Funda ukujonga iimpawu kunye nokunciphisa utshintsho
Xa kuziwa ekuhambeleni, ukudakumba kumntwana wakho akunakukhathazeka okokuqala kuqala engqondweni. Nangona kunjalo, uphando oluthile lubonisa ukuba ukufuduka, ngokukodwa ukutshintshwa kwesikolo esitsha, kunokukhokelela kwimpawu zokudandatheka kumntwana.
Oku, kunjalo, kuphela kuphela. Nangona uphando lubonisa uxhulumaniso phakathi kokuhamba kunye nokudandatheka kubantwana , oko akuthethi ukuba ngamnye umntwana uya kuba nefuthe lokuhamba ngale ndlela.
Kufuneka wenze izigqibo ezilungele wena nentsapho yakho kwaye oko kunokukwenza ukuhamba. Ngethamsanqa, kukho izinto ezimbalwa wena kunye nabanye abazali abachaphazelekayo abanokuyenza ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba utshintsho olusisigxina kumntwana wakho kunye nobomi obonwabileyo ekhaya lakhe elitsha.
Izinto ezichaphazela umntwana wakho xa usuka
Ngamanye amaxesha iinkcukacha zokuhamba azithengiswanga, kodwa ukuba kukho ukuguquguquka kwimiba yakho, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezenza ukuba lula kube lula kumntwana wakho. Xa kunokwenzeka, gcina umntwana wakho kwisikolo esifanayo okanye kwisikolo kwisithili esifanayo. Uphando lufumene ukuba izikolo ezihambayo zinokuba nzima kakhulu kubafundi kwiziko lesikolo esiphakathi nesekondari.
Ukuba umntwana wakho sele elele emva kwezemfundo, ukunyuka kwikharityhulam ephakamileyo kunokuba yinkxalabo-okanye ibenze ukuba iwele emva koko. Umntwana, ukuhluleka kwezemfundo kungonakalisa ukuzithemba.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kukuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana abadandathekileyo.
Ukuba uhamba njengesiphumo somtshato okanye olunye uhlengahlengiso lwentsapho, kuya kufuneka ube neengxaki kwiimfuno neemfuno zomntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho akayi kulungelelanisa ikhaya elitsha kunye nemeko kodwa isakhiwo esitsha sentsapho.
Ukuhamba kunye kunye noshintsho kwintsapho kunokuba buhlungu kumntwana kwaye kubangele ukungaqiniseki, ukuhlukaniswa okanye ukuvutha umsindo, okubonakala kubonakala ekudakaleni . Ukugcina indlela umntwana wakho ayenzayo, kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kunokunceda ugcine ingqiqo ebomini bakhe.
Nangona kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho enze abahlobo abatsha kwindawo yakhe entsha, kubalulekile ukuba ahlale ebusana bamandulo. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba athethe kwaye abone abahlobo bakhe abadala xa kunokwenzeka. Ulwalamano oluthe xaxa umntwana wakho analo, ngakumbi uya kuziva exhaswe kwaye eqinisekile ukuba akwazi ukwenza abahlobo abatsha. Umntwana ongenakho oontanga ukudibanisa naye unokuqala ukuhoxisa esikolweni nakwizenzo zentlalo.
Abantwana abaye babecula ukugula kwengqondo , ingakumbi ukudandatheka, banakho ukufumana olunye ixesha lokudandatheka. Ngokutsho kukaDkt. Karl Alexander kunye nabalingane, abashicilele isifundo kwi -Journal of Education Research ngo-1996, ukunyakaza kubaluleke kakhulu kubaxinzelelo bokuphila kubantwana. Ukufunyaniswa kwabo kubonisa ukuba ukuhamba kwezikolo kunokuba buhlungu njengokuba unesivakalisi esibhedlele ngenxa yesifo esiyingozi.
Abanye abantwana, ingakumbi abo abanokugula ngengqondo eyadlulileyo, banomdla wokudandatheka ngenxa yexinzelelo.
Hlalani niqaphele ngempawu kunye neempawu kwaye cinga ukuthetha nomntwana wengcali yakho malunga nesicwangciso sokunyamekela ngaphambi kokuba uhambe. Unokufuna ukucela ukuthunyelwa kumnikezeli omtsha kwidolophu yakho entsha.
Indlela Abazali Basenokuyenza Ngayo
Ukujoyina amaqela asekuhlaleni nokufikelela kubantu abatsha kuza kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba akayedwa ekuqalekeni. Vumela umntwana wakho akhulume ngokukhululekile ngeemvakalelo zakhe malunga nokuhamba kwaye abe novelwano lwakhe loyiko. Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba ungazivumeli ukukhathazeka kwakho malunga nokuthungatha umntwana wakho.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba ukuhamba kwakho kuza kunye noxinzelelo olongezelelweyo, cinga ukuqala umntwana wakho ekucebisi.
Oku kunokuba luncedo xa kunokwenzeka ukuba uye waba neepasode zangaphambili zokudandatheka.
Xa Kungaba Ngokuxinezeleka
Ngelishwa kwabanye abantwana, uxinzelelo lokuhamba lungabangela iimpawu zokudandatheka. Ngaloo ndlela, abazali kufuneka baqaphele iimpawu kubantwana , ezibandakanya:
- Ukurhoxiswa kubahlobo kunye nosapho
- Ukukhala okungachazwanga
- Ukunamathela kumzali
- Uziva unetyala
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto zangaphambili
- Ukuhla kwezemfundo
- Iingcinga okanye izenzo zokuzilimaza
- Izikhalazo ezingapheliyo ezibonakalayo (umzekelo, intloko, bellyache)
- Ukutya kunye / okanye ukuguquka kwesisindo
- Iingxaki zokulala
Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana abe nexhala malunga nokuhamba. Unokudinga ukunakekelwa ngakumbi kunye nokuqinisekiswa kwiiveki zokuqala zenguqu. Unokuba nobunzima bokulala, obufanele buyele kwizinto eziqhelekileyo ngaphandle kwonyango kwiintsuku eziliqela.
Ukuba ubona naziphi iimpawu zokuxinezeleka, ukuziphatha okutsha okanye okungaxeliweyo kumntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukubonisana nodokotela wengane yakho. Ugqirha unako ukufumana isizathu kunye nonyango, ukuba kufanelekile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuchonga nokuphatha uxinzelelo kubantwana ekuqaleni.
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