Iziganeko ezili-12 ze-AA kunye ne-Al-Anon
Kukho inqaku kwiiprogram ezili-12 ezinokuyilungisa inkqubo, kungekhona isiganeko. Kuyafana okufanayo kwiNyathelo ye-4 - ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubonakala.
Isinyathelo 4
Yenza i-inventory yokucinga kunye neyokungahloneli nto.
Ingaba sifika kwiingcango zoTywala ezingabonakaliyo okanye ama-Al-Anon Family amathuba okuba sizisa ixesha "lobomi".
Ngokunyanisekileyo, kuthatha ixesha lokuba "inkungu" iqale ukuphakamisa, ukuze siqale ukuzibona thina kunye nehlabathi elisijikelezayo ngokucacileyo.
Ukuba siye sagqiba ngokunyanisekileyo amanyathelo amathathu okuqala kwaye senze isigqibo sokuguqula intando yethu kunye nobomi bethu ekunakekeleni uThixo njengoko sasiyiqonda, ngoko lixesha lokubeka loo mgaqo ukusebenza. Sifanele sibone isibindi sokuba sijonge kwaye sizimisele ukuhlambulula indlala esiyifumanayo.
Ukuze siqhubeke, kufuneka siqaphele iingxaki kwaye sifumane umfanekiso ocacileyo wendlela ukuziphatha kwethu kwenzeni thina kunye nabanye abasondelene nathi. Loo mfanekiso awukusoloko ugxininisa kubafundi abasandul 'ukuqala, kodwa njengoko siqhubeka sinyamezela ngamagumbi, ukuphulaphula nokufunda kwabanye, nokugcina ingqondo evulekile, sithola iindawo ezininzi ze "anyanisi" ezihlanjululwayo.
Akukho ziNcediso zeeNkonzo
Asifezekanga, kwaye akusayi kuba khona kulobu bomi. Yingesi sizathu sokungabikho iinkonzo zokugqitywa kweemviwo eziqhutywe kwiintlanganiso ezili-12 !
Kodwa ukuba siqhubeka sithatha inxaxheba, sithwele isigijimi kwabanye, kwaye siphulaphule oko kufuneka babe nesabelo, sinokuqhubeka sikhula kwaye senza inkqubela yokomoya. Yingakho bathi, "Qhubeka Ubuyela!"
Izixhobo zokuncedisa ngokuzimela
Kukho izixhobo ezikhoyo ukukunceda kwinkqubo yesine. Kukho i-4th Step Guide efumaneka kwi-intanethi kuwo onke amalungu amanyathelo angama-12.
Ikhompyutheni ye-4 ye-Intanethi iquka isethi esipheleleyo yezikhokelo ezichaza indlela isikhokelo sisebenza ngayo kunye nesikhumbuzo sokuthi uluhlu luluhlu nje: "Kucelwa ugcine engqondweni ukuba isinyathelo sesine asinakutshintsho nantoni na. , ulula nje izinto. I-inventory yakho ibali nje leembali zakho neempawu zakho ukususela ekuqaleni. "
Isikhokelo se-intanethi sinika ke imibuzo kunye neengcebiso zokuncedisa kwi-inventory ukususela ebuntwaneni, ebuntwaneni kunye nabantu abadala, kunye nekota yokugqibela "apha nangoku."
Ikhompyutheni ye-4 ye-intanethi yiyona ndlela yesikhokelo esicetywayo esilungiselelwe ukuba sincede abo benza isambulelo. Akuhlosiwe ukwabelwana nabani na, kungenxa "kwamehlo akho kuphela," ngokwemiyalelo.
Ukongeza kwikhokelo le-intanethi, i-Al-Anon Iintsapho zeNtsapho inomxholo wayo weNqubekela phambili: Incwadi yesifundo se-Al-Anon yesine Inventory engayalawulwa ngekhompyutheni.
