Kubantu abangenayo ingxaki enkulu yokusela, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha basela utywala ngamanqanaba angozi okanye ahlaselayo, ukungenelela okufutshane kunokuba yindlela ephumelelayo yokubenza bahlalutye utywala babo kwaye banqande indlela yokusela.
Amacandelo amancinci amancinci afanayo, nangona kunjalo, ayibonakali ukuba isebenzayo kulabo abaneengxaki zokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala .
Yiyiphi Intsingiselo emfutshane?
Amanyathelo amancinci amancinci, iiseshoni zokwenza iingcebiso ngee-one-one ezijolise ekukhuthazeni umntu ukuba aqede iindlela zokusela zokunxila. Ngokungafani nokunyangwa kweziyobisi eziqhelekileyo, ezinokuthatha iiveki kunye neenyanga, ukungenelela okufutshane kufana neeseshoni ezine ezifutshane.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu unikwe izinto zokufunda, ezifana namaphephancwadi, iincwadi okanye iincwadi zokusebenzela, eziqinisa izicwangciso ezichazwe ngexesha lokucebisa. Umcebisi ngokuqhelekileyo ulandelelana nomntu nge-imeyile, i-imeyile okanye umnxeba ukujonga inkqubela yabo kunye nokukhuthaza ngakumbi.
Amanyathelo angenelelo aqhutyelwa ngabaqeqeshi abaye bafumana uqeqesho oluthile kwi-alcohol alcohol or addiction counseling. Abacebisi ngokuqhelekileyo ugqirha, umongikazi, isazi sezengqondo, okanye unontlalontle. Kwizicwangciso zekholeji, abacebisi baontanga abaqeqeshwe nabo baye baphumelela.
Injongo yoNcedo olufutshane
Ukunyangwa kotywala ngokwemveli kugxininiswe kulabo ababaxhomekeke kutywala kwaye banenjongo yokukhuthaza ukuzithiba.
Injongo yokungenelela okufutshane kukufumana umntu ukuba anciphise izinga lokusela okanye atshintshe iphethini eliyingozi lokusela.
Injongo yokungenelela emfutshane kukunciphisa umphumo ongezantsi wokusela komntu. Umzekelo, ungasetyenziselwa ukunceda abafazi abakhulelweyo baphephe umonakalo kumntwana ongakazalwa.
Amanyathelo angenelelo ajongene nokunciphisa iingxaki zonyango ezinxulumene nobisi, ukulimala, ubundlobongela basekhaya, ukuphazamiseka kwemoto, iingxaki zomthetho kunye nezinye iziphumo ezimbi xa kwenzeka umntu esela kakhulu.
Ngubani onokufumana ukungenelela okufutshane?
Nabani na osela ngamanye amaxesha ukuphuza ngokweqile okanye ukusela ngotywala kunokuncedisa ngokungenelela okufutshane. Ukusela utywala kunokufumana iziphuzo ezintlanu okanye ngaphezulu kwiseshoni esisodwa (iziphuzo ezine zamabhinqa).
Ukungenelela okufutshane kunokuba luncedo kunoma ubani oye waba neengxaki zempilo ezinxulumene notywala, ukhulelwe, akhatyelwe kwisiganeko esinxulumene notywala, okanye wabanjwa ngenxa yokuqhuba okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho olunxulumene notywala.
Amaxesha amaninzi abantu abaya kuzuza kwiindlela ezincinci zokungenelela zichongiwe ngokucoca rhoqo kwezokwelapha, usebenzisa izixhobo zokuhlola izilwanyana eziqhelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha bachongwa ngeemvavanyo zegazi ezingabonisa ukusetyenziswa kotywala okanye ingxaki yempilo enxulumene notywala.
Impumelelo
Uphando lubonise ukuba ukungenelela okufutshane kusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo xa kwenziwa ngabanye abagulane bacinga ukuba ngumntu ogunyazisiweyo, umntu athembele kuye okanye umntu oziva ekhululekile kuye.
Ezi zongenelelo ziye zaphumelela kunye nezigulane ezincinane kunye nabadala, kunye namadoda namabhinqa.
