Ukuxhalabisa kuquka ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba nokukhathazeka. Ukuxhalabisa ngokuqhelekileyo kufumaneke ngamava kwiinkcazo ezinokuqonda, ezingqondweni, nangokwemvelo. Ngokomzekelo, xa uziva unxunguphekile umntu unokuba neengcamango ezimbi okanye eziphazamisayo. Kwinqanaba lomzwelo, umntu unokuziva evekisiwe okanye engekho. Kuqhelekile ukuba noxinzelelo olunzulu ngeemvakalelo ezininzi, ezifana nokujuluka, ukuthuthumela, okanye ukuphefumula okufutshane .
Ezi zimpawu ziqhelekileyo kubantu abaye bafumanisa ukuba baneengxaki zokuxhalabisa . Abantu abanengxaki yokuphazamiseka ngokuqhelekileyo baqhelana nomzabalazo wokulawula iimvakalelo. Inokuvakalelwa ngathi ukuxhalaba kuthatha okanye kungagqithwanga ngokupheleleyo.
Ngaba ukuxhalabisa kunokubangela ukuba bakho ubomi? Ngethamsanqa, kukho ezinye iindlela ezilula ongazithatha ukulawula uxhalaba lwakho. Uluhlu ngezantsi zi-4 iingcebiso zokukunceda ukujamelana neemvakalelo zakho:
1 - Yeka uze uphefumule
Xa uxhalaba, khawula ixesha kwaye ucinge malunga noko kukukwenza ukhathazeke. Ukukhathazeka ngokuqhelekileyo kunolwazi malunga nexesha elizayo okanye elidlulileyo. Umzekelo, unokhathazeka ukuba into embi iya kwenzeka kwikamva. Mhlawumbi uhlala ucasulwa ngenxa yesiganeko esele senzekile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhathazeke ngani, inxalenye enkulu yengxaki kukuba awuyikukhumbuza umzuzu wamanje. Ukuxhalabisa kukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi xa usula ingqondo yakho yokukhathazeka kwaye uzisa ulwazi lwakho ngoku.
Ngexesha elizayo ukuxhalabisa kwakho kukuqala ukukukhupha okwangoku, uphinde ulawule ngokuhlala phantsi uze uthathe ukuphefumula okumbalwa. Ukumisa nje nokuphefumula kunokunceda ukubuyisela umlinganiselo wokulinganisela kunye nokubuyisela kumzuzu wamanje. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unayo ixesha, zama ukuthatha lo msebenzi ngokukhawuleza kwaye uzame ukuphefumula kunye nemantra . Ziqhelise le ndlela yokuphefumula:
- Qalisa ngokungena kwindawo ehlelekile yokuhlala.
- Vala amehlo akho uze uphucule kancane ngeempumlo zakho. Landela le mpuphu nge-exhalation ejulile.
- Qhubeka uphefumle ngokuzeleyo kwaye uphume ngokupheleleyo, ngaphandle nangaphandle kwempumlo yakho. Vumela ukuphefumula kwakho ukuba ube yikhokelo kwikhoyo.
- Sebenzisa i-mantra, "Yiba Khona" njengoko uphefumula. Ngomphefumlo ngamnye ngaphakathi, cingela ukuba "ube" kunye nokuphefumula ngalunye, gxininisa igama elithi "langoku."
Izenzo zokuphefumula ezinjengalezi zixhobo zokuphucula ezinamandla ezinokukunceda umzimba wakho kunye nengqondo yokuxhalabisa ngelixa ubeka ingqalelo kwizinto ezikhoyo.
2 - Umzobo ophuma kwizinto ezikukhathazayo
Iimpawu zomzimba zoxhala kunye nokuxhalabisa , ezifana nokuthuthumela, intlungu yesifuba , kunye nentliziyo ekhawulezayo, ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala ngakumbi kunokuqonda oko kukukukhathazayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ufumane ingcambu yokuxhalaba kwakho, kufuneka uqonde oko kukukhathazayo. Ukuze ufike phantsi kwexhala, xhawula ixesha lokuhlola iingcamango zakho neemvakalelo zakho.
