Yintoni yoxinzelelo lwabaontanga?
Oontanga ngabantu abayinxalenye yecandelo leqela lentlalo, ngoko igama elithi "uxinzelelo lwaontanga" lithetha impembelelo abaontanga abanokuyenza ngayo. Nangona ukunyanzeliswa koontanga akufuneki ukuba yinto engalunganga, igama elithi "uxinzelelo" lithetha ukuba le nkqubo ibangela abantu ukuba benze izinto ezinokumelana nazo, okanye mhlawumbi bangakhetha ukhetho.
Ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo igama elithi "uxinzelelo lwabaontanga" lisetyenziswe xa abantu bethetha ngeendlela zokuziphatha ezingacingwa ukuba ziyamkeleka okanye zithandeka kuluntu, njengokuzama ukusetyenziswa kotywala kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi . Igama elithi "uxinzelelo lwabaontanga" alisoloko lisetyenziselwa ukuchaza iimpawu ezinqwenelekayo zentlalo, njengokuthatha umthambo ophezulu okanye ukuphumelela kwezemfundo.
Ngaba uxinzelelo lwabahlobo luhlale lubi?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, indlela ixinzelelo yoontanga isetyenziswe ngayo ichaza impembelelo embi ukuba omnye oontanga, okanye iqela leontanga, unomnye umntu. Ixesha eliqhelekileyo lisetyenziswe xa kuchazwa indlela umntu osemtsha oziphatha kakuhle ophuhlise ngayo iimpawu ezinengxaki, ngokubhekiselele ekusebenziseni utswala okanye ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokwenene, impembelelo abantu abanokuyithandana nayo ingaba yinto enhle okanye engalunganga, ngoko ngandlela-thile, uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lunokusetyenziswa kwiindawo ezinqwenelekayo kuluntu okanye kwizenzo ezingathandekiyo kuluntu. Ngokomzekelo, uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lunokuchaphazela umntu omtsha ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo.
Ukubandakanyeka kunokuba negalelo, okukhokelela ekuchazeni indlela yokuphila enempilo kunye nemimodeli, kwaye ekugqibeleni uholele umntu omncinci ukuba abe ngumzekelo omhle ngokwakhe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, olo xinzelelo lwontanga lunokubangela ukuba umntu omncinci athile angaphezulu-aqonde ngemidlalo, asebenzise umgangatho kunye nokhuphiswano ngaphezu kwayo yonke into.
Ukuba uthathelwa ngokugqithiseleyo, unokuhlakulela umlutha wobuchopho , okubangela iingxaki zempilo, kwaye umenze alahlekise umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo, ezinye izinto ezentlalontle, kwaye ekugqibeleni, usebenzisa umzenzelo kunye nokukhuphisana kwimidlalo njengeyona nto ephambili yokujongana noxinzelelo lobomi.
Abazali bahlala bexhalabisa ngoxinzelelo lwabaontanga, ngokukodwa ngokuphathelele kwimisebenzi yokulutha , njengokusetyenziswa kotywala nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunye nokuziphatha kakubi ngokwesondo , kunye nokutya, kunye neendlela zokutya, ukudlala umdlalo wevidiyo , ukugembula , ukuthenga nokuchitha imali, kunye nemisebenzi engekho mthethweni. Abazali abaxhalabelekanga malunga neengcinezelo zontanga ukuba bahlanganyele kwimidlalo kunye nokuzilolonga , njengoko oku kubonakala njengendlela yokuziphatha kwezentlalo. Oku kufanelekile, nje kuphela xa umsebenzi okanye umdlalo ungabi yindlela engafanelekanga yokubambisana, ukugqithiselela kwinqanaba elichaphazelayo impilo yabo, okanye eyingozi (njengemidlalo ebungozi).
Umlutha yinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi, echaphazelekayo yimiba eyahlukeneyo, ngoko ukunyanzeliswa yontanga yodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba kukho umlutha.
Impembelelo yabazali inamandla kunokuba uxinzelelo lwabaontanga
Nangona abazali bexhalabele ngempembelelo yoontanga, ngokubanzi, abazali banempembelelo enkulu nokuba ngaba abantwana bayaqhubeka nokuhlakulela ukuziphatha okuluthayo kunokuba oontanga benze.
Ngoko kunokuba ukhathazeke ngemiphumo yabangane bakho kubantwana, abazali bafanele benze ngokufanelekileyo ukugxila kwimeko efanelekileyo, exhasa inkxaso yezilwanyana kunye nokungafumaneki kotywala okanye ezinye iziyobisi. Imodeli yoxanduva lokuziphatheka kakuhle komzimba uya kunciphisa umngcipheko womntwana wakho wokuphuhlisa izidakamizwa njengoko uya kufunda zikho iindlela ezichanekileyo zokusombulula iingxaki kunye nokuhlangabezana neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka, kunokuba uzame ukubalekela ekuziphatheni okuluthayo kunye nokuchithwa kwempahla, okwethutyana, uncedo olungenakulinganiseki kwintlungu, ingaba imvakalelo okanye umzimba.
Nangona kunjalo, uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lunokunyusa umngcipheko wezinye izibizo, ezinokuthi zibe yingozi ngakumbi kunomlutha, njengokuqhuba ngotywala okanye ezinye iziyobisi, ukugqithisa, ukutyhefuza, ukuphazamiseka kwe-STDs kunye neengozi.
Ukuthatha ingozi yinto eqhelekileyo yobuntutsha, kwaye ukunyanzeliswa koontanga ukubeka ingozi kunokulinganiswa ngabazali ukuqinisekisa ukuba babeka imida efanelekileyo, banike inkxaso kwaye bancede ukuphepha ingozi, njengokuthatha umntwana wabo kwiimeko apho utywala okanye iziyobisi zingenakho esetyenzisiweyo, kunye nokubonelela ngolwazi oluchanekileyo, olunyanisekileyo ngemiba efana nokusetyenziswa kotywala nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi.
Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga aluchaphazeli nje abantwana
Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga ngokuqhelekileyo lusetyenziselwa abantu abancinci, ngakumbi abatsha. Iintsholongwane zitshatyalaliswa ngokunyanzeliswa koontanga, kuba zikwinqanaba lokuphuhliswa xa zihlula ngakumbi kwiimpembelelo zabazali babo, kodwa zange zisekelwe ngokwabo imilinganiselo okanye ukuqonda malunga nobudlelwane babantu okanye nemiphumo yokuziphatha kwabo. Kwakhona bazama ukufumana ukwamkelwa koluntu ngeli nqanaba, kwaye banokuzibandakanya ukuziphatha ngendlela eya kubavumela ukuba bamkelweyo abangaphikisani nesigwebo sabo esingcono.
Nangona kunjalo, abantu abadala bangasengozini yokunyanzeliswa koontanga. Abantu abadala abaninzi banxila kakhulu kuba yindlela kuphela yokuba banokuphila kwintlalo. Bambona abanye kwi-casino benempumelelo enkulu kwaye kubakhuthaza ukuba baqhubeke begembula. Bajonge umphathi wabo ukufumana ukunyuswa nokubeka umsebenzi phambi kwentsapho. Ngoko ukuqonda, kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo ukukhetha impembelelo yabangane abaya kubakho kumava anempilo kunye nolonwabo yinkqubo yokuphila.