Ukuzihlaziya ngokuqhelekileyo kubantu abafihlakeleyo abane-BPD bahlale befihliwe
Isilumkiso: Umxholo wale nqaku unokushukumisa kakhulu ukuba uzibandakanya ngokuzenzekelayo; nceda uqwalasele oku ngenyameko ngaphambi kokuba ufunde.
Ukuzilalisa kunzima ukuqonda ukuba awunakuze ube nesibongozo sokuzibandakanya kule ndlela. Ukuba unomhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho enomngcipheko wobuntu bendoda (BPD) ozenzayo, unokuyikrakra, udideke kwaye udideke.
Ngokuqonda ukuba kutheni ukuzenzela, unokukunceda wakho umthandayo ukuba akwazi ukuhlangabezana nalezi zikhunga aze enze njengenethiwekhi yokuxhasa.
Inkcazo ye-Self-Mutilation
Ukuzilalisa kubandakanya ukutshatyalaliswa ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokuguqulwa komzimba. Imizekelo yalezi ziphatha zibandakanya ukusika, ukutshisa, ukuzenzelela ngeenaliti kunye nokukhangela okukhulu.
Ukuziqhenqa ngokuqhelekileyo kuyahluke kakhulu kunezinye iindlela zokuzilimaza. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abantu abazenzayo ukuzilimaza kaninzi abazami ukuzibulala xa bebandakanya ukuziphatha, nangona abanye bangabika ukuba baxakeke ngeenjongo zesenzo. Oku akuthethi ukuba abantu ababandakanyeka ekuziphatheni kwabo abazenzeli ukuzibulala; Abantu abaninzi abazenzekelayo bazichukumise okanye bacinge ukuzibulala. Ukongezelela, kwiimeko zokuzibulala, abantu baye bafa ngenxa yokulimala kwabo.
Kutheni Abantu Benza Ukuzihlaziya
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba abantu bazibandakanya ekuziphatheni kwabo ukuze bafumane ingqwalasela. Le ngqungquthela. Uninzi lwabantu abazilimazayo lwenza ngasese kwaye baqinisekise ukuba amanqaku okanye izibazi zifihlwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo baya kunxiba iimakhono ezinde ukuze bafihla le miqondiso. Bahlala behlazekile ngokuziphatha kwaye bahlale beyimfihlo.
Ingakumbi kulabo abane-BPD abanomdla wokugatya, bayakhathazeka ngokuqhubekayo malunga nabantu abazifumanisa ngeemfihlelo zabo.
Uphando lubonisile ukuba abaninzi abantu bazibhokoxa ukuze bancede ukulawula amava angaphakathi njengemvakalelo enzulu, iingcamango, iinkumbulo kunye nemizwa ebonakalayo.
Ngubani Osebenzisana Nokuzimela?
Ngelishwa, ukuziqhayisa ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo, ngokukodwa phakathi kwabo abane-BPD. Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba malunga ne-40% yabafundi beekholeji bazenzela ukuzibamba ubuncinane kanye kunye ne-10% baye bazenza ukuzithoba ezili-10 okanye ngaphezulu. Ubungqina bubonisa ukuba amadoda nabasetyhini bazibandakanya ekuziphatheni ngokwabo ngokwezinga elilinganayo.
Abantu abaye baxhatshazwa kakubi ebuntwaneni babo, njengokuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo okanye ukunganyaniseki, okanye abo bahlukane nomncedisi ebuntwaneni, banomngcipheko omkhulu wokutyunjwa kwabantu kunabantu bonke.
Ukuzihlaziya Kwenzeka Njani?
Ngenxa yokuba ukuzithiba kudla ukuzama ukulawula iimvakalelo ezinzulu, unyango lweendlela zokuziphatha ngokuzenzekelayo ukugxila ekuncedeni umntu ukuba athole iindlela ezintsha, eziphilileyo zokulawula iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango. Ngokomzekelo, unyango olulodwa lokuziphatha kwengxaki yomntu ongenamkhawulo, unyango lwendlela yokuziphatha , ludinga imizamo engafanelekanga ekuncedeni isigulane ukufunda nokuqhuba isethi esitsha sezakhono zokujamelana.
Kwezinye iimeko, ugqirha unokumisela amayeza ukuba ancede ukulawula iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo kunye nokunciphisa ukufuna ukuzilimaza.
Yintoni enokuyenza xa uMhlobo okanye owathandayo Omnye usebenza
Ukuba uya kuthetha nomhlobo wakho okanye umthandayo malunga nokutyunjwa, kubalulekile ukukwenza ngendlela engenamgwebo. Ukusondela ngokuzinzileyo kwaye ngononophelo kunokukwenza umntu azive evezwe kwaye aqondwe.
Ngaphambi kokuba uxoxe nomntu othandekayo, kungaba yinto efanelekileyo ukuthetha nomgqirha ogqwesileyo ekuphatheni i-BPD kunye nokuzilalisa. Unako ukukunika iingcebiso zobugcisa ngendlela engcono yokusondela kwimeko ngaphandle kokwesabisa okanye ukuphazamisa umhlobo wakho.
Fumana unyango lwe-Self-Mutilation
Ukuba wena okanye umntu owaziyo unzima ukuzinyula, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango ezifumanekayo kubandakanya ukufumana umgqirha ukuthetha naye.
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