Izinyathelo ezi-8 zokuHlanganisa i-One-on-One okanye I-Intervention Group
Ukuba nomntu othandekayo onxilisayo unokuba yintlungu kunye nefuthe. Uyazi entliziyweni yakho ukuba umntu ufuna uncedo, kodwa yonke imizamo yokubakhuthaza ingadibana nomsindo okanye ukunganakwa. Ngaphezu koko, ngaphandle kokuba kubekho ingxaki apho kuthiwa ngamapolisa-afana ne-DUI, ingozi yemoto, okanye ukutywala kunye nokungaxilwanga ngokungafanelekanga-akukho nhlobo indlela yokunyanzela umtywala ukuba abuyele kwakhona.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele ulinde i-nkathazo eyenzeka ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isenzo. Ngokutsho kweNational Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, kukho izinto ezisibhozo onokuzenza ukuze uncede utshintshe utshintsho kumntu omthandayo ofuna uncedo:
1. Yeka yonke imizamo yokuhlangula.
Amalungu entsapho kaninzi azama ukukhusela umtywala kwimiphumo yokuziphatha kwakhe ngokuzibangela abanye abantu okanye kumncedisa umntu ngokuxhamla kwiintlanzi ezinxulumene notywala. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuncedisa utywala, kubalulekile ukuba unqume yonke imizamo yokuhlangula ukuze umntu anakho ukuthwala ubunzima obupheleleyo kunye noxanduva lwezenzo zakhe. Ngaphandle kokwenza oku, akukho nto inokubakhokelela ekutshintsheni.
2. Ixesha lakho lokungenelela.
Cwangcisa ukuba nenkulumo yakho kungekudala emva kwesiganeko esinxulumene notywala. Kungenzeka emva kwengxabano yentsapho apho kubandakanywa ukusela okanye ingozi apho umntu ehlazeka ngayo. Kwakhona, khetha ixesha xa unesimo sokuhlala esicacileyo sengqondo kwaye ungathetha ngasese ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa.
3. Yiba yinto ecacileyo.
Tshela ilungu lentsapho ukuba uxhala malunga nokusela kwakhe kwaye ufuna ukuxhasa ukufumana inkqubo yonyango . Yenza isiphakamiso sakho ngemimiselo yendlela ukuphuza komntu kubangelwa ngayo ubuhlungu okanye ubudlelwane obunobungozi. Yenza njalo ngaphandle komsindo okanye umgwebo, kodwa ungadani ukuthetha oko kufuneka ukuba kuthethwe.
4. Yichaza imiphumo.
Tshela ilungu lentsapho ukuba ude ufumane uncedo, uya kuqhuba imiphumo ethile.Ingabandakanya ukungala umntu ukungena endlwini ukuba uphuze okanye uphume ngokupheleleyo endlwini. Musa ukwenza nayiphi na isongelo ongazilungele ukuyenza.
Ngaphezu koko, xelela othandekayo ukuba awuzami ukwenza isigwebo kodwa ufuna ukuzikhusela kwimiphumo eyingozi yokusela.
5. Yilungele ukwenza.
Hlanganisa ulwazi kwangaphambili malunga neenkqubo zonyango zendawo okanye izibonelelo zokuvuselela. Ukuba umntu uyavuma ukufumana uncedo, biza ukuba uqeshwe ngokukhawuleza kunye nomcebisi wonyango. Ukunikezela ukuhamba nomntu othandekayo ukuba abuyele okanye kwiintlanganiso zokuqala ze- AA .
6. Biza kumhlobo.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho enqaba ukufumana uncedo, cela umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho ukuba athathe inxaxheba. (Oku kunceda kakhulu ukuba umntu uphinde aphuze utywala.) Izihlandlo ezininzi, ukukhuthazwa kumntu wesithathu onenkathalo kunye nokungazigwebi kunokukwenza konke ukuma kwihlabathi. Ekugqibeleni, ukungenelela kungadinga ngaphezu komntu omnye okanye ngaphezulu kwesinye isiganeko.
7. Khangela amandla ngamanani.
Ezinye iintsapho zinokukhetha ukulungelelanisa ukungenelela ngoncedo lweengcali zengcali .
Nangona le ndlela ingaba yinkqubela, kufuneka ihlolwe kuphela phantsi kokhokelo lwabagqirha abanamava ekuququzeleleni ukungenelela kweqela.
8. Ukuxhasa kwakho.
Ingaba okanye ongeyena umthandayo ufuna uncedo, unokufumana inkuthazo nenkxaso yabanye kwimeko yakho. Amacandelo enkxaso afumaneka kwiindawo ezininzi zoluntu, kuquka uAl-Anon , ogcina iintlanganiso rhoqo kunye nabanye abadala kwindawo yobomi bokunxila, kunye ne-Alateen, ngokukhethekileyo kubantwana bezonxila.
La maqela anokunceda amalungu omndeni aqonde ukuba ayenawo uxanduva lokusela utywala kunye nokuba kufuneka athathe amanyathelo okuzinyamekela ngaphandle kwazo ukuba utywala ufuna unyango okanye cha.
> Umthombo:
> ISiko leSizwe malunga nokuTywala noTywala. "Unyango lweengxaki zoTywala: ukufumana nokufumana uncedo." EBethesda, eMaryn; hlaziywa ngo-2014.