza kwakhe, kubalulekile ukubonisana nodokotela wengane yakho ukuvavanya.
Funa ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana wakho unokuzibulala okanye azilimaze.
Ukuchongwa kwangaphambili kunye nokunyangwa koxinzelelo kubantwana kubalulekile, njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba imiphumo emfutshane kunye nexesha elide njengento ephantsi yokuzithemba, ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala nokuziphatha.
Abantwana abadandathekileyo banokuziva bengenathemba, benetyala, bathukuthele okanye bangaqondi; utshintshe kwimikhwa yokulala kunye nesidlo; ukuhoxisa kwiintsapho, abahlobo kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa ezazisetyenziswa; ubonise ukulahla okukhulu ekusebenzeni kwesikolo; ugweme isikolo okanye imisebenzi yentlalo; izikhalazo ezingasichazi kakuhle, njengentloko okanye i-bellyache; kwaye kunzima ukugxila kunye nokwenza izigqibo.
Akunakukuthintela ukulahlekelwa ngumntwana wakho, kodwa unokumxhasa ngexesha elilukhuni ngokumvumela ukuba abe lusizi nangokudala indawo ekhuselekileyo nothando. Ingxenye yale nkxaso iyaqaphela xa umntwana wakho ecinezelekile kwaye ufuna unyango ukuze amncede.
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