Ubuntu be-shopaholic
Ziziphi iimpawu zokuba i-shopaholic? Kwiinkcubeko ezithandwayo, umfanekiso wesigxina esisinyanzelayo ngumfazi okhuselekileyo, onqabileyo ochaphazelekayo ngaphandle kwezicathulo zakutsha kunye neengxowa zesikhwama. Ukuthandwa kweencwadi ze "Confessions of Shopaholic" kunye ne-movie kuthethwa nesibheno salo mfanekiso.
Kodwa uphando lubonisa umfanekiso ohlukileyo wale meko engaqondwa kakuhle.
Nantsi ukukhangela kwengqondo ye-shopaholic yangempela.
I-Shopaholic ifuna ukuvunyelwa kwabanye
Ubunzima bokuthengwa okanye ubuntu obuncitshisiweyo bufunyenwe bumnandi ngaphezu kwezifundo ezingaphantsi kwe-shopaholic, ezithetha ukuba zinobubele, ziba novelwano kwaye aziphatheki abanye. Ngokuqhelekileyo unesizungu kwaye unqabileyo, amava athengisa i-shopaholic ngokusebenzisana kakuhle nabathengisi nethemba lokuba oko bathengiweyo kuya kuphucula ubudlelwane babo nabanye. I-Shopaholics nayo inomdla wokuba ithinteke kalula ngabanye.
Iindaba ezilungileyo ukuba uyisipho shopaholic kukuba ukuba nomusa, isimo esifaneleko siya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukuseka ubudlelwane obuhle xa unyanga unyango lwakho. Olu hlobo lomntu lungaphinde lugqithisele ukuba ulandele iingcebiso zomgqirha wakho kwaye uphelelwe yintuthuzelo ekhuthazwa ngabanye kwikliniki yokwelapha .
I-Shopaholic ine-Self Self Esteem
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwesinye seziphumo eziqhelekileyo ezifunyenweyo kwizifundo zobuntu be-shopaholic. Ukuthengwa kuyindlela yokuzama ukuphucula ukuzithemba, ngokukodwa xa into efunwayo idibene nomfanekiso wento umthengi ofuna ukuba yiyo. Kodwa ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokunokuba ngumphumo wokuthengiswa kweentengiso, ngokukodwa njengetyala kunokuqinisa iimvakalelo zokungafaneleki nokungenanto.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba ngokuzibonakalisa ngokuzenzekelayo, mhlawumbi ngoncedo lomgqirha, uya kubona ukuba kukho into enokuzixabisa ngokwenene ngokwakho, njengokwenza kwakho ngomusa, okukhankanywe ngentla.
I-Shopaholic ineengxaki zemoya
Kanye nomoya oqhelekileyo wokungazinzi ngokomzwelo okanye ukuguquka kwemizwelo, uphando luye lwafumanisa ukuba ukuthengwa kweentengiso kudla ngokuxhalabisa nokuxinezeleka . Ukuthengwa kudla ngokusetyenziswa njengendlela yokuphakamisa imimoya, kwanexeshana.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba ukukhathazeka kunye nokuxinezeleka kungaphathwa ngoncedo lweengqondo kunye neyeza, ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ezi zonyango ziphumelela ngakumbi kunokuba zizinto ezinokubambisa ukuthenga.
I-Shopaholic Inzima Ukulawula Imiphumo
Impembelelo yendalo - ngokukhawuleza, inqweno enkulu yokwenza okuthile kukuthintela, kwaye unomuvo wokuba wenze okuthile. Uninzi lwabantu lubona kulula ukulawula iimpembelelo zabo kwaye bafunde ukwenza njalo ebuntwaneni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-Shopaholics, ifumana iimpembelelo, ingakumbi iimvakalelo ezibandakanya ukuthenga into ethile, zombini inzima kwaye ingenakuphikiswa.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba unokukwazi ukulawula ukucinga kwakho ukuba uchithe, ingakumbi xa uhlangabezana nezinye iingxaki.
I-Shopaholic Indulges in Fantasy
Ikhono lokwenza ingqiqo lomelele kwi-shopaholics kunokuba kudla kwabanye abantu.
Kukho iindlela eziliqela ezinokuthi zenze i-fantasies inokuqinisa ukuthambekela kokuthenga kakhulu. I-shopaholic inokucinga ngento evuyisayo yokuthenga xa iqhuba ezinye izinto; bayakwazi ukucinga yonke imiphumo emihle yokuthenga into efunwayo, kwaye banokungena kwilizwe elimnandi ukuze baphunyuke kwizinto ezibuhlungu zobomi.
Iindaba ezilungileyo ze-shopaholics kukuba ukuba namandla okunengqondo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu xa unyango lwezokwelapha kwaye lunokukunceda ekuphuhliseni izakhono eziza kukunqoba ukunxilonga kwakho, njengokuqeqesha.
I-Shopaholic I-Materialism
Uphando lubonisa ukuba i-shopaholics zizinto eziphathekayo ezibonakalayo kunabanye abathengi, kodwa kukho ubunzima ekuthandeni izinto eziphathekayo.
Ziyamangalisa ukuba zithandabule izinto kwaye zinyanzeliswe ukuba zizuze izinto eziphathekayo kunabanye abathengi, nto ichaza ukuba kutheni abathengi bezinto zokuthenga badinga izinto abazidingayo okanye abazizisebenzisiyo.
Ngako-ke, baninzi kangakanani izinto ezibonakalayo? Ewe, kukho ezinye iimbali ezimbini ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo, umona, nokungabi nabubele, kwaye ezi zibuthathaka ze-shopaholic. Banobukhwele kakhulu kwaye bancani ngakumbi kunabanye. Oku kuyamangalisa, kunikezelwa ukuba izipho zithengwa ngokuqhelekileyo ngeentlobo ze-shopaholics, kodwa oku kubonakala ngathi kuyinzame "yokuthenga" uthando nokunyusa izinga lezentlalo, kunokuba kwenziwe isenzo sokunyaniseka.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba ngokunyusa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukudibanisa nabanye ngendlela echanekileyo, uya kulahlekelwa ukuba ukholelwa ukuba uthando kunye nokunyaniseka kunokuthengwa.
Xa ufumanisa oko unokwenene ukubonelela, awuyi kuphinda uzive ufuna ukufihla emva komfanekiso okhuthazwa ziintengiso. Unokuba ngumntu kwaye uphile ngeendlela zakho.
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