Ziziphi iingozi zempilo ezihambelana nohlobo lwabantu bakho?
Ingaba uhlobo lwakho lomntu lunokukulimaza, okanye ngokwenene ubuntu bakho kukunceda uphile ubomi obude? Ubuntu bethu budlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuqaliseni iimpawu zethu zokuziphatha kunye nemikhwa, ngoko akumangalisi ukuba uhlobo lomntu lunxulumene nempilo yakho. Yonke into ukususela kwimizuzu emininzi ukutyelela ugqirha ngendlela ojongene ngayo noxinzelelo oluxhomekeke kubuntu bakho.
Abafilosofi, oogqirha kunye nabaphandi baye bazama ukufumana ukudibanisa phakathi komntu kunye nempilo yomzimba. Ngethuba lamaGrike asendulo, uHippocrates kunye noGalen bacebisa ukuba kwakukho ama-humors amane (okanye iintlobo zobuntu) kwaye elowo ludibaniswe neziganeko zokugula ezithile ngokomzimba okanye ngengqondo.
Inzala ngesihloko iqhubeka kulolu suku kwaye uphando lufumene ukuba iimpawu zobuntu zingabalulekanga ezibalulekileyo zezempilo. Olunye uphando lwafumanisa ukuba iimpawu zobuntu ezibonakaliswe ngexesha lobuncinci zixhomekeke kwimpilo enokuzimelela ngexesha lobudala. Akunjalo kuphela, kodwa abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba iimpawu zobuntu zibophelelwe nakwabanye abamakishi bezempilo abalulekileyo kubandakanywa nempilo enomlinganiselo wezempilo kunye nobomi obude.
Ngoko indlela yakho impilo ifuthe ngayo ubuntu bakho? Tshekisisa ngakumbi iintlobo ezimbalwa zobuntu eziqhelekileyo ukufumanisa ukuba unokuba njani impembelelo yempilo.
Uhlobo A
Ubunjani bodidi lwe-A b bubonakala bubunzima-ukuqhuba, ukulawula nokugqibelela. Abantu ababonisa iimpawu zale hlobo yobuntu banomdla wokuncintisana, abanomonde, abanomdla, abanomdla, nabanobudlova.
Uhlobo lwe-A luhlala lubonwa njengabaqhubi abanzima ukuqhuba izinto eziza kuyenza.
Bahlala beziva befuna ukulawula, bobabini emsebenzini nasemisebenzini yabo, kwaye banokufumana iimvakalelo zabo zokuzixabisa kunye neengcinga zabo ngokwabo.
Olu hlobo lomntu luye lube ngumxholo wesithakazelo kuba luqale lwachazwa kuma-1950 kwaye uphando luye lwadibanisa kunye nemiphumo emibi yezempilo. Ezinye izifundo zibonise ubudlelwane phakathi kohlobo lwebomi bohlobo lwe-A kunye nomfutho wexinzelelo, ukunyusa uxinzelelo lomsebenzi kunye nokuzihlukanisa kwezentlalo.
Izifundo ezindala ziphakamisa ukuba kukho udibaniso phakathi kohlobo lwebomi bohlobo lwe-A kunye nesifo senhliziyo, kodwa uphando olulandelayo lucacise ezi ziphumo ngokuhluleka ukuqinisekisa ubungqina. Uhlobo Njengoko ludla ukufumana ubundlobongela obuninzi, uphawu oluye lwabophelelwa kwingozi yobomi beentliziyo.
Uphando lokuqala olwenziwe ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-40 edlulileyo lucacise ukuba uhlobo lwe-A buntu lwaluye lwandisa ubungozi obuninzi bokuphuhlisa i-coronary artery disease. Kodwa uphando olutshanje luchaza ukuba unobungozi wangempela emva kwengozi yokwanda kwentliziyo isenokuthi ihambelana nomsindo nobutshaba.
Ngoko unokwenza ntoni ukunciphisa iingozi zakho zempilo xa unomntu wohlobo lwe-A?
Qonda oku ungatshintsha. Nangona uhlobo lomntu ludibene nokukhathazeka kwezempilo, abanye baye bacetyiswa ukuba kukho izigulana kunye noogqirha abanokuzenza ukuze banciphise le mngcipheko.
Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iingcali zibonisa ukuba utshintsho lomntu lunokwenzeka kwaye nokuba nangona ungatshintshi ubuntu bakho, kukho amanyathelo abagulane abangayithatha ukuze banciphise imiphumo yempilo yobume babo bonke.
