Funda Ngezi Ngxaki Zingadingekile - Nokuba Ungaziyeka Kanjani Kuzo
Ukuphathwa ngokunyanisekileyo kwengcinezelo kubandakanya ukuxuba imikhwa kunye neendlela zokucinga ezinciphisa uxinzelelo esijamelana nazo ebomini kunye nokwandisa amandla ethu okujamelana noxinzelelo esinokujamelana nalo. Kukho imikhwa emininzi eyenza ukunyamezela kwethu ukunyamezela, ukuquka ukucamngca, ukuzilolonga, ukugxila kwizinto ezilungileyo, kunye nokuzungezela ngabantu abaneziganeko ezixhasayo nabaxhasayo, ukubiza ngambalwa. (Funda kabanzi malunga naloo macebo.)
Kwaye nangona ukwakhiwa kwethu koxinzelelo kwiingxaki ezingenakuphepheka esimele sijamelane nazo ebomini kunokuhamba ixesha elide ekusizeni ukuba sihlale silinganisekile noxinzelelo, akuyiyo indlela yokuphela koxinzelelo, kwaye akufanele kube njalo. Ukucima iingcinezelo xa kunokwenzeka kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo. Ukuvumela ukuhamba kwemikhwa yethu yokuzibulala kukunye isicwangciso esibalulekileyo. Singaziqondi nakwezinye iindlela esizihlawulela ngazo, ngoko nantsi inkqubo ebalulekileyo yokuhlaziya.
Ngokuzibandakanya kunye nokugxila kwimikhwa emitsha yokufumana, okanye mhlawumbi iminqweno embi ongathanda ukuyiphonsa, ndingathanda ukuphakamisa izinto ezimbalwa zokuyeka ukuhamba. Ukukhulula ama-grudges, iingcamango ezimbi, ubudlelwane obuyingozi kunye nezinye iimpahla zokungabi nantoni ebomini bakho kunokuziva kunzima ekuqaleni, kodwa xa sele uqale ukukhulula, ukuyeka ukuhamba kuya kuba lula. Ezi zinto zilandelayo zizinto ezininzi zokubangela uxinzelelo onokubamba ngazo, kunye nezicwangciso eziqinisekisiweyo zokuzikhulula ebomini bakho. Unokufuna ukukhetha enye ngexesha ukugxila kwiiveki ezimbalwa (enye inyanga iyintambo yam intandokazi) kwaye uhambe kwenye kwenye xa uvumelekile ukuba uhambe ufumane ukukhulula. Isaziso kwaye uvuyiswe ngokwentsebenzo oyenzayo njengoko uyenza, kwaye khumbula ukuba ekugqibeleni, kuya kulungela umzamo wokuba uxolo olukhulu.
1 - Yeka i-Grudges
Kukho inkxininiso eninzi malunga nokuxolelwa kunye neenzuzo ezininzi, kwaye ngaphandle kokuba sibhekane neziphoso ezinzulu eziye zacetyiswa kwindlela esilathandayo, abaninzi abantu bacinga ukuba ngokwabo baxolela. Sonke siyazi ukuba ukuxolelwa kunokukhulula, kodwa asikwazi ukuqonda ukuba sinamathele kangakanani, okanye asinakukwazi ukuyeka ukukhwaza. Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba unokuzuza ngokuvumela ukuhamba komsindo, zibuze, ngaba uzifumanisa izinto ezenzekile kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo? Ngaba ubambelele kwingqungquthela kwiminyaka yakho emncinci - mhlawumbi umsindo ngenxa yokuba ungenzi izinto ngokungafaniyo, okanye kwabanye ngenxa yezinto abazenzayo ngenjongo okanye ngokungazenzisiyo okukuchaphazele ngendlela engafanelekanga?
2 - Cull Your Clutter
Ngaba uye wakha waya egumbini elibi (okanye indlu ekhohlakeleyo!) Kwaye waziva udele? Uziva njani xa uhamba kwikhaya lakho ekupheleni kosuku olude kwaye unayo igumbi elithile ongaya kuyo apho uzive ukhululekile? Abantu abaninzi abaqapheli umthwalo wokuba i-clutter ingathatha amaqondo ethu. Kukho iindleko ezininzi ezifihlakeleyo ze-clutter , kwaye bonke bangenza njengamanzi amanzi abangela uxinzelelo, nangona singaziqondi kakuhle. Ukuba i-clutter enayo ibangela uxinzelelo, kusenokuba ixesha lokubeka phambili ukulula nokulungisa - indawo kunye nobomi bakho . Nantsi ngoku.
I-3 - Ukujongana neengxaki ezingekho phantsi kwakho okanye Abanye
Njengamaqhinga afihlakeleyo, usenokungaqapheli ukuba unokwenqanda iinkolelo onalo ngawe okanye kwabanye. Ngaba uzifumanisa ukuzithobela akho ubuchule, ukunciphisa impumelelo yakho, ucinga ukuba awukwazi ukwenza into phambi kokuba uzame, nokuba ngaba ufuna into? Ngaloo ndlela, ngaba ufumana ukugabisa abanye impumelelo ngenxa yokuba uziva ungancinci ngempumelelo yabo, nangona uyazi ukuba oku akunjalo? Funda ukujonga iipateni zokucinga ezingalunganga kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengcamango , kwaye utshintshe.
4 - Gweba ukuxhatshazwa (kwaye Funda oko bakukho)
Enye yezona zinto ezincedo kakhulu endazifundile kwihlabathi lokuqeqesha ngumbono ' wokunyamezela ,' ezo zinto ebomini bethu zisisondeza kwaye zidale uxinzelelo, kodwa siphila nabo kwaye mhlawumbi abaqondi ukuba bayongeza umxinwa omncinci kumhla ngalunye. Ukuba uthatha umzuzwana ukuba uqaphele amandla akho emvula, umonde wakho uphazamise, kunye nokunyamezela kwakho, unokwenza isicwangciso sokubakhupha ebomini bakho ngokulungileyo, kwaye usike uxinzelelo olungapheliyo kwinkqubo. Akubalulekanga umzamo.
Ukuchonga nokuqeda ukunyamezela kwakho
5 - Yithi Hayi Ulwalamano olunobungozi
Akunakuyeka ukumangalisa ukuba ubuhlobo bethu bunokusebenza njani njengemithombo enamandla yokujongana noxinzelelo, okanye njengemithombo eninzi yamaxinzelelo enzima kakhulu. Kuyamangalisa ngakumbi ukuba 'ubungane' abathile abaphikisanayo, ukungqubuzana kakubi, okanye ukungenakho ukuthembela, okunokwenene kunokubangela uxinzelelo olungakumbi kunxulumano olungathandekiyo kodwa oluzinzile. Ukuba uyifumana ulwalamano olubi - ulwalamano olusondeleyo okanye ubuhlobo, ukusebenzela ukudala impilo enamandla yindlela enhle yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Kodwa ukuba oko kungasebenzi, ukufunda nokuba njani ukuvumela ukuba kuhambe kunokuba kuyimfuneko. Ukuba uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho obubuthakathaka kodwa ufumanisa ukuba baxineke, nantsi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda.