Ingqwalasela yokuThengiswa koThengiso
I-Omniomania (ukuyothenga ngokunyanisekileyo, okanye into ebizwa ngokubhekiselele kwintengiso) mhlawumbi yinto enobungozi emphakathini. Cinga ngako: Sizungezwe ngeentengiso ezixelela ukuba ukuthenga kuya kusivuyisa. Siyakhuthazwa ngabapolitiki ukuba bachithe njengendlela yokukhulisa uqoqosho. Kwaye, kwabanye bethu, kukho ukukhwela kokufuna oko kubonwa ngabanye. Ukuthengwa kwempahla, ngeenjongo zethu okanye kungabikho (okanye intsebenziswano), kuye kwaba ngumlinganiselo wentlalo yoluntu.
Ukuthengwa kotywala kukunyanzela ukuziphatha okubandakanya ukuthenga ukunyanzelisa njengendlela yokuziva ulungile kwaye ukhuphe iimvakalelo ezimbi, ezifana nokuxhalaba nokuxinezeleka. Njengazo ezinye izilingo zokuziphatha, ukuthengwa kwintengiso kunokuthatha iindawo ezinokubangela iingxaki kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho.
Phantse wonke umntu uthengise ngezinga elithile, kodwa malunga neepesenti ezingama-6 zabantu base-US bacinga ukuba banomdla wokuthenga.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuqala kwintsholongwane yomntu oseminyakeni engama-20 ubudala kunye nokudala, ukuthengwa kwezinto zokuthengisa ngokuqhelekileyo kubakho ngokunye ukuphazamiseka, kuquka ukukhathazeka kwemizwelo kunye nokukhathazeka, ukuphazamiseka kwezidakamizwa, ukuphazamiseka kokutya, ezinye iziphazamiso zokulawula ukuphazamiseka, kunye neengxaki zobuntu. Abanye abantu bahlakulela umlutha wokuthengwa njengendlela yokuzama ukuqinisa ukuzithemba kwabo , nangona kungenako ukuphumelela kakhulu kule nto.
Izinto Ezinhlanu Eziziintloko Ukukwazi Ngeentengiso zokuthenga
- Nangona ukuthengwa kwezinto ezixhaphakileyo kuye kwanda kwiminyaka yamuva nje, ukuthengwa kwintengiso ayiyinkqubo entsha. Kwaye kwaqatshelwa kude kakhulu ngasekuqaleni kwekhulu leshumi elinesithoba, kwaye yakhankanywa njengengxaki yesifo sengqondo kwiminyaka yokuqala ye-20.
- Nangona imbali yayo ende, ukuthengwa kwezinto ezithengisayo kukuphikisana, kunye neengcali kunye noluntu aluvumelani nokuba ukuthengiswa kwezinto zokuthengisa izithandabuzo kungumlutha wangempela .
- Abantu abajamelana nokuthengwa kwezinto zokuthenga izitolo bachitha ixesha kunye nemali xa bethengwa ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuthenga, kwaye abaninzi bangena kwiingxaki zemali ngenxa ye-overspending yabo.
- Ukuthengwa kwezinto ezithengayo kunokubandakanya zombini ukunyanzelisa kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwemali , okuvelisa ukuphakama kwexeshana. Oko kwathiwa, abantu abanomlingo wokuthenga abathengi bahlala beziva bengenanto kwaye benganeliseki ngokuthenga kwabo xa befika ekhaya.
- Njengokuba kukho ezinye izilingo, ukuthengwa ngetyala ngokuqhelekileyo kuyindlela yokuhlangabezana neentlungu zengqondo kunye nobunzima bobubomi, kwaye kubangelwa ukwenza izinto zibe zibi kunokuba zilungele umculi.
UkuThengwa okuqhelekileyo kunye nokuThengiswa koThengiso
Ngoko yintoni umehluko phakathi kokuthengwa kwezinto eziqhelekileyo, ukuhlukana kwamathuba ambalwa, kunye nokuthengwa kwezinto zokuthengisa? Njengazo zonke izidakamizwa, yintoni ebeka ukuthengwa kokutya ngaphandle kwezinye iintlobo zokuthengwa kukuba indlela yokuziphatha iba yindlela ebalulekileyo yomntu yokuhlangabezana noxinzelelo, kwimeko apho baqhubeka bethengisa ngokugqithiseleyo nangona kubonakala ukuba nefuthe elibi kwezinye iindawo babo yobomi.
Njengokuba kukho ezinye izilingo, iingxaki zemali zingahlakulela kwaye ubudlelwane bungabonakaliswa, kodwa abantu abanomdla wokuthengwa (ngezinye izihlandlo ezibizwa ngokuthi "i-shopaholics") bazive bengenakukwazi ukuma okanye ukulawula ukuchitha imali.
Olu bunzima ekulawuleni umnqweno wokuthengwa luvela kwimokelo yobuntu ekwabelana nge-shopaholics , kwaye iyahlula kubo abaninzi abantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ziphantsi kokuzithemba, zithonyelwa kalula, kwaye zihlala zinobubele, ziba novelwano kwaye zihloniphe abanye, nangona zihlala zodwa kwaye zodwa. Ukuthengwa kubanika indlela yokufuna ukuqhagamshelana nabanye. Abantu abanomdla wokuthenga izityebi banamathuba okwezinto eziphathekayo ke abanye abathengi, kwaye bazame ukuzondla ngokufuna isimo ngezinto eziphathekayo, nokufuna imvume kwabanye. Benza inkumbulo ngaphezu kwabanye abantu, kwaye-njengabanye abantu abanezilungo-kunzima ukuchasa iimvakalelo zabo.
Ngenxa yoko, banokungathi banomdla wokuthengisa kunye nemiyalezo yentengiso esisijikelezayo imihla ngemihla.
Nangona ukukhangisa ngokubanzi kulungiselelwe ukunyusa iziphumo ezilungileyo zokuthengwa kwaye kucebise ukuba ukuthengwa kuya kubakhokelela ekubalekeni kwiingxaki zobomi, ezinye iinkqubo zokuthengisa zenzelwe ukuqala ukuthenga umtsalane kwaye zijolise ngokukodwa ekutheni abantu ababenomdla wokuthenga.
Abantu abafumana injabulo baze babaleke iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi kwexesha lokuthenga, kuthiwa "unyango lokuthengisa." Eli binzana lithetha ukuba unokufumana inzuzo efanayo ngokuzithengela into njengokuba ungathanda ukubandakanya ukucebisa okanye unyango. Le ngcamango engafanelekanga kwaye ayikho.
Nangona ixesha lokuthengisa iilwimi lihlala lisetyenziswe ngolwimi-ngetekisi, abanye abantu, kuquka i-shopaholics, benza ixesha lokuthenga nje njengendlela yokuhlangabezana neemvakalelo ezimbi. Nangona kukho iimeko xa kuthengwa ngokutsha kunokuyicombulula ingxaki, oku akusoloko kucatshulwa njengonyango lokuthengisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo izinto ezithengwa ngabantu xa zibandakanyeka kwiyeza zithengiswa, kwaye iindleko zezimali ezihambelanayo zinganciphisa imithombo yokulungisa ezinye iingxaki zobomi.
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Ngaba nguShopaholic? Nantsi iNcedo!
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Ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo kunokukhokelela kwiMiphumo emininzi yeMali
Ukuthengwa kwe-intanethi ye-Intanethi yindlela yokuxhatshazwa kwe-intanethi, kwaye abantu abanenkxalabo yentlalo banokungathinteka ekuphuhliseni olu hlobo, njengoko alufunanga naluphi na uxhulumaniso lomntu. Njengezinye izilingo ze-cyber, azive engaziwa.
Yintoni eyahlukileyo phakathi koThengiso oluPhoqelekileyo kunye noThathaka?
Ukuthenga umfutho kukuthenga okungenakwenziwa okwenzekayo ngokukhawuleza kwindlela ekuphendululeni ngayo umnqweno wokuba unokubona into esitolo. Ukuthenga umfutho kuyinto ehluke kakhulu ekuthengeni ukunyanzeliswa, okuqhelekileyo kucwangciswe kwangaphambili njengendlela yokubalekela iimvakalelo ezimbi. Kodwa kwakhona, abantu abanomdla wokuthenga izitishi bangabandakanyeka kwiintlobo zombini zokuthenga umlutha.
Funda kabanzi malunga nokwahlula phakathi kokuthenga okunyanzelisayo kunye nokungathandabuzeki .
Ingxabano yokuThengiswa kweeNtengiso
Njengazo ezinye izilingo zokuziphatha , ukuthengwa kwintengiso kuyinto engavisisaniyo. Iingcali ezininzi zithatha ingcamango yokuba ukuchitha imali ngokugqithiseleyo ngumlutha, ukukholelwa ukuba kufuneka kubekho isicatshulwa esikhathazayo esenza izibonakaliso, ezifana nokunyamezela ngokwenyama kunye nokuhoxiswa , kuba umsebenzi ube ngumlutha wenene.
Kukho ukungavumelani phakathi kweengcali malunga nokuba kuthengwa ngokunyanisekileyo kufuneka kuthathwa njengengxaki yokunyanzelisa (OCD), ingxaki yokulawula ingqondo (njenge-kleptomania, okanye ukunyanga okunyanzelekileyo), ukukhathazeka kwemizwelo (njengokudakumba), okanye ukunyaniseka kokuziphatha (njengengxaki yokugembula ) .
I-Addiction Adding Like Other Addictions?
Kukho iimpawu ezininzi zokuthengisa izalathisi kunye nezinye izidakamizwa. Njengoko kunye nezinye izilwanyana, abantu abangaphezu kweevenkile bazixakeke ngokuchitha imali kwaye banikele ixesha elininzi nemali kulo msebenzi. Ukuchithwa kweyona nto kubalulekile kwinkqubo yokuthengwa kwezentengiso; ifowuni yokuthenga ayiyilwaphulo, kwaye umzekelo wokulutha uqhutyelwa yinkqubo yokuchitha imali.
Njengokuba kukho ezinye izilingo, ukuthengwa kwezinto ezithengayo kukhwabanisa kwaye kulandela umzekelo wokulutha ngcamango malunga nokuthenga, ukucwangcisa uhambo lokuthenga, kunye nokuthengwa ngokwayo, ngokuqhelekileyo kuchazwe njengolonwabo, ukunyaniseka, kunye nokubonelela ngeemvakalelo ezimbi. Ekugqibeleni, ukuphazamiseka komthunzi, kunye nokudumala, ngakumbi kunye naye.
Abathengisi abaphosakeleyo bathenga iintengiso njengendlela yokubalekela iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ezifana nokudandatheka, ukuxhalaba, ukunyamezela, nomsindo, kunye neengcamango ezizimeleyo. Ngelishwa, ukuphunyuka kukufutshane. Ukuthengwa kudla ngokugcinwa kungasetyenziswanga, kwaye abathengi abaphoqelekileyo baqala ukucwangcisa ukusetyenziswa kwemali elandelayo. Uninzi lwevenkile yedwa, nangona abanye bethengisa nabanye abayithandayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuya kubakho ukuhlazeka ukuthenga nabantu abangenalo olu hlobo lomdla wokuthenga.
Ukuba Ucinga Ukuba Ungumlutha wokuthenga
Uphando lubonisa ukuba malunga nekota yesithathu yabathengi abaphoqeleleneyo bazimisele ukuvuma ukuthenga kwabo kuyinkinga, ngokukodwa kwimimandla yemali kunye nobudlelwane. Kakade, oku kungabonakalisa ukuzimisela kwabo bathatha inxaxheba ekuphandeni ukuba bavume ukuba nalezi (okanye nayiphi) iingxaki.
Ukuphila Ngomngcipheko wokuthenga
Ukuthengiswa kokuthengwa nzima kunzima ukuhlala kunye, kuba sonke sifuna ukuthenga kwinqanaba elithile. Ukuba omnye umntu osapho lwakho unokuthatha uxanduva lokuthenga izinto eziyimfuneko, ezifana nokutya nezinto zekhaya, kunokukunceda ukunikezela uxanduva kubo, ubuncinane okwethutyana ngelixa ufuna uncedo. Ingcinga efanelekileyo yokulahla amakhadi enkoleko kwaye ugcine imali encinci yenkcitho engxamisekileyo kuwe, ngoko ke awukwazi ukukhangela ukuthenga.
Ukuthengwa kuphela ngabahlobo okanye izalamane ezingenakho ukunyanzelisa ukuba zichithe ingcinga efanelekileyo, njengoko inokukunceda ukuba unqande imali yakho. Ukufumana iindlela ezingezinye zokuzonwabisa ngexesha lakho lokuphumla kubalulekile ukuphula umjikelezo wokusebenzisa izinto zokuthenga njengendlela yokuzama ukuziva ungcono ngawe.
Izinyathelo Ezilandelayo Zokuqwalasela
Ukulwa naluphi na umlingo kufuna ukufunda ezinye iindlela zokusingatha uxinzelelo kunye nokukhathazeka kwimihla ngemihla. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokwakho, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bayazuza ngokucebisa okanye unyango. Okwangoku, kuninzi ongayenza ukunciphisa ingozi yenkcitho enyanzelekileyo kwaye ufumane ukuziphatha okuyingxaki phantsi kolawulo. Ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sakho sokuchitha isicwangciso esinokuqala.
Ngethamsanqa, nangona kungabhekiswanga kakuhle, ukuthenga ngokunyanisekileyo kubonakala kuphendule kakuhle kwiinkatho zonyango, kubandakanya imithi, iincwadi zokuncedisa, amaqela okuzinceda, ukucebisa ngezezimali kunye nokunyangwa kwengqondo (CBT). Ezinye zeempawu zobuntu ezitholakala kwi-"shopaholic" ubuntu bode kakuhle ukuba bakwazi ukuhlakulela nokuphendula kakuhle ulwalamano lwezobubele, oluyilungelelaniso lokuphumelela kwonyango lomlingo. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe, nangona kunjalo, nangona amanye amayeza ebonisa isithembiso, iziphumo zixutywe, ngoko akufanele kuthathwa njengento yodwa okanye yonyango.
Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba unokufumana umlingo wokuthengwa kwintengiso, xubusha unyango olunokwenzeka ngogqirha wakho. Ukuba ugqirha wakho akayi kuthatha ingxaki yakho yokuthenga, unokufumana isicatshulwa esingokwenzululwazi sinceda kakhulu (kwaye unokuphinda ucinge ubuhlobo bakho kunye nodokotela wakho bonke ndawonye). Ukufumana uncedo ukuqonda iingcambu zengqondo yakho yokuthengwa, kunye nokufumana iindlela zokunqoba ukuthambekela kwakho kokuthenga izinto zokuthenga, izinto ezibalulekileyo zokubuyiselwa kwimeko edidekayo.
Ulwalamano lwakho lunokuthi luhlupheke ngenxa ye-your-shopping. Ukuxhaswa kwengqondo kunokukunceda ukuba wenze izilungiso kunye nokubuyisela ukuthembela kunye nalabo abanokubethwa kakubi ngokuziphatha kwakho. Unokufumana ukuba unyango lukunceda ukuba ukhulise ubudlelwane bakho ngokukukhokelela ekuqondeni kangcono indlela yokudibanisa nabanye abantu ngeendlela ezingahambisani nemali.
Ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko enokuthi ukuthengwa ngayo, unokufumana uncedo ukufumana iingcebiso ngezezimali, ingakumbi ukuba uphumelele izikweletu ngokuchitha imali engaphezulu kweyona. Unokwenza i-aphoyintimenti nomcebisi wezezimali okanye umcebisi kwibhanki yakho ukuxoxa ngeendlela zokunciphisa ukufikelela kwakho kwiinkcitho ezilula, ukuphonononga izicwangciso zokuhlawula iibhanki zebhanki kunye neendleko zeebhanki, kwaye ubeke imali kwi-akhawunti yokugcina imali engancinci ngendlela ukuphazamisa ukufikelela okulula kwimali eyenza ukunyusa umlutha.
ILizwi
Ukuthengiswa kokuthengwa kunokungaxinzeleleki nakwezinye izilwanyana. Kodwa kukho ithemba, kwaye inkxaso evela kulabo abakujikelezile inokukunceda ukulawula imali yakho. Khumbula, ungumntu ofanelekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungakanani okanye uncinane kangakanani.
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