Ukulahla kuqhube ngokujulile ngale ndlela yoTywala
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ngezidakwa ezinxilisayo, abahlali abangenamakhaya abalahlekelwe yiyo yonke into, kodwa kukho abantu abahlangabezana nemigangatho yokuxilongwa kwezokwelapha ngokuxhomekeka kotywala osebenza kakhulu kuluntu kwaye banemisebenzi yabo, amakhaya kunye neentsapho. Olu hlobo lophuza lubizwa ngokuba ngumtywala osebenzayo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba baphelelwe umsebenzi kunye nezinye izibophelelo ngenxa yokusela kwabo, nangona kwenzeka njalo ngezinye iinkcukacha, kwaye baqhele kakhulu kwimisebenzi yabo kunye nemisebenzi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, banobuqili kunye nabantu abaqinileyo abaphumelele kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi babo. Kubo bonke ngaphandle kwabo bafuphi kakhulu kubo, banikezela ukubonakala kwangaphandle ngokuqhelekileyo.
Ukulahla Kuyingxaki Enkulu
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba izidakwa zifuna uncedo kwiingxaki zabo zokusela ziphumo ezibi zokugqibela kotywala kwabo. Xa intlungu okanye uhlazo luba lubi ngokwaneleyo, abanakuphika ukuba ukusela kwabo kufuneka kulungiswe.
Ngenxa yokusela utywala, umsebenzi wokukhanyela uhamba ngokujulile, kuba ahlangane nemiphumo engaphandle. Baya emsebenzini rhoqo imihla. Abazange bahlupheke ngemali. Abazange babanjwe. Akunayo ingxaki!
Kodwa ngokwenene Kuyingxaki
Umnxila otywalayo utywala kakhulu utywala njengoko kunanoma yiyiphi "inxilisayo" eselinxila, ababonisi nje iimpawu zangaphandle zokuxila. Oku kungenxa yokuba baye bahlakulela ukunyamezela kotywala kuze kube yinto yokuba kuthatha okungakumbi ukuba bazive iimiphumo ( kubandakanywa neengcango ).
Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka baphuze iimali ezikhudlwana ukwenzela ukuba bafumane efanayo "buzz" abayifunayo.
Ukwakhiwa kancinci kokunyamezela utywala kuthetha ukuba utywala obusebenzayo uphuza kumanqanaba angozi anokubangela umonakalo ochaphazelekayo otywala, ukukhubazeka kwengqondo kunye nokuxhomekeka kotywala. Abaphuzi bexesha elidlulileyo abanokubonisa ukunyamezela okusebenzayo kwinqanaba abonisa iimpawu ezimbalwa ezibonakalayo zokuxhatshazwa kwimiba ephezulu yegazi, apho abanye bengenako ukukhubazeka.
Ngaba Utywala?
Ngaba ngaba unokuba ngumnxila nangona uqhubeka usebenza kakuhle kuluntu? Ngaba ukusela kwakho kunokunyuka kwenyuka kangangokuba uye waba ngumxhesheli otywala ngaphandle kokuba wazi? Thatha i-Alcoholism Screening Quiz.
Ngaphantsi kwiprofayili yendlela yokuziphatha yobunxila obuqhelekileyo. Qaphela ukuba kukho naziphi na izenzo ezibonakala ziqhelekileyo. Le phrofayili yintombi, kodwa iimpawu ezifanayo zifana neendoda, kunjalo. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba "utywala osebenzayo" akusiyo isigxina sezempilo okanye isigxilongo.
- Usela Njengaye Ekholeji : Xa wayesekholejini, wayengowokuqala ukufika kunye nokugqibela ukushiya iplanga. Wayenokusela wonke umntu "phantsi kwetafile." Uninzi lwabahlobo bakhe lwagqitywa, lwaba luye lwayeka ukuhamba. Ngoku sele ephakathi kweminyaka engama-30, uhlala esela njengomntu omtsha osuka ekhaya okokuqala.
- Uyakwazi Ukubamba Umtywala: Unako ukusela kakhulu okanye ngaphezulu kunanoma ubani, kodwa akafaneki atyhuse. Ngokuqhelekileyo uyaqhaqhayisa okanye adibanise intetho yakhe. Unomngcipheko "onxilisayo," kungeyonto engathandekiyo okanye ekulweni xa ephuza.