Gxininisa kwiimpawu ezimbi ezinxulumene nohlobo lwakho lomuntu. Ukuba unomdla wokuba unamanye amanqaku angabonakaliyo obunjani bohlobo lobuntu, njengentambo yokugxininiswa, inzondo, kunye noluntu, uhlolisise izinto onokukwazi ukunciphisa amathuba akho ekuphuhliseni ingozi yempembelelo kunye nezinye iingxaki zempilo.
Ukusebenza ngokusemgangathweni kwamakhono nokulawula uxinzelelo. Izakhono zokulawula uxinzelelo zingakunceda ufunde indlela yokubhekisana nokubhekisana nokukhathazeka kwimihla ngemihla.
Ukufunda indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo kunye nobutshaba lunokunceda. Kwaye ukukhangela iindlela zokuphucula ukuxhamla kwezentlalo kunokunceda ukuphucula impilo yakho ngoku kunye nakwixesha elizayo.
Ekhokelwa kwakhona
Abantu abanobuntu obunzima, odla ngokubhekiselwe kubo njengoBuntu b, bavame ukukhululeka nokuhamba ngokulula kunabo abahlobo babo bohlobo lwe-A. Ngokuchaseneyo nohlobo lwe-As, uhlobo lwe-B luhlala luxineke kakhulu kwaye lukhuphiswano olungaphantsi. Aba bantu banako ukugxininisa ekwenzeni imisebenzi yokonwabela ukwenza oko kunokuba iqhutywe yimfuneko yokuphumelela, yokuphumelela okanye yokulawula. Oko akuthethi ukuba uhlobo lweB b aluxabisi ukufezekiswa. Basebenza ngokuthe ngqo kwiinjongo zabo kodwa banandipha inkqubo kwaye banamava kakhulu xa bengaphumeleli.
Abantu abanomxholo wobuntu boluhlobo B banokubethwa ngakumbi kwiimisebenzi kunye nezinto ezithandwayo ezibuyiselwe kwakhona kunye nobuchule obuphambili, njengokuba ngumculi, umbhali, umdlali, okanye umgqirha.
Ngoko ke unjani uhlobo lwezempilo oluchaphazelayo kubantu abanabantu obuninzi beBomi B?
Gcina iimpawu zokuziphatha. Ukubekwa kwakhona kungase kuthetha ukuthatha indlela eninzi ye-lackadaisical kwimpilo yakho. Ukukhululeka kunokuba kukukhulu, kodwa ungayekiyo kwimikhwa yakho enempilo.
Gxi ninisa kwizinto ezilungileyo. Uhlobo lwe-B, iindaba zilungileyo kakhulu. Ukuba unalo hlobo lobuntu, mhlawumbi unomngcipheko ophantsi wokuphucula imicimbi enempilo enxulumene nokuxhalabisa. Unomdla wokuzonwabisa, ulungele ukuhlangabezana noxinzelelo, kwaye mhlawumbi unobomi obuhle. Zonke ezi zinto zithetha ukuba awunakukwazi ukufumana iziphumo zempilo ezingekho phantsi kokuxinezeleka, umsindo kunye nokuxhalabisa.
Abantu-Iintle
Abantu abanomnqweno wokuthakazelisa uhlobo lomntu bahlala behlala, bengabonakaliyo kwaye bahambelana . Olu hlobo lomntu lunokuthi lube nempembelelo yempilo kunye neentsilelo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukulangazelela ukukholisa imvelo kuthetha ukuba banakho ukulandela imiyalelo yegqirha.
Uhlobo olubi lwalo bunjani bomntu kukuba ukunyamekela kwazo kuthetha ukuba banokuziva bengenathemba okanye abangenakunceda ekujonganeni nesiganeko sempilo esibi. Kwakhona banokuba bancitshiswa ukuba bafune uncedo xa kukho into engalunganga, kunoko bavakalelwa kukuba abafuni ukuba ngumthwalo okanye ukuphazamiseka kwabanye. Xa bejongene nokuxilongwa, banokuphosa ithawula kwaye bacinge ukuba akukho nto bayayenzayo eya kwenza ukubahluko omkhulu.
Ngoko unokwenza ntoni ukukhusela impilo yakho ukuba unomdla wokuzonwabisa?
