Ukuphucula impilo yakho yothando kunye ne-ADD / ADHD
Ukunxibelelana kakuhle nabanye kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu. Ukuphindaphinda ukwehluleka kobudlelwane , ukuthandana , kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo lunokubangela ukuba umntu akhuphe kwaye ahlale ekhulile njengendlela yokuzikhusela ekwenzeni ukulimala.
Ukuba ubona lo mzekelo ebomini bakho, yenza isigqibo sokuthatha ithuba kwakhona. Kunokuba ugweme ubudlelwane, yenza umgudu wokuzibandakanya kwakhona.
Suka kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, hlola iipatheni zakho zakudala, uhlakulele imikhwa emitsha kwaye usebenze ngenkuthalo ukuphucula iindawo ezikukhathazayo.
Ukuthandana Kwangathi uMaqalile Ukuqala Okukhulu kwaye Emva koko Ugaleleke
Ngamanye amaxesha inxalenye elula kakhulu yolwalamano luqala xa iimpawu zakho ze-ADHD zihlala ziyimpahla. Unokuba namandla amakhulu, ukudala, ukuvula, ukunyaniseka, ukuthatha inxaxheba, nokuthetha, kunye nabanye banokutsaliswa kwi-charisma yakho, inzondelelo, uvelwano kunye nokwazisa. Inwaba ye "sigaba sentsholongwane" yolwalamano ilondoloza unomdla, naye. Njengoko ulwalamano luqhubeka, kunjalo, ubunzima obuhambelana ne-ADHD yakho buya kubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwaye bunzima.
Ubungakanani kunye nobukhulu obuphezulu bobudlelwane buya kuqala ukuvakalelwa kancinci kumlingane wakho. Ukuthambekela kwakho ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza okanye kwindlela engenakulinganisa, inokuphazamiseka ingaqala ukuthatha inzuzo.
Ukufumanisa Iipatheni Zokuziphatha Okokuthi Ubundlelwane Bobuhlobo
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, usenokuba ufumene umzekelo wokukhungatheka kwamaqabane omabini.
Kusenokwenzeka nokuba ufumene ukuba imiba efanayo iyavela kwakhona. Ngokomzekelo, unokufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lingenakwenzeka kunokuba ungene kwimisebenzi, zama izinto ezintsha, okanye uziphathe ngokukhawuleza. Unokuvakalelwa kukuba ubuhlobo "obuhlelekile" bubuhlungu - nangona iqabane elithandayo.
Nangona impendulo ecacileyo kukuba uhambe kwaye uqale into entsha, ukuba ufuna ngobuhlobo ubude besikhathi eside, kunokufuneka wenze utshintsho oluthile kwimilinganiselo yakho.
Isinyathelo sokuQala ekuTshintshiseni kukwazisa
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokwenza nayiphi na into yenguqu ukuba uqaphele kwaye uvume ingxaki yakho yokuziphatha. Njengoko uyazi ngakumbi ukuba iimpawu zakho ze-ADHD zithinta njani ulwalamano lwakho, unokuqala ukwenza utshintsho kwaye ufunde ezinye iindlela zokusebenzisana ezivelisa ngakumbi. Qonda ukuba ezi ndlela zokusebenzisana zingenakuvela ngokwemvelo. Uya kufuneka wenze umgudu wokuzama ukwenza olu tshintsho, kodwa ukwenza njalo kunokunceda ulwalamano lukhule kwaye lube luncedo kwaye luzalisekise.
Umthombo:
UMichael T. Bell. Wena, Ubuhlobo Bakho kunye ne-ADD yakho. New Harbinger Publications. 2002.
UMichael T. Bell. Ukujongana neMpembelelo ye-AD / HD kuMtshato . Umgca. Epreli 2003.
Nancy A. Ratey. Ingqondo engahlekanga. Umgca we-St Martin. Inew york. 2008.