Kodwa uncedo olukhulu olukhoyo ekwenzeni isinyathelo se-4 lufumaneka kumandla amakhulu kunathi, njengoko iindwendwe kwibhodi leengxelo apha kwi-Alcoholism site zibonise kwizabelo zazo kule nyathelo, njengoko ukufundiswa kweeNkolelo ezili-12 kunye ne-12 iNyulo iqhubeka:
Inyathelo 4: Ukuthengwa kwemihla ngemihla
Uninzi lwawo owaziyo ngokusabelana kwam ngoLwesine ebusuku kwiintlanganiso ezili-12, kwandithatha ixesha elide ukuba ndize ndize ndisebenze ngamanyathelo angama-12.
Ndatshelwe nguMncedi wam ukuba konke okufuneka ndiyenze kwakuwusebenze isinyathelo sokuqala ukuya kuso, qhubeka uya kwiintlanganiso, wenze oko ndatshilwayo, kwaye abanye baya kufika ngexesha. Ngokwenza oku ndibe ngandlela-thile ndisebenza ngokuthatha amanyathelo angama-12, kwaye bekuphelile unyaka ngaphambi kokuba ndilahleke intlanganiso.
Ekugqibeleni kwafika ixesha xa ndaqonda ukuba kungcono ukuba ndihambe kwiimanyathelo ezili-12, ngam ukuya kwiintlanganiso ezininzi endazi ukuba ndifuna bani ukunceda ngamanyathelo. Lo mhlobo umhle kakhulu wongamela iindibano ezili-12 zenyathelo, (iiklasi) endiqale ukuya kuzo. Ndahamba kakuhle kwada kwafika kwinqanaba lesi-4 kwaye ndibetha udonga.
Ndandiziva ndibi kakhulu ngezinto ezininzi endizenzileyo ebomini bam, ukuba kwakubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukufumana konke oku kuluhlu. Ekugqibeleni, ngolunye usuku ndabelana ngalokhu nomxhasi wam kwaye wamncenga waza wandibuza apho ndaya khona. Wandixelela ukuba ndiyenze okusemandleni endikwenzayo ngeli xesha kwaye ndiza kuba nexesha elininzi lokwenza okunye. Wandixelela ukuba ndingabethethi kum, (gcina lula) kwaye oku kunjalo nje into endiyenzayo.
Yenza kube lula kakhulu kwaye ngexesha ndakwazi ukujonga kakuhle indlela yokuthatha i-inventory yami yokuziphatha. Emva kokuba sithathe la ma nyathelo akuthethi ukuba senziwe, kwaye akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sihlale senza amanyathelo angama-12 ngokulandelelana. Ndimele ndizenzele imilinganiselo yokuziphatha yam imihla ngemihla yobomi bam. Ndimele ndibuke emva kwaye ndiqinisekise ukuba ndiyathanda oko i-Skip iye yenze.
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Inyathelo 4: Ukunyaniseka
Apha ndisekhona kwisinyathelo 4. Ukhona apha iiveki neeveki kuya kuthatha ukugqiba. Into endiyithethayo endikuncede ngokwenene yayikufumana le mibuzo kumanyathelo kwi-intanethi.
Kufuneka kube nemibuzo eyi-100 apho kwaye ndisengomntwana wobuntwana. Yinto enzima kakhulu ukuba ndiyenze kodwa ndimele ndiyenze oku. Ukuba ndandineminyaka engama-40 ndabuza le mibuzo, kutheni ndiyamthanda uThixo? Kutheni ubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo, elidlulileyo elidlulileyo. Ixesha elidlulileyo liyekile, namhlanje lilapha ngomso kukuba, ithemba lam.
Ndiyabona ngoku kutheni ndimele ndiyenze oku kwaye ndiqhubeke ndiyenza. Umama wayengumnxila kwaye wafa ngo-49, umntakwabo wayedywala waza wafa ngo-48. Amashumi mane anesixhenxe eza kum kwaye andihambi. Ukukhangela kwixesha elidlulileyo kuye kwandenza ndaqonda ngoku ngakumbi kunokuba ndide ndatshata nxila.
Eli nyathelo lilukhuni-le nyathelo ingaba buhlungu - kodwa ndicela ukuba wenze njalo. Iyure enye ngosuku alukho ixesha elide kwaye ubhale iimpendulo kwaye uthembeke kunye nawe kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uThixo unayo ukuba intlungu leyo ifike entliziyweni yakho. Kananjalo ukhumbule ukuba sonke silapha.
