Ukuba unesifo sengqondo esifana nomngcipheko wobuntu bendoda (BPD), mhlawumbi uyasetyenziswa ngendlela yonke yokuvakalelwa nokuphendula. Kulabo abane-BPD, oko kunokuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo ezinzulu, izenzo ezonakalisayo, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, kunye neemvakalelo zokushiya. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uye wahamba iminyaka uvakalelwa ngale ndlela kwaye awuyazi nayiphi enye indlela yokuphila.
Ukuba ucinga ukuya kwonyango, inokuba yinkxalabo, inokukrakra, kwaye idangele.
Iiseseshini zengqondo zicela ukuba utshintshe ngokupheleleyo indlela ocinga ngayo kunye nokulungiswa kweziphatho. Ingaba ngamava kunye neengxaki, kodwa ulwalamano olomeleleyo lunokukunceda.
Yiyiphi i-Therapeutic Alliance?
Isiseko saliphi na uqeqesho lwenkonzo yonyango oluqinileyo, oluqinileyo oluqulunqwe ukukunceda ekuphumeni kwakho. Ulwalamano onalo kunye nomgqirha wakho kunye nenqanaba lokuthembela onalo kuye. Oku kukugcina ugxotha ngexesha lonyango, nangona kunzima okanye bubuhlungu, kuba uyazi ukuba unomdla wakho engqondweni. Olu qhagamshelo lunokuba lukhuni ukwakha kodwa luquka ezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Inomdla wokwenene : Umgulane ongcono unikezela ingqalelo. Uphulaphula into oyithethayo kwaye ucela imibuzo yokucacisa. Akabonakali exakekile, akayikucoca nge-imeyile, kwaye akayikukunika iingcamango okanye izimvo zakhe kuphela.
- I-Specialization: I-yourrapist imele ikwazi ukuqonda oko uhambayo ukukunceda. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka abe nemvelaphi yokufunda i-BPD kwaye asebenze nezigulane ezineBPD.
- Induduzo: Kufuneka ukhululeke ukuxelela into yakho nayiphi na into, nokuba ihlazo. Ufanele akubeke ekuphumleni kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uyazi ukuba iingxoxo zakho ziyimfihlo.
- Iinjongo eziqhelekileyo : Nonke nifanele nibe neenjongo ezifanayo ukwenzela ukuba nisebenzele ukufikelela kwindawo efanayo.
Ukwakha Ulwalamano lwezonyango
Intsebenziswano enamandla yokwenza imithwalo engenakwenzekayo ngobusuku kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka nayiphi na ingcali. Abantu abaninzi abane-BPD baya kutyelela abaniki-nkonzo abaninzi bezempilo okanye abagula ngengqondo ngaphambi kokuba bafumane enye "banokuklibanisa" nabo.
Xa uqala unyango, kulungile ukuba uxoxisane nabanye abaneengcali zempilo yengqondo. Buza imibuzo malunga neendlela zabo zonyango, yiziphi iindlela kunye neengcamango abazisebenzisa rhoqo, kunye nemvelaphi yabo ekuphatheni i-BPD nezinye izifo zobuntu. Kwakhona ingcamango efanelekileyo yokubuza ukuba ikhona kangakanani-abantu abaninzi abane-BPD abazibandakanya ngokuzilimaza okanye abacinga ngokuzibulala baya kudla ukubiza umnxeba wabo kwiiyure ezingapheliyo ngexesha loxakeka.
Umgudu wakho unokufumana uvuyo ukuphendula imibuzo yakho. Ukuba ubonakala ecasulayo, engapheliyo, ekhuselayo, okanye egcina ukujonga umlindo wakhe, lixesha lokuhamba kwaye ufumane omnye umntu. Umgulane olungileyo ufanelekile umsebenzi wesikolo owongezelelweyo ukwenzela ukukunceda endleleni eya kuphumla ixesha elide.
ILizwi
Ukuba unenkathazo yokufumana ugqirha onemvelaphi kunye ne-BPD, thetha ugqirha wakho jikelele okanye ugqirha wokunakekelwa ngokusisiseko ukuba ubone ukuba unakho na iziphakamiso.
Uya kuba neengcali ezahlukeneyo, abacebisi, iingqondo, kunye neengqondo zeengqondo kwifayili anokukuthumela kuyo.
Umthombo:
Meyers, L. (uAgasti 2014). Ummeli waseMelika. Ukucebisa namhlanje : "Ukudibanisa nabaxhasi"