Yintoni kwaye unokunceda njani?
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uve ngelo hlobo lonyango olubizwa ngokuthi i-EMDR esetyenziselwa ukunceda izigulane nge-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) kunye ne-phobias. Eli lonyango olulula kodwa olusebenzayo lisetyenziselwa ukufumanisa ngokukhawuleza uphinde uphilise i-traumas ezidlulileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ngelishwa uninzi lweziza zolwazi kwiwebhu zibonakala zijoliswe kubasebenzi, kungekhona isigulane.
Kukho iindawo ezimbalwa ongahamba kuzo ukuze ufumane inkcazo ecacileyo, elula yolu hlobo lonyango. Ukuze ndizalise le mfuno, ndaphendule kwimigqaliselo yelinye le mibuzo yakho ehlala ibuzwa rhoqo nge-EMDR. Ndabandakanye amabali amabini athunyelwe ngamalungu ethu malunga namava abo kunye naloo unyango ukunika ingqalelo engakumbi kwizinto onokuzilindela. Ukuba unesiseko esibuhlungu okanye izikrakra zemoya oku kungaba yiloo nto okufuneka uyenze ukuyiphilisa.
Yintoni i-EMDR?
I-EMDR imele i-Eye Movement Desensitization ne-Reprocessing. Isetyenziselwa ukuphatha i-PTSD kunye nezinye iingxaki ezifanayo ezifana ne-phobias ngexesha elifutshane.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani?
Akukho mntu uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba njani okanye kutheni kusebenza. Enye ingcamango kukuba iingqondo zethu ezingenangqondo zizama ukusinceda siphumelele imiba enzima ngexesha lethu amaphupha. I-EMDR ifuna ukuphindaphinda ukuhamba kwamehlo okukhawuleza okuphuphayo kwaye ngaloo ndlela vumele umntu asebenze ngemicimbi ngendlela efanayo.
Iyintoni inkqubo enje?
Umzekelo wendlela yeseshoni eya kuhamba ngayo:
Isigulana sizenza sikhululekile. Isigulane kunye neengcali zixoxa ngezinto eziza kusebenza ngazo kule seshoni. Umgqirha uhlala kwicala lomgcini aze abambe iminwe emithathu ephakathi efana kunye neSreet Scout salute, kodwa malunga neesentimitha ezintandathu phambi kwamehlo omguli.
Isigulane siyalwa ukuba silandele iminwe njengoko umgqirha ebahambisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo nangaphambili phambi kwamehlo akhe. Isigulane sizama ukukhumbula isiganeko esithile njengoko ugqirha uyaqhubeka. Yonke inkqubo iqhubeka imizuzu emihlanu apho ixesha lophilo lwezempilo lusehlisa iminwe yakhe. Umonde kunye neengcali ziza kuxoxwa ngezinto ezikhunjulwe.
Ngaba uzive uthanda ukuphupha?
Akunjalo, akusiyo i-surreal njengophuphayo. Ingxelo yomonde iyakwazi ukukhumbula iinkcukacha ezingenakwenzeka ngaphambili, kubandakanywa nemizwa engokwenyama nangokomzwelo abaye bafumana kuyo.
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba isebenze?
Ngokuqhelekileyo unyango lwexesha elifutshane. Izigulane zingase ziqale ukufumana uphumelelo kwiseshoni enye kuphela.
Ngubani umviwa ofanelekileyo we-EMDR?
I-EMDR isetyenziselwa abantu abaye babhekana nohlobo oluthile lomonakalo okanye bane-phobias ezinamandla. Imizekelo yabangenelwayo yilabo baxhatshazwayo, baye bafumana iintlekele zemvelo okanye baye bahlala kwimeko yokulwa.
Abaviwa abalungileyo nabo bazimisele ukuzisa iidemon zabo zangaphakathi emini baze bahlangabezane nazo. Kwakhona kulabo abanomnqweno oqinileyo wokukhululeka kwiindawo ezidlulileyo.
Ndingayifumana njani i-EMDR?
I-EMDR International Association inikezela ngeenkcukacha ezithengiweyo zabagqirha abaqinisekisiweyo ukusebenzisa i-EMDR.
Ndingafunda phi ngakumbi malunga ne-EMDR?
Iinqhagamshelo ezibonelelwe kwibhokisi kwicala lasekunene kweli phepha libonelela ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba lokufunda ngokubanzi malunga ne-EMDR, zombini ukusuka kumbono wobugcisa kunye neengcali.
Xa ndiqala ukudibana noLeeny, ngokukhawuleza ndamthanda. Wayenomdla ogqamile, uthando oluvuthayo kwiintsana zakhe kunye nokufudumala kwangaphakathi okwangenza ndiziva ndilungele ixesha lam kunye naye. Kwakhona wayenentlungu ezolileyo ngaphakathi kwayo eyaboniswa yindlela ayishiya kuyo, kunye nenhlobo ye-cyber ethandwa kakhulu kwigumbi lethu lokuxoxa.
