Umbhali uBryan Hutchinson uxelela ibali lakhe lokukhula nge-ADHD
I-ADD / ADHD inokuba nefuthe elinzulu kwiintsebenziswano zontanga, nokuba ibe ngumdala. Ngamanye amaxesha impembelelo inokuba yinto enkulu kangangokuba umntu uvakalelwa kukuba unomntu omkhulu. Xa uziva uzimele okanye uwedwa, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukunxibelelana nabanye.
UBryan Hutchinson, umbhali weNkqutyana yoMfana: Isimemo - Ubomi obungapheliyo kunye ne-UnDagnated ADD , ukwabelana ngamava akhe kwaye unike ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo.
Iyiphi Impembelelo EYENZA NGAYO Ebudlelwaneni Bontanga?
UBryan Hutchinson: Abantu abane- ADHD bathambekele ukuzigcina bebodwa, sinzima ukuqonda abo bajikelezileyo kwaye silahlekelwa amanqaku amanxibelelwano avamile. Sivame ukudideka ngokuphathelele oko abantu bathetha ngokwenene, ngokukodwa xa beselula. Ukugcina ubudlelwane kunzima kakhulu kwaye kufuna umlinganiselo omkhulu wenzame yethu; sikhohlwa ngabahlobo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sihlale singabandakanyeli ixesha elide kakhulu, elikhupha abanye kwaye oku kunika impembelelo esiyikhathalelayo ngabanye. Imvakalelo yokuba asikhathalele ngophawu lobuxoki; siyakhathalela, kodwa asigcini nje ukugcina ubudlelane ngendlela efanayo naleyo ngaphandle kwe-ADHD. Sihamba kakuhle kunye nabangenayo isigwebo kwaye abadingi ukudibana rhoqo.
Ziziphi Iimbono Zakho Zobuntu Njengomntwana Nanje Njengomdala?
U-Hutchinson: Njengomntwana, ndaziva ndihluke kwaye ndaziva ndingaphandle kwamanye amazwe.
Njengomntwana, andingazi ukuba kutheni ndikwazi ukudibana nabanye . Ndiza kuphazamiseka kwaye ndilahleke ngexesha lokuthetha. Abanye abantwana bakholelwa ukuba ndiyodwa okanye ndivukela ngenxa yokuba andizange ndidibene nabo. Xa ndiza kuba nomnye umntu onomdla kunye nabasendle bebanjwe kum kwaye sasiza kubhala ingqalelo, ikakhulu esikolweni, kodwa oku kuya kundibangela ingxaki ngemiphumo emibi, kwaye oku kwakuyinye isizathu sokuba ndizenzele kwaye ndizigcinele mna .
Andizange ndidibene kunye kwaye xa ndenza, ndafumana ingxaki.
Uninzi lwe-ADHD abantwana bazalwa ngabaholi. Bomelele kwaye baneengcamango ezinkulu. Izakhono zabo zentlalo zilinganiselwe, kodwa ngenxa yokuqhuba kwabo kunye nokukwazi ukuqonda izinto ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngeenkcukacha ezininzi - oku kubanika iimpawu zobunkokeli. Ngelishwa, le nkalo yobunkokheli inokuthi idibaniswe ngutitshala kunye nabazali ngamanye amaxesha kuba iphazamisayo. Ndicinga ukuba yiphutha eliqhelekileyo labazali kunye notitshala ukuba bangaqapheli ukuba umntwana unokuba yinkokheli kwaye aqhubeke enza izinto ezintle kuba ebuntwaneni buntwaneni kukuphazamiseka kwaye kubonakala ngathi yintlonelo ngamanye amaxesha. Abantwana abangenako ukukhula ukuba babe ngabaholi abaziinkokeli kunoko bakhule kunye nokwenqatshelwa.
Njengomntu omdala, iingxaki zokubandakanyeka kwezentlalo zandilandela kwaye zineempembelelo. Ndibe ngcono xa ndigcina ubudlelwane ngokwazi ukuba kutheni ndijamelene nobunzima kwaye ndafunda ukuphakamisa ukuqonda kwam abanye ngezinto ezixhalabisayo kunye neminqweno. ABA-ADD bangabonakala bezithintela ngezinto ezininzi kunye neengcamango zangaphakathi; Ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ngenjongo yokuba nolwazi kwabanye abantu. Ngokomzekelo, ngobudlelwane nabesifazane, ndandisoloko ndihluleka ukubuza imibuzo malunga nobomi kunye nosapho.