Ungazihoyi. Abantu abathandekayo abantu ngezinye iixesha bahlala behlala behlala nabo. Ukuba nolumkelelwano kwabanye kungabonakalisa into entle, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uthathe ixesha lempilo yakho.
Thatha indima ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yakho. Kungaba lula ukucinga ukuba impilo yakho ayikho yezandla zakho, kodwa ukuthatha indawo yangaphakathi yokulawula kunokukunceda uzive ungakumbi ekulawuleni impilo yakho yangoku kunye neyokusasa. Esikhundleni sokugxila kwiimpembelelo zangaphandle ezichaphazela impilo yakho, qwa lasela izinto onokutshintsha ngezenzo zakho.
Ixhalaba
Ukuba uhlala unobuntu obunomdla, unganokuphendula ngokuvakalelwa, ukukhungatheka, kunye nezinye iingcinezelo ezinemiqobo. Ukufumana iimvakalelo ezinzulu kwiimeko ezinzima zobomi ziqhelekileyo. Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba le mpawu ingaba yizinto ezihlukahlukeneyo zokukhathazeka ngokwenyama nangokwengqondo , kubandakanywa nobomi obude. I-neuroticism iye yadibana neengxaki zokukhathazeka jikelele, ukuxinezeleka, ukuphazamiseka kwesifo , ukuphazamiseka komntu kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi.
Uphando oluphando oluthe lwafunyanwa lufumanisa ukuba abo babephakanyiswa kakhulu kwaye bancipha kwezinye izinto ezininzi zeBig Five (i-neuroticism, i-extraversion, ukuvumelanisa, ukuvuleka, unembeza), ngokukodwa abo bangaphantsi kwesazela, bahlala bephilile kunontanga yabo. Abo baphakamileyo kwi-neuroticism banakho ukuba banokufumana iingxaki zempilo ezifana nesifo senhliziyo, isifo sengqondo somzimba kunye nesifo se-asthma.
Ngaba zikho naziphi na izicwangciso ongazilandelayo ukunceda ukunciphisa ingozi yempilo yobuntu obungenayo i-neurotic?
Izicwangciso zokukhusela zinganceda. Ukuba yinto yokukhathazeka ingaba nobungozi bempilo, kodwa ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ubuntu bakho kukuba ungathatha amanyathelo okubandakanya ukunyamekela.
Lawula ixhala. Ukuxhalabisa ngokweqile kunokukhathazeka, ngoko ufumanisa iindlela zokulawula iingcamango zakho kwaye utshintshe iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo ngokubaluleke kakhulu. Amacandelo afana nokuphazamiseka, ukuthetha nomhlobo kunye nokuphucula iindlela zonke kunokuba luncedo xa ufumanisa ukuba unqobe ngeemvakalelo ezingenanto.
Ukuxinezeleka
Uhlobo lwe-D wabonakala kuqala ngowama-1996 kwaye lubonakalisa "iimpawu ezixinzelelekileyo" ezifana nokunyamekela iimvakalelo ezimbi kunye nokungabikho kokuzibonakalisa. Ukuxinezeleka, ukuxinezeleka, ukuxhalaba, umsindo, kunye nesizungu nazo ziyahambelana nomntu wohlobo lweD. Inokuza kunye nemiphumo emibi yempilo.
Ngoko ke yintoni iimpembelelo zempilo ezinokuthi zibe nohlobo lwe-D? Uphononongo olulodwa lucetyiswa ukuba abantu abanezakhono zohlobo lwe-D babesengozini emine yokufa xa kuthelekiswa nalabo baneentlobo zobuntu.
Ngokutsho kwesinye isifundo esashicilelwe kwiphephancwadi : Ukuhamba kweeMpilo kunye neZiphumo , abantu abanalo hlobo lobunzima basenobungozi obuthathu beengxaki zeentliziyo, kuquka ukuhluleka kwentliziyo. Uphando luye lwacebisa ukuba malunga nama-20 ekhulwini ase-Amerika aseMelika anomntu wohlobo lwe-D, ekuqikelelwa ukuba iipesenti ezingama-50 zezigulane ezinengxaki zentliziyo ezibonisa iimpawu zolu hlobo lomntu obandezelekileyo.
Ngoko ke kufuneka uyenze ukwenzela ukunciphisa ubunzima bezempilo bokuba nobuntu be-D?