Ndazibuza ukuba yintoni eyenzekayo ukwenza umntu abe noloyiko lokubonisa uthando.
Emva koko uLeeny utyhile ukuba wayexhatshazwa ngabazalwana bakhe njengomntwana. Odadewabo abadala basebenyulwa kwaye badibana naye ukuba unina wabo wathi kubo "abanako ukuzinceda," kwaye "bahlale bephuma endleleni yabo." Wavuma ukuba wayenomncinci okhunjulwayo wobuntwaneni bakhe, ewukhuphe ngokubanzi. Ininzi yento ayeyazi ukuba wayifunde kubodadewabo.
Enye yezinkumbulo ezinzima kakhulu zikaLeeny ngowokuqala wayefuna ukufa ngo-8 okanye 9. Ubeka kuyo ngeli xesha kuba "wayefake isifuba ekhitshini." Uyakhumbula, "Ndathatha isela lokukhanda kwaye ndawubeka phantsi kwe-sternum yam." Ndayazi ukuba intliziyo yam yayingaphantsi kwelo thambo kwaye xa ndiwa phantsi kwakuya kundibulala. Andizange ndiyenze kuba ndiyazi ukuba umama uya kukhwaza kum ngenxa yegazi ekhitshini. "
Xa ekhulile wayengasenakho ulwaphulo-mthetho, nangona kunjalo. Nangona ukuxhatshazwa komzimba kwakuye kumisa ixesha elidlulileyo, wahlala eyedwa kwaye edidekile. Waqala ukusela nokusebenzisa iziyobisi ukuze athulise intlungu ngaphakathi. Uthi, "Kwakuyiminyaka engama-60 kwaye nantoni na yayingumdlalo olungeleyo. Kwakukho iibinge ezahlala iintsuku ngeentsuku." Waqala ukubonakalisa ukungaqiniseki kwakhe ngothando nangothando ngokuziphatha okubi. ULeeny uthi, "Kwakuyi-'enguquko yezocansi. ' Ngobunye ubusuku ndandingakwazi ukulala, ndaqala ukubala abafana bam abahlukeneyo ngokwesini, ndayeka ukubala emva kwe-30.
Ekugqibeleni wabandakanyeka nomntu owayeya kumnika abantwana ababini abasenabo ubomi bakhe. Ngelishwa naye wamnika imivalo eninzi kunye nokuxhaphazwa ngokomzwelo. Xa kufika ixesha lokuba ukuxhaphazwa kwakhe kwachaphazela abantwana bakhe, wenza isigqibo esinesibindi sokuhamba.
Namhlanje uLeeny utshatile indoda echaza ukuba uyayifaneleka "umvuzo weNobel kuncinci." Uhlale ehlangothini lwakhe emagqabini amane kwaye uye wambekezela ngesineke indawo ayifunayo njengoko efika kwikota kunye nokuba ukubonakaliswa kwemiboniso yothando akunazo iintlungu ezilinganayo kunye nokuthotywa.
Njengoko ndayazi uLeeeny, ndabona ukuba wayeqala ngokukhawuleza ukuba amkele i-cyber efanayo ne-pat ehlwini kwaye kungekudala wayenikela kwaye athole ngokukhawuleza. Ndacela omnye wemikhosi yethu ukuba kwenzeke ntoni ukuba enze utshintsho olunjalo kuye. Impendulo yayikuthi uLeeny wayeya kwonyango. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ndifunde oko kwakungekho nje nayiphi na unyango, nangona kunjalo. ULeeny wayefumene uhlobo olutsha lweyeza oluthiwa yi-EMDR.
Nangona uLeeny uthi i-EMDR yayingeyona nto iguqulwa ngayo okokutshintshwa, kuye kwabanceda ukukhazimulisa izinto ezenzileyo kwonyango lwakhe, njengokuba into echaphazelekayo ayifani neentlungu.
Wafunda kwakhona iinkcukacha malunga nobuntwana bakhe. Enye yokwesaba kwakhe, utsho, kukuba wayedukiswe ngabaphengululi bexesha elidlulileyo, ukuba wayengakaze athathwe kakubi. Ngexesha le-EMDR yeseshoni, nangona kunjalo, wakwazi ukukhumbula ezininzi iinkcukacha malunga nokuxhaphazwa kwakhe ngokukhawuleza. Kwakhona wakhumbula into eyayimbuhlungu kunokuba ulwaphulo-mthetho. Emva kokuba unina efumanisa ukuba kwenzeka, waqala ukukhusela iLeeny. Umntakwabo ohlukumezayo waba nefuthe kuye. Oodadewabo abadala abaye baphathwa kakubi, kodwa babengayifumana le mkhuseleko baba nomona kwaye bahluke kuye. Uthi ngeli xesha ebomini bakhe, "Ndakuba yeso siqithi elwandle loluntu endifuna ukuba ndiyamthanda kakhulu". Uthi: "Ndandifuna ukuba uthando kunye nobudlelwane bezalamane kangangokuthi ndiza kuvuyisa ngokudlwengula ixesha elide umzimba wam wawudinga.
