Ngaba wakha waphawula ukuba abanye abantu babonakala bekwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani malunga nabo? Njengawo wonke umntu, banokuqonda amaxesha amahle, kodwa kubonakala ngathi banako ukugxila kwizinto ezilungileyo ebusweni bezinye iziganeko ezintle. Babona okulungileyo kubantu abanobunzima, babona ithuba kwiimeko ezicelomngeni, kwaye bayaxabisa oko banako, nangona balahlekelwa.
Ngaba ungathanda ukwandisa ikhono lakho lokugcina isimo sengqondo esilungileyo ebomini bakho, nangona ubhekene nokukhathazeka okukhulu?
Ngethamsanqa, isimo sengqondo esilungileyo singahlakulelwa, kunye nento encinane. Nangona sizalelwa ngokuthambekela okukrakra, ubuchopho buyi-muscle, kwaye unokomeleza ingqondo yakho yendalo yokuthembela xa usebenza kuyo. Kwaye, ngenhlanhla, ukusebenza ekwakheni "umbulelo wemisipha" kunokuyonwabela ngokwayo. Kodwa izibonelelo ozifumeneyo ziza kukufanelekela umzamo kwanokuba kwakuwumsebenzi onzima, onzima.
Nangona iimeko ezininzi zithembeke ekuxhaseni kwemvakalelo kunye nokuthembela, uphando lubonisa ukuba ukuhlakulela umvakalelo kunokukunceda uhlale unesimo sengqondo esiphezulu kwimihla ngemihla kwaye ube negalelo ekuphumeni kweemeko zentlalo kunye nokuzisa inzuzo yoluntu ngokunjalo. Ukuhlakulela ukubulela ngenye yeendlela ezilula ukuya kwimeko eninzi yokomoya, ukwaneliseka komphefumlo jikelele kunye nolonwabo olukhulu ebomini.
Abantu abanomgangatho omkhulu wokubulela bathe babe nolwalamano oluqinileyo kuba baxabisa abathandekayo babo ngakumbi, kwaye abo bathandekayo, abanomdla wokuba baxabise, banamathuba okwenza ngaphezulu. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abo banolonwabo ngakumbi , balala bhetele , kwaye banandipha uxhulumano obunempilo bahlala bephilile, abantu abanomdla bahlala bephilile.
Ngethamsanqa, ukubulela kungalinywa, kwaye oku kuya kwenziwa ngeendlela ezininzi. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezalandelayo, zama ezinye zezi zifundo ezilandelayo, kwaye kufuneka uqaphele ukwanda okwenziwe kwimvakalelo yakho yokubonga - uya kuzibona uqaphela izinto ezintle ebomini bakho, uhlala ngaphantsi kwiimeko ezimbi okanye ezixinzelelekileyo kunye neemvakalelo 'ukungabikho,' kunye nokuqonda ngakumbi abantu kunye nezinto ebomini bakho.
Yenza izikhumbuzo ezintle
Xa uqaphela uqobo ngokugungquthela ngesiganeko esibi okanye umxinzelelo ebomini bakho, zama ukucinga ngezinto ezine-5 okanye ezi-5 ezinxulumene nazo. Umzekelo, xa uziva unxinekile emsebenzini , zama ukucinga ngezinto ezininzi ozithandayo ngomsebenzi wakho. Unokwenza okufanayo kunye noxinzelelo lobudlelwane, uxinzelelo lwezemali , okanye ezinye izinto ezihamba phambili. Ngakumbi ngokuzikhumbuza ngokukhawuleza ngeempembelelo, ngokuthe kancinci ukutshintsha ekubongeni kunokwenzeka.
Qaphela Ngokuthelekisa
Abantu abaninzi bazibangela uxinzelelo olungadingekile ngokuthelekisa. Ngokukodwa, bazibangela uxinzelelo ngokwenza ukuthelekiswa okungafanelekanga . Bazithelekisa kuphela abo baninzi, benza okungakumbi, okanye bahamba ngokuthe ngqo kwimiba yabo, kwaye bavumela ukuba bazive bengaphantsi kunokuba baphefumulelwe.
Xa uhlakulela ukubonga, unokhetho lwezinto ezimbini xa ufumanisa ukuba wenza okuthelekisayo: Unokukhetha ukuziqhathanisa nabantu abangaphantsi kwakho (okukukhumbuza indlela ocebileyo kwaye unenhlanhla ngayo), okanye unokuvakalelwa lokuba nabantu ebomini bakho abanokukukhuthaza. Ingaba indlela ingakhokelela ekubeni uxinzelelo kunye nomona, kunye nokuvakalelwa kwemvakalelo. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokunciphisa uxinzelelo lweentlalo zoluntu kwi-media media.
Gcina Incwadi Yokubulela
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuhlakulela ukubulela kukugcina iphepha lokubonga . Akukuphela nje ukudibanisa iingenelo zokubhengeza kunye nokwamkelwa okusebenzayo kwengqondo engcono, ushiywe kwikhathalogu enenkumbulo enemihlali kunye neluhlu olude lwezinto ebomini obunombulelo.
(Oku kunokuba kukumangalisayo ukufunda ngexesha apho kunzima ukukhumbula ukuba zezi zinto ziphi.) Ukugcina iphepha lokubonga lilula; ubona le nkcazo yendaba yokubonga ngeengcamango ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokugcina enye.
Ngenxa yokuba iimeko zivame ukubunjwa kwiiveki ezimbini okanye ezintathu, kuya kufuneka ugxininise ekugcineni ukubulela kuncinci njengoko uhambayo, kwaye umkhwa wokuziphatha okuthe tye (kunye nokunciphisa ubunzima) uya kuba yinto ehamba phambili. Kwaye iimvakalelo ezinzulu zentlalo-mpilo zingakho.
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