Ukuzama Ukujongana NeFobia Enamandla Ngayo Yakho Inokutsha
Ukuba unesifo esithile, mhlawumbi uyazi kakuhle iingcebiso ezisetyenziswe ngabahlobo kunye nosapho abazama ukukunceda ukujongana nayo: "Bhuqa." "Yiba ngumntu." "Yilibale."
Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba ukunikela ngamanqaku kunokukunceda ujamelane noyiko lwakho. "Wena unombolo X yexesha elininzi elinokuthi uhlaselwe ngumbane / ugijime ngebhasi yokukhawuleza / etshitshiswe yibholabhuthi kunokuba uza kufa (naluphi na ukwesaba kwakho)."
Nangona la mazwi obulumko angabakhuthaza kwaye akhuthaze abantu abafumana iintsholongwane zemihla ngemihla, banokukhubazeka xa unobandezeleka obukhulu be-phobias . Ngoba? Uyazi ukuba ukwesaba kwakho akunangqiqo. Ukukhunjuzwa kokungahambi kakuhle kwayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba, ukwesaba kunamandla ngakumbi.
Ukujongana nePhobia
Kuphantse kunokwenzeka ukuhlangabezana nesimo esinoyiko. Indlela okwenza ngayo loo nto, nangona kunjalo, kuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezininzi. Kunzima kunzima ukujamelana nobunzima obutshanje. Xa usuyixhala okanye ugxininisekile, ukujamelana ne-phobia kunzima kunokuba uxolo kwaye ukhululekile. Ukujongana nezimbangela ezininzi, ezifana nezihlwele kunye nesandi esikhulu , kunzima kunokujongana nesimo esisodwa esishukumisayo.
Ukujongana NeFobia Ngakho
Indlela esabela ngayo kwi-phobias ingaba yinto ehlukileyo njengezinto ezibangele.
Abanye abantu bayabaleka. Abanye bayakhala. Abanye abantu bacaphukile kwaye banenzondelelo. Ezinye ziqhwale endaweni. Cinga ngezihlandlo oye waphumelela ngengozi kwiimeko ezibangele i-phobia yakho. Ukuzibeka ngokuzimeleyo kwimeko eyoyikisayo kuya kubangela ukuphendula okufanayo. Abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba xa bejongene neenjongo zabo, ukuqonda kolawulo kunganciphisa impendulo yabo, kodwa oku akunjalo.
Ingozi Yokujongana NePhobia
Umkhukula yinkqubo yengqondo yengqondo apho umntu obhekene ne-phobia ubhaptizwa kwiimeko eziphazamisayo. Nangona kunjalo, lobu buchule lusetyenziswa ngabaqeqeshi bezempilo yengqondo , ngokuqhelekileyo kunye nezinye iindlela ezifana nokuphefumla kunye nokuzibonakalisa . Ukuzama ukwenza izikhukula ngokwakho kunokubangela ukwesaba okanye ukubonisa ukuziphatha okungalawulwayo, kwaye kunokukwenza ukuba i-phobia yakho ibe nzima nakakhulu.
Ezinye iimpendulo zengqondo zingakhokelela ekuziphatheni ezinobungozi. Ukuba ukuthambekela kwakho kukubalekela kwi-trigger, ukuzama ukujamelana noyiko lwezinto eziphakamileyo ngokubethelwa kwinqaba elingaphahlayo kunokuphelisa ngokubuhlungu. Ukuba uthetha ukuphosa emzimbeni xa uvalelwe, ukujongana ne- claustrophobia yakho kwisiganeko esiphezulu kungabangela ingxaki.
Ngaba I-Phobia okanye Ingoyiko Nje?
Kungaba nzima ukuchazela umahluko phakathi koyiko kunye ne-phobia . Ukuba uloyiko lwakho lubangela ngaphezu kwamabhobhofini esiswini, ukusabela kwakho kunokuba yintlanzi. Ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo uzifumana ukhuphe imeko ethile okanye ucinga malunga nokuchasana okuzayo, okanye xa ubonisa ukuphendula okuphawulekayo njengokuhamba, ukuthuthumela okanye ukukhala, mhlawumbi ukhuselekile ukuba ucinge ukuba unokwesaba okulula.
Ufanele Usebenze Njani NePhobia?
Xhumana nodokotela wakho wosapho okanye uqeqeshiweyo wezempilo yengqondo malunga nokuba naluphi uloyiko olubonakala lunzima okanye oluchaphazela ubomi bakho. Uninzi lwama-phobias lunokunyangwa kwiiseshoni ezimbalwa nje usebenzisa udidi lwezonyango kunye, mhlawumbi, unyango . Unokufunda ubuchule bokusebenzisana kunye nezicwangciso, ubhekane neengcambu zoboloyiko okanye usebenze kwinkqubo eyaziwa ngokuba yinto enqwenelekayo kwinkqubo oya kutyhila kuyo into oyiyo.
Ngelixa uzama ukuzama ukujongana ne-phobia ngokwakho, ukhokelo lwezakhono lunokwandisa amathuba akho okuphumelela kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ungenzi izinto ezimbi ngenye indlela kwinkqubo.
Ngexesha elilandelayo umhlobo onentsingiselo enokuthi "ufikelele," mxelele ukuba usebenza ngoloyiko ngendlela efanelekileyo.
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Tomlinson, uNicole. Ekujuleni: Iengqondo. "Ukwesaba Izinto." Iindaba zeCBC. Oktobha 31, 2007.