Nangona uLeeny wenza ezinye izinto ezibuhlungu, uye waqala ukuphilisa kwaye akazisoli. Uchaza i-EMDR ngokuthi "inonyango ekhululekileyo endiyifumene nayo kwiminyaka engama-8 ukususela ekuqaleni kokuba ndiqale lohambo lokubuyela ehlabathini 'Njengokuba isondele ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka.'" Mhlawumbi isibonakaliso esibaluleke kakhulu sokuphilisa kwakhe okutsha inyaniso yokuba uye wazinikela ngokuzithandela ukuba abe ngumqeqeshi kwiProgram yokuFunda abantu abadala. Undixelela ukuba, "Inqwenela kakhulu kukuba ngenxa yendlela encinane ndiya kunika umntu amandla kunye nolonwabo lokufunda. Akukho nto embi kumntu ongashiyanga indlu ngokuzithandela iminyaka ngaphandle kokuba kubekwe isigqirha sikagqirha okanye ukuthenga ukutya kunye nomyeni wam. " Leeny, ndiyaziqhenya kakhulu kuwe. (((((((((((Leeny)))))))))))
Uyakwazi u-Eponine njengomninimzi kwigumbi lethu lokuxoxa. Ibali lakhe lihluke kakhulu kwiLeeny's. Unayo i-PTSD ngenxa yeziganeko ezimbini ezibalulekileyo ebomini bakhe abadala: ukubulawa komhlobo osondelene kakhulu kulandela ngokuzibulala komnye umhlobo othandekayo. Usizi lwakhe oludlulileyo ngalezo zimbini zobundlobongela, ukulahlekelwa ngumonakalo kwamshiya izibonakaliso zesibetho sokuhlaselwa , ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiki , ukunyamezela okukhulu kunye nokudandatheka okukhulu kangangokuba akazange akwazi ukugubha nangona unyango lwamaxesha , amaqela axhasayo kunye namayeza . Ekugqibeleni wavuka isibindi sokuqala i-EMDR.
U-Eponine uchaza i-EMDR ngokuthi "yinto epheleleyo." Uthi, "Kwathatha iiseshoni ezi-ezine ukuya ezintandathu ukungafuni ukungabonakali kuzo zonke izibilini, ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiki, ukuhlanza, njl njl. Eza kuza kunye ne-PTSD kunye nokufa kwakhe. Andikwazi ukucacisa ngamazwi indlela oku kusebenza ngayo, kodwa ndikuxelela ukususela entliziyweni yam ukuba namhlanje ndikwazi ukuqala ubomi bam ngaphaya, kubonga kwi-EMDR. " Uqhubeka wongezelela, "Ndakwazi ukuya kwindawo yokufa kwakhe, ndisala i-roses yellow, phantsi kwam, ndifake ukuvalwa, kwaye ndivale ngoku kufa okungekhona kuphela kuye, kodwa leyo nxalenye yafa nayo. "U
Nangona i-EMDR isebenze izimangaliso ekuphiliseni kwakhe, u-Eponine uyavuma ukuba kwakungelula ekuqaleni. Uthi, "Ndandisoyika kakhulu xa ndihamba ngena eofisini ukwenza iseshoni. Ndandidaniswe, ndothuswa, ndonwabile, ndikhungathekile, kwaye ndandiphazamiseka."
Kodwa iseshoni yokuqala yahamba kakuhle, nangona kunjalo, kwaye waqala ukusebenza kunye nomlopheli wakhe ukucwangcisa ezinye iindawo ebomini angayisebenzisayo. U-Eponine uthi ukholelwa ukuba ukuba uziva "unamathele" kwindawo ethile kukuba kukuba udibene ngandlela-thile. Enye yamandla e-EMDR kukuba kukunceda ukhumbule iimpawu ezilibalekileyo kwaye ufumane isiseko sokwesaba kwakho.
Enye yeeseshoni zakhe zokuqala yayisetyenziselwa ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni ukwesaba ngesondo. Lo mbandela wayemde udidekile ngenxa yokuba wayengazange ahlaselwe ngokwesondo.
Xa ehamba ngeseshoni wafunda izinto ezintle. Njengomntwana wayexhomekeke kwiinkalo ezincinane zokuhlinzwa ngaphandle kwe-anesthesia. Le nto yayiyimbangela yokwesaba kwakhe. Iseshoni enye yintsebenzo enjalo kuye, ithi, "Ndakwazi ukubuyela ekhaya ukuya kumsondeza kwaye ndabelana ngomzuzu omhle kakhulu wobomi bam." Ungezelela, "Andizange ndikholelwe ukuba iseshoni enye ye-EMDR yatshintshile ubomi bam." Andizange ndothuka, andiyikrokra, andizange ndibe nomnxeba. ..okokuqala."
U-Eponine ugqiba ngokuthi, "I-EMDR yindlela ekhuphayo kwaye enamandla kakhulu, kodwa isebenza.Uxolo olunzulu luvela EMDR kum, kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba unokufumana uxolo."