Ukubhalwa kwiphepha-ndaba kunokuba yindlela ephezulu yokufikelela kunye nemithombo yakho yokuxhalabisa. Ukuba iimvakalelo ezixhalabileyo zibonakala zikugcina ebusuku, zama ukugcina iphephancwadi okanye isikhalazo ecaleni kombhede wakho. Bhala phantsi zonke izinto ezikukhathazayo. Ukuthetha nomhlobo kungaba yindlela enye yokufumana nokuqonda iimvakalelo zakho. Yenza umkhwa ukuvula rhoqo kwaye ubonise iimvakalelo zakho.
3 - Ukulahla okanye ukujongana nayo
Amaxesha amaninzi ukuxhalabisa kubangelwa ukwesaba izinto ezingazange zenzeke kwaye akunakwenzeka. Umzekelo, nangona yonke into ilungile, usenokuba uxhalabele ngemicimbi enokuthi, njengokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho, ukugula okanye ukhuseleko lwabathandekayo bakho. Ubomi obungenakulinganiswa kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, awukwazi ukulawula rhoqo oko kwenzekayo. Nangona kunjalo, unokwenza isigqibo sokuba uza kuhlangabezana njani na. Unokuguqula ukuxhalaba kwakho ibe ngumthombo wamandla ngokuvumela ukuba uloyike kwaye ugxile ekubuleleni .
Yenza uloyiko lwakho ngokutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngabo. Ngokomzekelo, yeka ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kwaye kunoko ugxininise indlela onombulelo ngayo ukuba ube nomsebenzi. Woza usebenze ngokuzimisela ukwenza okusemandleni akho. Esikhundleni sokwesaba ukhuseleko lomthandayo, sebenzisa ixesha kunye nabo okanye ubonise ukubonga kwabo. Ngomsebenzi omncinci, unokufunda ukulahla uxhalaba lwakho kwaye uthathe umbono obhetele.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuxhalabisa kwakho kunokuba kubangelwe imeko yangempela ebomini bakho. Mhlawumbi unesimo apho kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhathazeke ngokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho ngenxa yokuchithwa kweenkampani eziphezulu okanye iintetho zokunciphisa. Xa ukuxhalabisa kubonwa ngokuba kubangelwa yingxaki ekhoyo, ngoko ukuthatha inyathelo kungayimpendulo yokunciphisa uxhalaba lwakho. Umzekelo, unokufuna ukuqala umsebenzi wokukhangela okanye ukucwangcisa udliwano-ndlebe emva komsebenzi. Ngokuzibandakanya ngakumbi, ungazivakalelwa ukuba unokulawula ngakumbi imeko yakho.
4 - Gxila kwizinto ezincinci Ukukhathazeka-Ukunikezela
Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuzithumela ukugxila kwinto ngaphandle kwexhala lakho. Unokufuna ukufikelela kwabanye, yenza ezinye izinto malunga nekhaya lakho, okanye uhlanganyele kumsebenzi onomdla okanye umdlalo. Nazi iimbono ezimbalwa zezinto onokuzenza ukukhubaza ukuxhalaba:
- Mamela umculo
- Hamba ukuhamba okanye uhlanganyele kwezinye iindlela zokuzivocavoca umzimba
- Yenza imisebenzi ethile okanye uququzelele indlu
- Yenza umsebenzi wokudala, njengomdwebo, ukudweba, okanye ukubhala
- Funda incwadi enhle okanye ubukele i-movie ehlekisayo
- Thandaza okanye ucamngce
Uninzi lwabantu luyakwazi ukufumana uxhalaba olusuka kwixesha ngexesha. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhathazeka okungapheliyo kungumqondiso wesifo sokuxhalabisa. Xa uxhalaba luthinta ubudlelwane bomntu, ukusebenza komsebenzi kunye nezinye iindawo zobomi, kunokwenzeka ukuba le mivakalelo exhalabileyo ingumqondiso wesifo sezempilo yengqondo.
Ukuba ufumana iimpawu ezixhalabileyo kunye neentlanzi, khuluma nodokotela wakho okanye nabanye abaqeqeshi abaphatha ingxaki yokuphazamiseka . Baya kuba nako ukujongana naluphi na ukukhathazeka onayo, banikele ngolwazi malunga nokuxilongwa, kwaye nixoxe ngeendlela zakho zokonyango .