Oku kwenza ukuba kubonakale ngathi andingakhathaleli ngokubanzi malunga nabani. Ndifundile ukunyusa ngenjongo yam inxaxheba kwabanye - abaninzi abantu abangenalo i-ADHD banalo linqwenela kwabanye abantu, kodwa thina kunye ne-ADHD kufuneka siyiqwalasele ngokuqonda ukungafani kwethu kwaye siyenze ngenjongo yokuphucula ukuhlalisana.
Uphucule njani Ubudlelane?
Hutchinson: Okokuqala, kwafuneka ndiqonde ukuba ndineengxaki zokuthetha. Ndandifuna uncedo kwaye unyango lwaluyimpendulo kwimithandazo yam. Nangona kunjalo, phambi kokunyanga, ndenenhlanhla ekufumaneni inzala yabacebisi abancedayo ukuba ndibone apho ndifuna ukuphucula khona.
Ukuba andizange ndibe ngumdlali wolwandle, ndicinga ukuba uphuhliso lwentlalo luya kuthatha ixesha elide, kuba kwimidlalo umntu kufuneka athathe inxaxheba-nokuba kwimidlalo enjalo njengezibuko. I-pool nayo idinga imeko eninzi yengqondo kwaye oku kundinceda ukuba ndifunde apho ndifuna ukuphucula kwaye ndibalaselise ubunzima bam ukugxila.
Ziziphi iinqhinga ozicinga ukuba ziya kuba luncedo kubantwana esikolweni?
I-Hutchinson: Abazali nabaqalayo kunye nabafundisi kufuneka baqonde ukuba abantwana abane-ADHD bahlukileyo kwaye zeziphi izithintelo kunye nokuziphatha okubekwe kuzo kuya kubachaphazela ubomi babo bonke. Singabonakali ngathi, kodwa sinobubele kwaye sithatha izinto ngentliziyo ngokukhawuleza kwaye sikhumbula izinto ezibangela intlungu kakuhle, kuba intlungu neentlungu zivuselela kodwa ngendlela engafanelekanga. Bonke abantwana bafuna isixa esithile sokuqeqeshwa, kodwa kubazali abanezingane ze-ADHD, kufuneka babe nokudala ngakumbi kwaye basebenzise inkqubo yokuvuza egxininisa ukuziphatha kakuhle kunye nezigqibo.
Ndiyacebisa abazali ukuba bathathe abantwana babo abandakanyekayo kwimidlalo ukwakha izakhono zentlalo. Akunjalo imidlalo yezemvelo, kodwa kunokuba imidlalo okanye imisebenzi efuna umzamo ongaphezulu wengqondo. Abantwana abane-ADHD banesipho sengqondo esheshayo kwaye oku kunokubanceda bakhanye kwizakhono zobunkokeli kwaye xa benandipha umsebenzi okwaneleyo baya kufumana iindlela zokuhamba kakuhle, kunokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kunye nobuhlobo obunikezayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukudweba kwam amava amabantwana, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana afunde ukunamathela kuyo - ndandisoloko ndizama kakhulu xa ndiziswa kwizinto ezintsha kwaye ndazama ukuyeka phambi kokuba ndiqale ukwesaba ukukhishwa, ukungaphumeleli kunye nokuhlwaywa.
Ziziphi iinqhinga eziNcedo kubantu abadala?
Hutchinson: Ukuzibandakanya ngenjongo, cela imibuzo kwaye ube nomdla kwabanye. Ubuhlobo bontanga, ndiyakholwa, yinto ebangela ukuba abantu abadala basebenzise kakubi izinto . Isiphuzo esiphuthumayo sinokunceda ukuhlaziya ingqondo kunye nokuphumla iingcinezelo, ukuvumela umntu omdala ukuba abe nomdla kwaye ke ngokokuhlalisana, kodwa oku akunjalo kwizizathu ezicacileyo. Abantu abadala abane-ADHD kufuneka bafunde ukuyeka ukujezisa ngokwabo kwaye baqonde ukuba ukuhluke kakubi, kubonelela nje ngemingeni engayinokuyithatha ngokufunda ukufunda izakhono.
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UBryan Hutchinson. Udliwano-ndlebe / ibhalelwano. 17, Matshi 08.
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