Ngaba ulawula ukuphela kwakho?
I-Locus yokulawula ibhekisela kumlinganiselo abantu abavakalelwa ngayo ukuba balawula iziganeko ezichaphazela ubomi babo. Xa ujongene nomngeni ebomini bakho, ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba ulawula isiphumo? Okanye ukholelwa ukuba wena nje usezandleni zamandla angaphandle?
Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ulawula oko kwenzekayo, ngoko unayo izazi zeengqondo zibhekisela njengendawo yangaphakathi yokulawula.
Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba awukwazi ukulawula oko kwenzekayo kwaye ukuba iziganeko zangaphandle zisohlwayo, ngoko unayo into eyaziwa njengendawo yokulawula yangaphandle.
Indawo yakho yokulawula ingathinteli nje kuphela indlela ophendula ngayo kwiimeko ezenzekayo ebomini bakho, kodwa kunye nesishukumisayo sokuba uthathe isenzo. Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ubambe izitshixo ekupheleni kwakho, unako ukuthatha inyathelo ukutshintsha imeko yakho xa kuyimfuneko. Ukuba ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukholelwa ukuba isiphumo siphuma ezandleni zakho, usenokuba nzima ukusebenzela utshintsho.
Iyiphi indawo yokulawula?
I-locus yokulawula isiqhelo kukukholelwa malunga nokuba iziphumo zezenzo zethu zixhomekeke kwinto esenzayo (ulawulo lwangaphakathi lolawulo) okanye kwiziganeko ezingaphandle kolawulo lwethu lomntu siqu (ulawulo lwangaphandle lolawulo), "kuchaza isazi seengqondo uFilipu Zimbardo kwincwadi yakhe ye- Psychology ka- 1985. noBomi .
Ngowe-1954, isazi sengqondo seengqondo uJulian Rotter sicebisa ukuba ukuziphatha kwethu kwakulawulwa yimbuyekezo kunye nezohlwayo kwaye ukuba yile miphumo kwizenzo zethu eziye zazimisela zethu iinkolelo malunga nezizathu ezibangela ezi zinto.
Iinkolelo zethu malunga nezinto ezibangela ukuba izenzo zethu ziphembelele iimpawu zethu zokuziphatha nokuziphatha.
Ngowe-1966, i-Rotter yashicilela isilinganisi esenzelwe ukulinganisa nokuvavanya indawo yangaphandle yangaphakathi. Isilinganisi sisebenzisa ukunyanzeliswa kokunyanzeliswa phakathi kweendlela ezimbini, ezifuna abaphenduliweyo ukuba bakhethe enye yezinto ezimbini kwinto nganye.
Nangona isixa sisetyenziswe ngokubanzi, kuye kwaye kwaba yinkxalabo yokugxeka kakhulu kwabo ba kholelwa ukuba i-locus yokulawula ayikwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo okanye ilinganiswe ngolu hlobo olulula.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba indawo yokulawula iqhubeka. Akukho mntu une-100 yeepesenti yangaphandle okanye yangaphakathi yokulawula. Kunoko, abaninzi abantu balala kwindawo ethile ekuqhubekeni kokuphakathi kwezi zibini.
Abo baphethe indawo yangaphakathi yokulawula
- Ngaba banako ukuthatha uxanduva kwizenzo zabo
- Yenza ukuba ungathinteli phantsi kwezimvo zabanye abantu
- Ngokuqhelekileyo benza ngcono kwimisebenzi xa bavumelekile ukuba basebenze ngesantya sabo
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, ube neqondo elinamandla lokuzimelela
- Tend ukusebenza kanzima ukufezekisa izinto abazifunayo
- Uziva unesiqinisekiso ekujongeni nemingeni
- Zenza ukuba ube nempilo
- Ingxelo ibonwabile kwaye ikhululekileyo
- Ngokuqhelekileyo impumelelo enkulu kwimisebenzi
Abo Baphethe I-Locus yangaphandle yolawulo
- Ukugxeka amabutho ngaphandle kweemeko zabo
- Ngokuqhelekileyo inhlanhla yesikweletu okanye ithuba lokufumana nayiphi na impumelelo
- Abakholelwa ukuba banokutshintsha imeko yabo ngemizamo yabo
- Ngokuvakalelwa kukuba abanakho ithemba okanye abangenamandla xa bejamelene neemeko ezinzima
- Zikulungele ukufumana ukungaxhaswa kokufunda
Iyiphi indima i-locus yakho yokulawula edlala kuyo ebomini bakho?
