Abantwana abahlala emakhaya apho kukho ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi ngamanzi, banokufumana ubomi bunzima, bengaqiniseki kwaye badideke. Ngamanye amaxesha bayakholelwa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala okanye ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kuyisiphoso sabo.
Ukujongana neengxabano nokungaqiniseki kwimizi yabo yasekhaya, abantwana banokufumana imiyalezo engahambelaniyo. Basenokuziva benetyala kunye neentloni bezama ukugcina intsapho "imfihlelo." Ngokuvakalayo bazizwa belahlwe ngenxa yokungabikho kwemvakalelo kwabazali babo.
Yintoni Oya Kuxelela Abantwana?
Ukuba intsapho iyaphula ngenxa yokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, okanye ukuba abantwana basuswa ekhaya, abanye bayaxoshwa kwaye badane xa abanye bengabhoxisa kwaye banobundlobongela. Bavame ukuvelisa imiba ngokuzithemba, ukunamathiselwa, ukuzimela, kunye nokwethemba.
Uyabatshelisa abantwana xa omnye okanye bobabini abazali babo bexilongo okanye badlwengula? Uchaza njani iingxabano? Okokuqala kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, kuba ukuthembela kukuhlala kuyinkxalabo, ubaxelela inyaniso.
Ngokutsho kweZiko leSizwe malunga nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye neNtlalontle yabantwana, le miyalezo yokuba abantwana, kunye nabazali abanxilisayo okanye abagxekayo, kufuneka bakuve:
Umlwelwe Ngaba Isifo
Izingane zifuna ukwazi ukuba abazali bazo "ababi" ngabantu, ngabantu abagulayo abanesifo . Xa banxila okanye bephakamileyo, ngamanye amaxesha abazali banokwenza izinto ezintle okanye izinto ezingenangqondo.
Akusiyo Inkohlakalo Yakho
Abantwana mabaqonde ukuba asikho isizathu sokuba umzali anxilise kakhulu okanye asebenzise kakubi iziyobisi.
Abazange babangele umlutha kwaye abakwazi ukuwuyeka.
AWUKHO wedwa
Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba imeko yabo ayinayo kwaye ayenaye. Izigidi zabantwana zinabantwana abanomlutha kwiziyobisi okanye abadakayo. Kufuneka baqonde ukuba nakwiikolo zabo, kukho abanye abantwana kwimeko efanayo.
Kulungile ukuthetha
Abantwana emakhaya abanokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kufuneka bazi ukuba kulungile ukuthetha malunga neengxaki, ngaphandle kokuziva besaba, iintloni okanye iintloni. Abasayi kuphinda baxoke, bafihle kwaye bahlale befihlakele.
Bafanele bakhuthazwe ukuba bafumane umntu abathembelayo-utitshala, umcebisi, umzali okhulayo, okanye amalungu eqela lenkxaso yontanga efana no- Alateen .
Cs Seven
Umbutho kaZwelonke wabantwana bezoTywala ucebisa ukuba abantwana abasebenzelana nokuxhatshazwa kwentsapho bafunde kwaye basebenzise oku kulandelayo "i-Cs ye-Addiction:"
Andizange ndenze.
Andikwazi ukunyanga .
Andikwazi ukuLawula .
Ndiyakwazi ukunakekela
Ngokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zam,
Ukwenza ukhetho oluphilileyo, kwaye
Ngokuzibhiyozela.
Abantwana abasuka kumakhaya apho ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi zesoloko babesaba, banesizungu kwaye baninzi baziva bexothwe kuluntu. Enoba uhambisa isigidimi ngokugqibeleleyo okanye cha, uzinike umntu onokuthetha naye ibalulekileyo ebalulekileyo ekuphumeni kwawo.
Imithombo:
Breshears, EM, kunye. al. " Ukuqonda ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye nokuPhucula ukuPhucula: Isikhokelo sabasebenzi beNtlalontle ." ISebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neeNkonzo zoLuntu. I-Rockville, MD: Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zezeMpilo, 2004.
Umbutho weSizwe we-Children of Alcoholics. Akuyiphutha Lakho! (PDF). 2006.