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Inyathelo 4: Ulendo
Isinyathelo 4 saqalisa kum njengento eyoyikisayo. Impahla "yokuziphatha"? Ndandinzima nemibandela yokuziphatha kubomi bam ebomini. Ndakuvela kwimvelaphi yonqulo eyayinokuqinileyo, ingqongqo kunye nokuzilungisa. Kwaye inkokeli eyayizimeleyo kwintsapho yayingumfazi odidekileyo kunye namadoda, ngoko akukho nto ndathethayo okanye ndayenzayo, kwana-12 ubudala, yayisondele kwimida yakhe yokuziphatha. Ngoko xa ndandixelelwa ukuba ekugqibeleni ndiza kuthatha iincwadi zokucinga kunye nokungahloneli nto, ndandithandabuza.
Ngoku ukuba uhambe kwiSigaba 4. Umxhasi wam undicele ukuba ndiyenze izinto ezininzi njenge-precursor kwiSigaba 4. Okokuqala, kwafuneka ndiluhlule iimpawu ezilishumi eziziphathekayo malunga nam ndiyithandayo. Emva koko kwafuneka ndiluhlule iimpawu zobuntu ezilishumi malunga nam ndiyithandayo. Olunye uluhlu lwaba bantu abalishumi abandithandayo. Kwafuneka ndifunde lezintlu zonke iintsasa kunye nobusuku beveki ezimbini.
Umxhasi wam uyaqhubeka: Thatha iphepha elisemthethweni. Dweba umgca ngaphantsi kwendawo, uze ufake uphawu phakathi komgca. Oku kwakukho umgca wam ubomi, i-center yayiphakathi kwam ebomini bam (ngeli xesha ndandineminyaka engama-32, ngoko ke uphawu lubonise iminyaka eyi-16). Wandixelela ukuba ndiqale ukwenza amanqaku kumgca ochaza iziganeko ezinkulu ebomini bam.
Emva kokuba ndenzile konke oku, ndikulungele isinyathelo se-4. Umxhasi wam undixhase iHazelden izikhokelo, kodwa andinakukwenza ngaloo ndlela. Emva koko ndaya kwintlanganiso ngolunye uLwesihlanu ubusuku, ngokuyininzi lwaya kubantu abavakalisi ukuba babe ngabaphumelele kwiklasi ye-Chicago AA boot (iindawo zokuhlala ezinkwantya). Ibhinqa lanyuka, latshutshiswa kwimeko ethile eyayisanda kwenzeka, kwaye yamenza ibeke izimvo, ezibandakanya oku: "Ukuba usebenza isinyathelo sesine, indlela efanelekileyo yokuyenza yindlela iNcwadi eNkulu ichaza ngayo ." Ngoku ke kutheni le nto idibene nam andiyazi, kodwa ndagqiba ekubeni ndizame. Kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba ewe ngokwenene, le yindlela eyona ndlela ingcono kum.
Ngoko ke ndaqalisa uhambo lwam lwesine. Ndabhala kwaye ndabhala ndaza ndabhala. Ndenze inkqubela eninzi, kodwa ngelinye ilanga andinakubhala. Ndazi ukuba andizange ndigqibe, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ndifikile eludongeni lwezitena kwaye ndingeke ndiqhubeke. Ndathetha ngako kwiintlanganiso. Ndathetha kumxhasi wam, kodwa wayengenako ukunceda.
Emva koko umhlobo kwiprogram wangimemela kwintlanganiso ye-ACOA. Ndaya kule ntla nganiso, kwaye emva kwemizuzu eyi-10 kuphela udonga lwezitena lwawa phantsi. Ndaphinda ndibhale isinyathelo sam 4 kwaye ndayigqiba kwinye iveki. I-ACOA ivule amehlo am malunga nezinto ezininzi endizikhusele zona.
Ngesigaba sam esine sagqibile, ndandikulungele (okanye ke ndacinga) kwiNyathelo 5.
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