Thetha nogqirha wakho. Ezinye iingcali zithemba ukuba ukuhlolwa kwezigulane zentliziyo ngenxa yezi mpawu kuya kubavumela oogqirha ukuba badibanise abo basengozini ngokuziphatha nokucetyiswa kwengqondo.
Zisebenzise iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulawula uxinzelelo . Ukuzinceda ngokwenza izinto ezifana nokusebenzisa iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo kunye nokucima iziganeko ukugxila kwiimvakalelo ezintle kunokuba luncedo.
Introverts
Uphando luye lwadibanisa ezinye zezinto ezidumileyo "ezininzi ezinhlanu" kwizifo zomzimba nokugula kwengqondo. Olunye uphando lufumanise ukuba abantu abavame ukugqithiswa , abanokholo , nabamkelekileyo nabo bahlala bephilile. Oku kubangelwe, kwinqanaba, ukuba abantu ababonisa amanqanaba aphezulu kwezi mpawu ezi-Big Five banamathuba okuba bathethe ngokuthe ngempumelelo noogqirha babo.
Uphononongo luka-2009 lufumene ukuba inkxaso yentlalo yayixhomekeke kwimiphumo yempilo yempilo kubandakanya ukuziphatha okunempilo, izakhono zokuhlangabezana kakuhle, kunye nokugcinwa kwimiqathango yonyango. Oogqirha kunye nezinye iingcali zezempilo sele ziqonda ukuba inkxaso yentlalo yoluntu kunye nokudibanisa kunokuba nefuthe elibalulekileyo ekukhuseleni impilo kunye nempilo yengqondo.
Ngoko ke unokwenza ntoni ukuba awuyena umntu ogqithiseleyo?
Yakha inkxaso yakho yentlalo. Nangona udla ukufumana ubuntu obuninzi , ukufuna inkxaso enzulu yoluntu yindlela enye yokuncedisa ubuncipheko bezempilo ezinxulumene nobuntu bakho. Ukungabikho kwenkxaso yoluntu kuye kwadibaniswa nezifo ezininzi eziquka ukuhlaselwa komzimba kunye nokunyuka kwengozi yesifo.
Oko kuthetha konke
Nangona uphando lubonisa ukuba uhlobo lobuntu luba nendima ebalulekileyo kwimpilo nangentlalo-ntle, izifo ezithile ziyakuthi zithinteke kwiimpawu zengqondo. Isifo senhliziyo, umzekelo, sinxulumene kakhulu nomhlobo wobuntu kunomdlavuza.
Ngoko kutheni ubuntu bunempembelelo kwimpilo? Kutheni iimeko ezithile zibophelelwe kwizifo ezithile? Iimpendulo azicaci, kodwa enye inokuba kuchazwa kukuba ubuntu bunokuchaphazela ukuziphatha nokukhetha kwendlela yokuphila. Abantu abanononophelo xa banokukwazi ukwenza ukhetho olunempilo ngelixa abo baphakame kwi-neuroticism banokungenakuncedo ukufumana uncedo lwezonyango okanye abanokuxhaswa kweenkqubo zenkxaso yoluntu.
Ngenxa yokuba uhlala unobuntu obunjani abuyi kukuhlaselwa kwikamva elizayo lokufumana izifo ezithile. Njengokuba kukho izinto ezininzi, umngcipheko wakho ngamnye wokuphuhlisa ingxaki yempilo inokuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo ngaphaya kobuntu bakho, kubandakanya i-genetics, imo, indlela yokuphila kunye nokuziphatha.
Ukuqonda ubunjani bakho bunokuba yindlela ephezulu yokuncedisa ukuba yeyiphi indlela yokhetho lwempilo okanye utshintsho olufunekayo ukuba ugxilise ekwenzeni. Ngokuqaphela izingozi ezinokujamelana nazo, unokusebenza kunye neengcali zokunakekelwa kwezempilo ukuze uphume isicwangciso sokunciphisa ingozi.
ILizwi
Uphando lubonisa ngokucacileyo uxhulumaniso phakathi kobuntu kunye nempilo. Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ubuntu bakho, isimo sengqondo, okanye ukuziphatha okubangela ukugula okanye ukwandisa iimpawu zakho zangoku, xela ugqirha ukuba ufumane iingcebiso malunga nonyango olunokuthi lunokubandakanya i- psychotherapy , unyango okanye ukuzinakekela.
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