- Oyokuqala kwiBar: Usebenza kakhulu emsebenzini, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa umsebenzi usuphelile, ngowokuqala kwibha okanye wenza isiselo ngokukhawuleza xa ehamba ekhayeni lakhe ukuba "aguqulwe." Mhlawumbi ukusela izibini zokuqala ezimbini okanye ezintathu zokukha amanzi ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ngesizathu esithile kufuneka ukuba angalindelekanga ngokukhawuleza emsebenzini, unokuphazamiseka okanye ucaphuke.
- Ukusela Kuyinxalenye Ebalulekileyo Yobomi Bakhe : Uthetha ngokusela kakhulu kwaye udla ngokubangela amaqela e-ofisi kunye nokusela ukuhlangana emva komsebenzi. Uyaziqhayisa malunga nokuphuza kwakhe kwiblogi yakhe kwaye ezininzi iimifanekiso kwi-albhamu yakhe yezithombe zithathwa kwiindawo zokuhlala. Ujwayele ukuphepha iziganeko apho kungekho luphuzo olukhoyo. Uthenga ubukhulu bezoqoqosho kwaye uhlale eqinisekisa ukuba kukho "okwaneleyo" utywala obukhoyo.
- Iintlanzi Ngokusela Kwakhe : Uhleka ngokusela kwakhe kunye nokuphuza iziqholo ngeentlanzi ezinjengokuthi, "Ndixakwe, utywala baya kwiintlanganiso." Ihlazi lizama ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukusela kwakhe kukukhetha. Emva koko, abatywala benene bayaphika ukuba baneengxaki, kunjalo? Nangona ejongene nesixa esiphuzayo, ke, unokuzikhusela, uxhaphaze okanye ulwa nesibindi.
- Abahlobo Abangayithobeli Iimpawu: Ngenxa yokuba uthanda kakhulu kwaye uyamthanda, okanye mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba usemagunyeni, abo bajikelezileyo nabo bayamhleka. Kodwa ngasese, bayazi ukuba unengxaki. Bathetha emva kwakhe. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ujongana ngqo ngokusela kwakhe.
- Uqala Ukujonga Iimpembelelo: Nangona eqhubeka esebenza, kuqala ukuba nzima ukwenza. Uqala ukuqaphela iimpawu zokulahla xa engaphuzanga, njengento yokugubha okanye ukukhathazeka. Unenkqubela yeememori eziqhelekileyo. Udinga ukuzenzela ngaphezulu ukugubungela ubuso bakhe obushushu, i-gallish pallor okanye iindidi ezimnyama. Ukuphuza kwakhe ukuphuza i-antics kuya kuba yingozi kakhulu, iyingozi okanye ihlazo.
Isigaba esiyingozi seZifo
Ngelishwa, nangona xa izidakamizwa ezisetyenziswayo ziqala ukuqaphela ukuba zineengxaki zokusela, ziyaqhubeka zifuna ukufumana uncedo. Ngexesha abavuma ngayo ingxaki, iimpawu zabo zokurhoxisa - ezinokuqala emva kweeyure ezimbalwa emva kokusela kwabo bokugqibela-zingaba nzima ngakumbi.
Basenokuzama ukuyeka zabo, kodwa ukuhoxiswa akubi kakhulu okanye kunzima. Ngoko ke, bayaqhubeka besela ukugcina ukuxothwa kweekhefu kwaye ujikelezo luqhubeka.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa kuphela ukuphuza ukuphuza kuya kuba buhlungu ngakumbi kunokuba bahlelwe intlungu yokuphuza utywala , baya kufikelela ekuncedeni. Kodwa akumele kube njalo. I-detoxification yonyango inikeza unyango, iivithamini, kunye nokutya ukuze kuncedise ukunciphisa inkqubo yokuhoxiswa. Uncedo lukhoyo.
Imithombo engeyonyango:
Parnegg, JS. "Ukusetyenziswa kotywala." Inkqubo yeCawa yeNkxaso yeCawa: Ukubuyisana. Amasebe okubuyiswa kweCawa ye-Episcopal.