I-locus yolawulo ngokuqhelekileyo isetyenziswa ngokuchanekileyo ngokuthi "ukuzimela" kunye "ne-agency". Uphando lucebise ukuba amadoda athambekele ekubeni neendawo zangaphakathi zokulawula kunabasetyhini kwaye i-locus yokulawula ihlala ibe yangaphakathi xa abantu bekhula. Iingcali zifumene ukuba, ngokubanzi, abantu abaneendawo zokulawula zangaphakathi bavame ukuba ngcono.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ngaphakathi ahlale esilingana "okuhle" nangaphandle akusoloko elingana "okubi." Kwezinye iimeko, indawo yangaphandle yokulawula ingaba yinto entle, ingakumbi ukuba izinga lomntu wolwazi kwindawo ethile lomelele kakhulu.
Ngokomzekelo, umntu owoyikisayo kwimidlalo unokuziva ecinezelekile okanye uxhalabe malunga nokusebenza kwabo ukuba benendawo yokulawula yangaphakathi. Ukuba umntu ucinga, "Ndiyingozi kwimidlalo kwaye andizame ngokukhawuleza," banokuziva becinezelekile kwiimeko apho bafuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiimidlalo, ezifana neklasi yezemfundo. Ukuba lo mntu uthatha ingqwalasela yangaphandle ngexesha le mi sebenzi ("Umdlalo unzima kakhulu!" Okanye "Ilanga limehlweni ami!"), Mhlawumbi baya kuziva bekhululekile kwaye bancinci.
Ngaba Unayo yangaphandle okanye i-Locus yoLawulo?
Uphi indawo yakho yokulawula ewela kwi-continuum? Funda ngeengxelo ezingezantsi uze ukhethe isethi esichaza kakuhle indlela ojonga ngayo ebomini:
Outlook 1
- Ndisoloko ndivakalelwa kukuba andinakulawula kakubi ubomi bam kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kum.
- Abantu abafaneli bafumane oko bafanelwe.
- Akufanelekanga ukubeka iinjongo okanye ukwenza izicwangciso kuba izinto ezininzi zinokuthi zenzeke ngaphandle kolawulo lwam.
- Ubomi ngumdlalo wamathuba.
- Abantu abanefuthe elincinci kwiimeko zehlabathi.
Ukuba iinkcazo ezingentla ngentla zibonisa imbono yakho ebomini, mhlawumbi unomdla wokuba ulawulo lwangaphandle.
Outlook 2
- Ukuba usebenza nzima kwaye uzibophelele ekujoliswe kuyo, unako ukuphumeza nantoni na.
- Akukho nto enjengokuphela kwexesha okanye isiphephelo.
- Ukuba ufunda nzima kwaye ulungiselelwe kakuhle, unokwenza kakuhle kwiimviwo.
- Inhlanhla ayinanto yokwenza impumelelo; ngokuyininzi umcimbi wokuzinikela kunye nomgudu.
- Ekuhambeni kwexesha, abantu bathambekele ekufumaneni into abafanelwe ngayo ebomini.
Ukuba iinkcazo ezingentla zibonisa indlela ojonga ngayo ebomini, ngoko ke unakho indawo yokulawula yangaphakathi.
ILizwi
Indawo yakho yokulawula ingaba nefuthe elibi ebomini bakho, ukusuka kwindlela ojamelana ngayo noxinzelelo kwi-motivation yakho yokuthatha uxanduva lobomi bakho. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuba neendawo zangaphakathi zokulawula kungenza into enhle. Kuthetha ukuba ukholelwa ukuba izenzo zakho zinempembelelo. Ukuba unomdla wokufumana indawo yangaphandle yokulawula, unokufumana kukunceda uqale ukuzama ukutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo imeko neemeko. Endaweni yokuba uzibukele nje ngokuba ngummeli ongenamdla obanjwe ekuphumuleni komphefumlo, cinga ngezenzo ozithathayo eziya kuba nefuthe kwisiphumo.
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