Amanyathelo okubandakanya ukulandelelana ngokwabo asebenze ngakumbi kunenelelo lonxibelelwano olulodwa, abaphandi babika.
Ukungenelela okufutshane kuye kwaboniswa ukuba kusebenza xa kuhanjiswa "ngexesha elifundiswayo" ngabaphuza, njengokuba bafumana unyango lwexinzelelo kwisebe elingxamisekileyo okanye xa befumana ingxaki ngomthetho.
Ukungenelela okufutshane malunga nokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kunokunikwa kwiindlela ezilandelayo:
- Izicwangciso zeNtloko : Nokuba uphando lubonisa ukuba iipesenti ezingama-20 zezigulane kwizicwangciso zokunyamekela eziphambili zineengxaki zokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala, ziyafumaneka ukuba zingaphantsi kwama-50 ekhulwini kwexesha. Nangona iipesenti ezingama-88 zamagqirha enyango lokuqala zicela izigulane zabo malunga nokusetyenziswa kotywala, i-13 kuphela ipesenti zisebenzisa iimvavanyo eziqhelekileyo zokuhlola. Nangona kunjalo, ukungenelela kwimeko yokunyamekela ngundoqo kunokusebenza kakuhle. Ngamanye amaxesha ugqirha wosapho luthi nje, "Ndixhalabele ngokusela kwakho" kunenele ukungenelela ukuze umgulane unciphise ukusela kwakhe.
- ISebe eliPhezulu : Ngenxa yeepesenti ezingama-31 zezigulane ezinikezelwa ngophando lwezonyango ezixhamlayo kwiingxaki zotywala kunye nokuba unyango lwentlungu "lunokufundiswa," amasebe angxamisekileyo anika ithuba elifanelekileyo lokujonga iingxaki zotywala kunye nokunikezela ngoncedo olufutshane. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kubantu abadala, abo bobabini bafuna ukunyamekela kwigumbi elingxamisekileyo kwaye banako ukuqhuba ukusela okunobungozi.
- Ukumiswa kokubeletha : Ukukhusela ukuphuza ngexesha lokukhulelwa kubalulekile ekukhuseleni iziphene zokuzalwa. Amanyathelo amancinci asebenze kakhulu kwimimandla engqongqo kuba besetyhini bavame ukukhuthazwa ukuba batshintshe ukuziphatha kwabo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo baneengxaki zokusela zokunciphisa. Ezi zongenelo zisebenza ngokugqithiseleyo xa amadoda abo okanye amaqabane abo athatha inxaxheba nabo.
- INkqubo yoLwaphulo-mthetho : Nangona unenkathazo kunye nomthetho uveza enye "ixesha elifundiswayo" kulabo abaneengxaki zotywala, kukho uphando oluthile olubonisa ukuba ukungenelela okufutshane kusebenza kwezi zicwangciso, xa kuthelekiswa nokunyangwa kwendalo. Olunye uphando lubonise ukuba ukungenelela okufutshane kwasebenza kakuhle kubaqhubi abaxakile abaye baphathwa ngenxa yokudandatheka, kodwa kungekhona kwabo bangenaxinzelelo.
- Izicwangciso zeKholeji : Ngama-44 kwipesenti yabafundi bekholeji yokusela, iikholeji inika amathuba amaninzi okungenelela. Amanyathelo amancinci aboniswe ukuba asebenze kwizicwangciso zekholeji kuba injongo kukunciphisa ukusela, kungekhona ukuyeka ukusela. Ingxaki, ukubonisa uphando, kukuba abafundi abafuna ukunyanzelwa baninzi banokungena inxaxheba kwiingcebiso.
Amanyathelo amancinci aboniswe ukuba luncedo kunye neendleko ezichaphazelekayo kubantu abaneengxaki zokusela zokunciphisa, kodwa kulabo abanenkxalabo yokusela, okanye abo banxilisayo, kufuneka unyango olubanzi.
Imithombo :
ISizwe lesiZwe malunga nokuTywala kotywala nokuNxila. I-Alert Alert No. 66: Ukungenelela okufutshane. 2005.
ISizwe lesiZwe malunga nokuTywala kotywala nokuNxila. Ukunceda iziguli ezinxila kakhulu, Isikhokelo seNtsapho. 2005.